Who is the leader in relationships? Man, Woman, or Both?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That's like asking which is the best flavor of ice cream. It depends on the people involved. Some guys want a woman to lead, or be dominant in a relationship, and there's nothing wrong with that.

But we have to keep in mind what men and women are attracted to and value in each other. The masculine ideal (to women) is a strong, confident, capable, successful, charismatic, paternal man. Guys like that have dominant personalities, because dominance is part and parcel of that personality type. The odds of a guy like that being ok with a dominant woman are slim to none.

The feminine ideal, on the other hand, is nurturing, loving, maternal, family oriented, and yes, submissive. That's what quality men want, not a man with a vagina.

So the answer to this questions depends on the individuals in the relationship. A man who has the qualities and characteristics most women desire is going to be dominant by nature. And a woman who has the qualities and characteristics most men desire is going to be more submissive.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

If there's a cat, it's the cat! Even the dog knows that. Otherwise, it's a tossup between the two. Usually, the woman. Why? They are always right, except for the rare scenarios where they aren't.

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

A leader for what?

I see relationships as a partnership. You're teaming up with someone against the world.
I would prefer it to be both.

You know.
When playing doubles badminton, you move around the court depending on where the ball hits and where the partner stands. Is one down in the lower corner, the other would get ready to take the other opposite side to cover for the rest. It's dynamic movement.
I see a relationship like that.

But there's different dynamics in each relationship.
With my parents, my mom is the leader. She takes care of everything, manages everything.
Doesn't mean my dad doesn't do anything. He handles what happens outdoors. Takes care of the cars and such.
But my mom takes a huge load, she's the one you call when you need help.
She's I'm charge of the finances, takes care of everyt

AsaKyo · Accepted Answer

Personally, I think the guy should be the leader, but an equal partnership is good too, I guess

coachTanthony · Answer

@spokentruth ain't wrong

robbo · Answer

Yeah this is something I wonder. Leadership is a masculine trait…. And masculine is yang, and feminine is yin. And there’s always a little yang in the yin, and a little yin in the yang. I mean I feel like men lead in the physical, and women often lead in the non physical things that are hard to verbalize and quantify. And because we live in a a physically dominated world at the moment, it only sees the value in where the man has leader ship capabilities…….. hmmm that’s the best I got at the mmoment.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it should be equal but personally I'm cool with the guy being the leader. I've had a sheltered life and my parents enabled me by doing everything for me. I don't really know how to survive on my own, I feel like a helpless female. So if I were to get married I would like my husband to be the leader and make the important decisions but also teach me since I don't know how to do it myself so the burden isn't always on him. But I find it really sexy when the guy is the leader in the relationship however I wouldn't appreciate it if he's controlling and manipulative obviously lol. A kind leader that doesn't treat me like I'm his property is what I'm saying.

SpokenTruth · Answer

It's suppose to be God leading the Church the Church leading the man the man leader of the house woman is leader of the children. That is the so called patriarchy that women want to remove which isn't a patriarchy it's God's natural order.

TenderFantasy · Answer

Should be both otherwise it's one sided and not fair. Someone will NOT be happy (they'll be angry) and the relationship will eventually crumble.

Msputiton · Answer

Each relationship is unique. Some the men will be the leader. Some the women will be. Some they are equal. It all depends on what best works for each couple

MCheetah · Answer

It depends on the relationship. But traditionally, it's been men.

BrightBubblyKat · Answer

Women pursue men first. Making it seem like it’s their idea. Women tell men what they want and men do it.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

depends on the couple but it's usually the guy or equal in most relationships.

MementoMori_ · Answer

Believe what you may but the one with the pussy rules. It is the WMD in the war on power in a relationship, and SHE owns it.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

It’s up to each couple to decide who takes the reigns.

alcorriher · Answer

i think that theman is supposed to be the head of the house, but thats just what i grew up believing & seeing from my folks!

JosyJosy · Answer

Whoever wants to lead after discussing it with the partner.

es20490446e · Answer

If you want the same, you do. If you don't, everyone does their own.

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

society or nature, the world, reality, dictates that its the supposed to the mans job, mans role

moviedude714 · Answer

Society and culture are just nature dictates that it has to be the man

loveslongnails · Answer

Depends on the culture and the finances, one would think.

Anonymous · Answer

Most women are very controlling in relationships over the partner because they love having the power 🔋

driven159 · Answer

should be both but seams over time one takes the lead

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Every couple has its dynamic. All three options happen and make the people involved happy.

jimmy2 · Answer

God charged the man to be and he has all the responsibility to bless his wife and children

Nikki1989 · Answer

Ideally it should be equal.

EmmaMary · Answer

Within our marriage it is totally 50/50.

Iron_Man · Answer

Depends on your relationship

Akam93 · Answer

Both. If you let a woman lead you will regret it.

mamuma02 · Answer

Bothe

Anonymous · Answer

the one with money, car, connections

_Troian_ · Answer

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