How long does it take you to open up to someone?

[Pinkspark]

How long before you are comfortable being the real you?

[Gibbons44]

Well - me, instantly.

But only in line with how long it takes her to feel comfortable to open to me (and I don't mean it in a bodily way - I am genuinely surprised when people start knitpicking bodily needs, reflexes etc).

I also don't have inhibitions, but I don't get involved if she feels inhibited because of feeling guilty over something she did or something that happened to her. I cannot get involved with someone previously married/someone who had a biblical link with a male (and who is now a woman; I am a boy, a virgin - and no matter how much women try to get me to accept them as my potential marriage parteners, to force me to 'open up' - I won't. All that can achieve is yo cause me tears.

I guess I could say I'd rather live on as virgin than sin with a woman. Since there are over 5000 sworn for life of virginity Catholic nuns (and numbers growing) - if she ever married previously, so is a woman and no longer a girl - we can talk, but I don't believe I'd marry her (in fact I'd probably frustrate her if she believes loss of virginity is a non-event - paying attention that penetration is not loss of virginity, for a girl, only an orgasm with a male is loss of virginity (that is what 'marriage', or 'consumption of marriage', means - whether it was with contraceptives, followed by abortion pills or abortion, or whether it led to pregnancy - these things, I was never a part of, not can I be, except as her first).

To summarise - hymen is irrelevant, marriage/biblical link (female orgasm to a male) is crucial. If she married a previously married man and got abandoned, I don't know that I'd be able to fix that. Because she'd want him back or punished and I don't have any evil exes that would persecute me, nor do I want to be part of her polygamous society (because bigamy is a criminal. offense, and leads to HIV).

[SnoopBean9110]

I’m so happy someone asked this. First of all, It’s slightly different for both genders.

Male: Because I’m an introvert, it’s hard to talk to others. But if that guy is also like me then I’ll think about it and observe them for 1-5 minutes total. (Not straight in a row. That’s called starring.) I’d start talking about who I am and tell them a couple of small vices I have and that’s it.

Female: OH, NO! WHAT DO I DO! Well actually I said the two genders are different, well…I’m extremely shy around girls. Probably forever will be. This process takes around a week or two. Ok, at first I look at them around a minute.(Much shorter for stalking reasons.) I try reading stereotypes and know what type of person they are. I don’t want to be around anyone that has a boyfriend because I don’t want trouble at all. Even though I’d kill the guy I’m fighting, I just don’t care enough right now. Don’t want drama. I don’t want anyone covered in liters or gallons of makeup. I don’t want them to be greatly known.(Hot, Popular, and emotionless.) Actually I don’t really try making friends with girls at all. Unless the are the under dog. I’m just a tall strong introvert that’s only careful with the small people.

I’m a deviant as well to everything. A reject the newer ways of society and I’m not sorry.

[SueShe]

I usually do not open to anyone unless I know that person for at least a number of years.

The reason is that people tend to hide a number of things for others. There are many reasons for that, either because that person fears to be judged, has something to hide from others or is simply introverted and does not reveal much about him/-herself.

Usually, after 5 or 6 years of seeing that person on a regular basis, you get the feel for his/her personality and character and whether this person his honest or not. If my gut feeling tells me to still be cautious after that number of years, then I will most probably never fully open to them.

[Pinkspark]

Wow, that's a long time. You said that people tend to hide things for a number of reasons, but aren't you doing the same thing by not opening up?

[SueShe]

Yes of course I do the same thing but since I am never the one initiating contact first, I have no reason for wanting to open up to total strangers.

[Chrysantenum95]

Well, im talking about years.. I dont trust people easily ever even if we're blood related because I've seen people irl been backstab to, lied to, humiliate to and completely break into pieces just because they trust early and too much.

[DaveJord]

For me not very long honestly... I do not want to waste my time. So, the sooner they figure out if they can handle the truth and my transparency the better. If what I have to say is too much for them, then they are not enough for me.

[Guy13]

3 months of vibes are good.

[DizzyDesii]

2 months, 27 days, 5 hours, 44 minutes, 14 seconds but whose counting

[TwiNshichamp1]

It takes some time, but Iam so talkative person, and open minded, so I like my mind to be heard and been understood. So to open up to somebody it also depends, if I want to talk something about them or about myself. So it depends on a situation too.

[petitedollbabee]

It depends on how long it takes them to open up to me. I’m an open book but only to people who reciprocate. If I’m talking to someone who is emotionally like a brick wall, then I’m not going to open up.

[redskulldangerzone64]

It takes me awhile to get used to someone I’m easily able to warm up as it takes me awhile i because i become distant at first as I close up tightly and until I know I can trust and fully open up i first need to get to know someone and know more about them before I begin to trust and open up

[serious]

Well, I am never 100% open. I mean I am always honest, straightforward and serious and there are certain I can share with anyone and certain I will never share irrespective of how long I have known the person for.

[A_Nihilist]

I'm unapologetically myself from the start.

The way I see it. Acting proper, all fancy, dressing up and being super mindful of your manners on dates... it's false advertising.

Be yourself. Don't dress like crap or act like an ass. But don't be Prince Charming either.

[Emiliamazing]

It depends on my comfort level at the time, perhaps how we met, and the general impression that they initially make.

[AsaKyo]

Months, maybe even years to fully open up to a person

In the past, it didn't take much, but constantly being let down by people makes you become more closed off

[college-student2021]

That’s a shame, but something true in life one should not fully open up as quickly.

[Zayed_]

It takes me 5 mins to open up because I’m the type that doesn’t care if someone wants to turn things against.

I’m confident enough to know what I want people to know

[OfMiceandMen]

You got five minutes? jk

I think it takes a few weeks before your really get to know someone.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I go with my gut instinct. But I don’t easily open myself.

[melanieeeB]

Depends on the person. With some few it's within hours/days/weeks and with others it's a few years.

[LiamJHayden]

Sometimes minutes, sometimes weeks, sometimes never. It really depends upon the vibe I get from the other person.

[roryglimore]

For like 5 months based on the person if I trust them of not

[Belgie]

I wait until my instinct tells me I can. Sometimes I'm wrong but I've rarely regretted it.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

It all depends on the person but I am fairly real with most people…

[Valso]

I used to do it pretty quickly in the past. Nowadays I don't do that AT ALL with strangers. Only my best friend (male best friend, no female) knows everything about me.

[WellGreetingsISay]

A few years give or take. If it's a partner it takes less, maybe half a year.

[Coyote12]

If it's someone who I'm interested in it'll probably take around 3-4 months for me to say "love you".