Can men and women just be friends if attraction is involved?

[LegendaryDater]

Yes

Never

[coachTanthony]

It's hard to be friends when you are attracted to them. There is a difference though in them being "attractive" and you being attracted to them.

[LegendaryDater]

I agree most men would do it if the woman wanted it.

[midnightmoon05]

What would you do when she gets a boyfriend? Still take "couple" pictures with her?
How would your future "girlfriend" feel if you run to this "friend" because you always did before you met her?

Just friends ok. As long as she is not your poriority.

[HaveNoName]

For men, it is IMPOSSIBLE and a dishonest delusional lie if they say yes.

Women.. I believe they are wired a bit different.

[LegendaryDater]

I would say many men would say yes if the female friend wanted sex.

[HaveNoName]

Thank you @LegendaryDater for the MHO.

by the way, you know what is worse in that scenario... specially in younger men: "Oh she is just like a sister'.

[LegendaryDater]

Until they say come over and hit it. lol

[HaveNoName]

Hahaha. True. And even worse is when the girl tells her parents or friends.. "oh dont get ideas.. he says i am just like a sister.".

[DaveJord]

I think the woman can, but the man can't really be. I mean they will fake it and play along and hope for sex... but don't be fooled they would fuck in heartbeat.

I mean it's like asking a woman if she could have sex with a complete stranger? Some could no doubt, but most can't and would not.

Ask a guy if he could be freinds with a woman he really is attracted to sexually... the answer is yes some could, but most could not and would.

[LegendaryDater]

I agree with this. I have several female friends good friends but I am not in the least attracted to them. On a drunken night though they said hey lets have sex maybe with the one but the rest no. So it's almost impossible even if you aren't attracted to them lol

[Rosexøxø]

Omg what you said unlocked a new brain level lol ladies get this!!-

A man (most of them) COULD have sex with a stranger

A woman (most of them) COULD NOT have sex with a stranger

If a man could do it with someone he didn’t know what does that say about him doing it with someone he knew?

Women put attachments on sex and men don’t!

What a truth this is! 🙌

[DaveJord]

@Rosexøxø

I always say the most valuable thing a man can give a women is his friendship.

For man to give his friendship away without sex, is like a women giving up sex without friendship.

Once a man gives up friendship without sex, he's given it away for free... the women has achieved every benefit of being in a relationship with a man without sex.

If a women gives away sex without friendship firsts, well she's given it away for free. The guy has achieved what he wanted, with half to none of the work.

[Rosexøxø]

It’s sad I found this out earlier on. I always wanted a male friend. I mean- can laughter and sex be in the same boat. I don't know why not.

Nowadays a man could fxck another man or a dog.

Dog’s man’s best friend and men are brothers, so if that could happen

Why are men so against friendship with females! Is this some subconscious ancient belief women aren’t good for anything BUT sex?

no admiration to women and no loyalties.

Its the saddest story Shakespeare NEVER wrote lmao

[Summeroflove]

This depends. If one or both are in a relationship with attraction that can cause problems yeah. Sometimes though friendships do flourish into something more. Which is pretty normal.

But if only one is attracted to the other... Again yeah that could be bad

[UmbrusNightshade]

This is a hard one but my findings is that it IS possible but only if one of the two has the attraction. If just one does, a friendship can be developed and even be great, but it takes work.


One of my best friends is a woman I fell head over heels for (in fact she’s the only person, to date, I actually feel I was in love with) and I always felt a strong sexual attraction to her. Our friendship even developed after she rejected me.


What makes it so difficult (and I know from experience) is that whichever one has the attraction has to be mindful of not letting jealousy creep in. It can cause strain on the friendship and make you lash out out of being emotionally hurt. It will never be easy.


If both have the attraction, from my observation of friends, it almost always ends up in them eventually sleeping together (which typically destroys things between them) or they simply put an end to things because they know they would be bad for one another.

[Lalalove11]

I doubt it. If attraction is involved? Then it's likely you'll end up having sex and developing attachment. If one develops attachment and not the other, it sucks and doesn't end well. If both develop attachment, good. I just think if you have a healthy fertile male and female who are attracted to each other and are friends and single I presume, it's highly likely they'll move on from being just friends to something a bit more. Dalliance maybe.

[Lliam]

Not if they are single and attraction is involved. There would always be sexual tension, longing, and frustration.

But if they were attracted to each other and single, why wouldn't they get together unless one of them was sexually inhibited.

[Luopio27]

They can but it will be hard for the man. I mean it was for me, when I got accepted as a real friend to level 9/10 pretty white girls. Getting a boner the second they start to talk about their sex life that I will never be part of.


I just had it and left each and everyone of their friendship. I am better of without them than with them.

[benjydyn]

I think this is very influential.
Being friend zoned is caused precisely by the lack of attraction on the part of one of the two people (different if you are committed and faithful with a partner).
Physical appearance is very influential but it is not always the only reason for a lack of attraction

[D_Bone_Steak]

I voted never. Even if the attraction is one-sided, it's not going to equal skittles and rainbows in the long run. The "friends" part of things is going to run into conflict with a desire to be less than platonic.

[Anonymous]

If, like me, you date enough that you're never going to start fantasising about an attractive woman you're friends with and obsessing over her, then sure.

The danger is with guys who don't date much and start to obsess about a platonic friend he's attracted to. That friendship is probably doomed.

[Twalli]

I have a crush on one of my friends, she knows. I also know that she finds me attractive too. Yet I am in a relationship and she's been in and out of several since I got in one. We're friends because there's nothing more that will happen between us unless my relationship ends and she's also single. It can happen, but since I am aiming to propose to my girlfriend, I think that's unlikely.

[Screenwriter]

You HAVE TO BE ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE to want to be friends with them. Some of it is physical, but mostly it's platonic, intellectual. There is always that aspect between men and women who like men and women. Same would be true for gay people.

[terry49]

it often starts out as friends but as time goes by and you become more at ease talking about your life the attraction will grow as you share your experiences with one another-then it enters a new phase

[Keishio]

Attraction is involved. You can fight it but eventually something's going to happen

[Anonymous]

Not really. When someone develops feelings for the other that completely changes the game.

[BlueIguana98]

Yes… but not for long. Sooner or later something’s gonna happen. Either sex or breakup

[Rockstarrrrr]

Yes... Some people have really good chemistry they make it work

[Anonymous]

At least one person would have to keep things in check. It would be hard, but not impossible.

[Guy13]

No they can not.

[Anonymous]

Of course. Women i am attracted to i can be friends with with no consequences. So far however i don't have very close female friends.