Is it normal to Not be together 24/7?

[Anonymous]

me and my boyfriend dont live together

We dated 2 years

Some weekends ee dont spend together

We send some messages and thats it

Asking how is going and wishing nice weekend

Do you think its normal? or we must live together and spend all the free time together

[electromagnetic]

It’s normal.
My partner and I dated for 3 years before we moved in together. We both worked full time and lived an hrs drive away so weekends were our only options. He has family and I have mine. If we got to see each other that weekend great. If not, no harm no foul so long as it was communicated by Wednesday evening. That way other plans were made so no one had to be alone.

[Asker]

I work with him tho
I see him everyday
But after work we go separate directions
I go my home and he goes his... once a week i stay at his house and so. e weekends we spend or in my house or in his
My mom lives with me... that complicates things for me
I think

[electromagnetic]

If y’all work together than he clearly delusional for wanting to break up although y’all see each other everyday.
Maybe this is his way of wanting out.

I don’t think your mum living with you is even an issue or factor considering you stay the night sometimes with him.
Y’all can have lunches at work together, dinners after work.. there are soo many options and he’s bugged out about not having enough time?

Sounds silly.

[Dieudonné842]

If it ain't broke don't fix it.

[Asker]

Broke?
Whats broke?
We are together

[Dieudonné842]

It's a saying. If nothing is wrong, then there's no need to do anything.

[Asker]

Ah ok
So it means we keep it that way?
Its just... i want to live with him
But he doesn't... he had horrible marriage for 20 years and doenst want to move in with me, he scared oyr relatuonship will get worse or we will brrak up since living together is hard

[Dieudonné842]

If that's not for you in the long run then maybe it's time to move on. Or maybe you can see if you can help him heal.