How to make difference between the compassion and love?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What if your love is the empathetic reflection of another person’s love to you (It’s just you deeply care about them) and not a separate feeling? How can you tell?

[dynamicyandere]

For me, love is more than a feeling.


Love is a very close and special bond.


With that bond, feelings will arise as a byproduct.


But the feelings are not love itself. The love is the bond that creates those feelings.


Sometimes people can experience feelings, but the bond is not there.


That’s how a player can make a girl feel in love without actually loving her, because he’s orchestrating the feelings without establishing the bond.


The bond should produce feelings.


But feelings do not produce the bond.


The bond is something deep. It’s a choice. It’s a commitment. It’s a connection that runs deeper than what one feels. That’s way real love can endure pain and hardship and struggle and love someone despite the difficulties.


Also, real love is supposed to have empathy. If you want to really love someone, empathy is a must. If you are afraid to empathize, then you are afraid to love. Because empathy should naturally be a part of love.


Also, love is not so easily put into boxes so you can say that you have this or that kind of love. Things often overlap and mix. The way that you love includes a blend of things.

And example of this is the concept of “Consummate Love” which is supposed to be Passion + Intimacy + Commitment.

But back to the bond thing…

You can show kindness, compassion, and empathy towards a stranger, without a bond.

But, to me, the bond is where you have that true love.

And if you have a partner whom you show kindness, compassion, empathy, romance, passion, commitment, intimacy, and more… It’s the breaking of that bond that breaks your heart.

True love is to bond. And if you do not want to form that bond. Then you’re afraid to love.

Because true love requires vulnerability and trust that the other person will take care of your heart and not damage the bond you’ve formed with them.

[TheSpaceGnome]

How to overthink emotions 101 ^

You either love someone, or you don't, whats all this reflection nonsense?

You can't tell the difference because there isn't a difference.

People love what makes them happy, and in relationships, being loved by them is always the largest part of why you love someone.

Even for things like having stuff in common, the reason thats important is so you can be yourself and they will still love you and love spending time with you, and so you an enjoy time spent with them as well for the same reason.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am just worried not to get too empathetic to my next relationship. 😂

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

But yep, overthinker - that I am 😅

[TheSpaceGnome]

Overthinking is VERY bad for relationships, it makes doubt easier, trust harder, and causes miscommunication, misrepresentation, suspicion, assumptions, and misplaced judgment. It can destroy an otherwise good relationship all by itself.

Kick the habit.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I’ll try 😂😂

[Guy13]

Agape and Eros in Greek defines this for you.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

But if I define my compassion as Agape, then it is still love.

[Guy13]

Define your compassion into concrete definition and I'll proceed with that.

[Anonymous]

Compassion is just caring about someone's well being. Love is deeper, love is selfless.