Do you think my husband loves me?

[Anonymous]

I had two kids back to back. One in 2021 and the other in 2022. I been feeling really depressed these past years. I have to force a smile. I'm not happy. Me and my husband separated because of my depression. He said that im a negative person, that he wants to be with someone thats always happy, and that I'm bringing him down. Now I'm a single mother and the depression gotton worse. I'm doing everything by myself and he sends money from time to time. He said he rather talk to other people than me.( He spends hours talking to people on the phone.) He said God bless him to live sonewhere else because he doesn't want me to be with an angry woman. Than he compares me to his ex that she was always happy and cracking jokes. He gave up on me after I had his two kids. I'm not angry I'm just depressed. I dont really have time for my self. I put 100 percent in my kids and I love them very much. I just wanted his support and help.

[lightbulb27]

sounds like you had a bout of post pardum depression. Making kids saps your energy, just making milk depletes bones. This is why women want guys that are emotionally strong, but they aren't easy to find anymore... there's no training for them to understand women.

I think your husband would come back when you are healthier and it feels safe, good and fun. When he sees his value raising the kids. He doesn't tolerate pain and negativity well. A lot of us don't, we don't understand.

It's a challenging situation since you need to care for the kids and yourself.

Fill your day with positive energy... healing sounds/music, prayer, meditation, blessings.

Maybe you both can get this stabilized again, lets hope.

Love you yes. But some people can't even handle a needle prick. You have to accept his limitations and your own.

[Guy13]

After the babies both you and him are going through all kinds of emotional, physical, and monetary changes. Hopefully, things will settle down a bit over the next two months. Hoping it all plays out as you wish.

[Miristheiss]

It sounds like he left you. Why do you say "my husband" as if this is an ongoing marriage and he lives with you? You said you are now a single mother.

He probably loved the you that he originally met. You must have been a fun, more easy going girl when you two started dating. Otherwise why did he marry you? Did you pull a bait and switch on him?

He probably loved an earlier version of you. Before you became miserable to be around.

[boggboss]

How can u even ask when it's clearly not true