Why do so many men friend-zone women? Is it because the women match the masculine energy and attitude when talking to guys? Any other reason?

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

[TenderFantasy]

I was friendzoned once.

You can't generalize this. There's are as many reasons as there are as trees in the forrest or stars in the sky!

Mine, from what I can only guess, is because he's either racist (he was a white dude with autism and obviously as you know, I am an Asian Filipina), was a PLAYER (he had a lot of female friends so maybe that was one reason he was keeping his options open), or just (the most innocent and less likely maybe), an autistic dork that had Peter Pan syndrome (didn't want to grow up. He had a lot of action figures and played a lot of video games and bought useless junk!). But to be honest with you, he wasn't that attractive really. He was overweight (probably genetic), and talked weirdly. But I was desparate for a man once and so I saw him as an available somebody lol. But I was turned down believe it or not by the guy.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I did not know you were Asian Filipina. Not that it matters anyways.😸

You are right, I cannot generalize this. When asking the question, I had a woman in my mind, who has been made to believe that behaving like a bro is cool. Due to all the feminism.

But as you may know, it is exact the opposite. Feminism is not trying to copy guys. It was to get equal rights. Just that. Nothing else.

If you behave like a guy with other guys, they will treat like that. Be feminine in your behaviour. Embrace your gender. That is like God level cool.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Correct me if you believe I am wrong somewhere.🙂

[menina]

I think only men can properly answer this question. They know their reasons better than any woman.

Besides it depends on the woman and also on the man. I don't think it's fair to make generalizations.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

TenderFantasy also pointed out that mistake of generalization. I have mentioned what kind of a woman I had in mind when writing this question.

Thanks for the politeness.😅 Anyone else could have said it in a different way too.

[menina]

You're welcome. I don't like the way you described the "kind of woman" you were talking about.

I don't see a reason to be rude, even though I didn't like your description.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Can you describe, please? I would like to see how you describe her. Another approach and perspective.

[menina]

You said that you're talking about a woman who has a "masculine energy". I have no idea of what is a "masculine" energy but it sounds offensive to me. You could have just said a woman who has male friends.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

That is no that.

[menina]

What do you mean?

[NathanDavis]

I don't think people friendzone other people...

I think it is the people who get ahead way too quick and consider themselves as something else as friends... so you friendzone yourself after you decided to insist on something that is one sided to you, meanwhile the other person always saw you as not someone they're really interested on like that

[OlderAndWiser]

I put a woman n the friendzone either because I am not attracted to her, she is not available, or I am not available.

[DizzyDesii]

Me being more dominant, sassy and dressing tomboyish didn't stop a great number of men from finding me attractive. As for those who are not interested, they’re like one little green pea rolling off the plate

[Anonymous]

Options. Women make the rules, guys just abide by them. And guys with multiple options can choose to check in and out. It's real simple for women to avoid. All they have to do is choose guys who play those games. But so many women are just drawn to those guys so... all I can say is if you play with fire your going to get burned sometimes.

[HighValue]

For me it is one or more of three reasons. 1. An unacceptable past/incompatible morals. 2. Long term life goal incompatibility. 3. Not attracted to her.

[FilmGuy93]

Lots of women are impressively unpleasant people.

[Exterminatore]

Before I was married I didn’t even friend zone them. I just straight fired ‘em.


I have enough friends.

[Anonymous]

I can't speak for other guys, but for me it's just when I'm not attracted to her. And masculine energy / attitudes is definitely unattractive.

[Jamie05rhs]

It's usually because they're hoes.