Should I give a another chance or just move on?

[Anonymous]

I have been seeing a guy for almost a year now. Things were going great in the beginning and he said he likes me and what's to know where it goes. But every time we just hook up. After a few months, I asked him if he's serious about me because my feelings are getting deeper but things got crazy and he pushed me away by blocking me.

Recently, we started speaking again and met few times but we just hooked up. He said he still likes me but isn't looking for a relationship but maybe he can change his change if I don't act crazy over text. Last time we met he asked me out for drinks. But I am the only one that's texting and if I make plans he always says he's busy or sometimes don't even text back. I like him a lot and want to have a relationship with him. But I am at this point that I dont even know whether I am just overthinking about it or needs to fucking move on!

Any suggestions or thoughts will give get me some clarity, Thanks!!!

[Assi2k]

What if I told u, ur not having a boy problem? Ok yes, u are but what if I told u that it was a bandage for the real issue underneath?

Everything in ur life is happening FOR u. It is all opportunity! This situation is an opportunity for u to love parts of urself that u don’t rn.

In this case, it looks like u don’t want to be abandoned by this guy so you let him mistreat/disrespect u. But, sweetheart, this will just make him disrespect u further and worsen ur own self-image/worth. It won’t make him want a relationship with u. Rn, he feels that he can continue getting what he wants without reciprocating so he is keeping u around temporarily. This kinda thing is way more common than u think. I would know😒 (if I told u my story, you’d think I was telling urs)

Rn, get a mirror and tell urself “I love you even if he doesn’t, even if he blocks u, even if he replaces you for another girl (he's just gonna mistreat her too, again Ik from experience), even if ur single for a while. Even if you cry and break down. I am on your side. I will not abandon you." Repeat this DAILY. Do it for ALL the parts that you find you are ashamed of and watch your confidence soar. You will never allow mistreatment again and your standard will grow.

Trust me, once you learn to validate yourself, you’ll start to lose the need for anyone to ever like you again. Which paradoxically will just make you seem so amazing to everyone else.

[TenderFantasy]

I could have used that in my early 20's haha.

[Anonymous]

How old is he
If he is between age of 18 to 30 years old he might be scared of commitment. Accept it or not things have changed women and men now look into long term and family thingy by 30+
It’s rare to see couples at young age lol into the future with a long term eyes.
You can give him a chance but he seems distracted he doesn’t know what he wants yet. Also he blocked you or when you asked him about you he stayed away etc etc this are not even red flags but alarming red flags. In my opinion he isn’t looking into a relationship yet. I elude suggest you move on date around find other men and you can find a great men who wants what you want. I think you don’t waste your time with this guy.
If you desire is to settle with a great men an affluent men and a gentlemen than look for men after 30+ ideally 33+
If that’s too old for you than until you reach 27-28 have some fun meet new people new hobby etc.

[oliver4love]

If a man loves you deeply from heart ♥ then he tolerate your every crazy behavior, no matter what you text him, but it's my personal views better you move on and find a guy who loves you accept you with your quatiies and disqualities and honestly I clear you he have now attracted to your physical appearance not with deeply love feelings... extremely sorry 🙏 if any my word's hurt you or disturbing you..

[Guy13]

Nah, time to go. He has demonstrated multiple 🚩🚩🚩 in the way he treats you. Ultimately, you are back-up as he is still looking for something better.

Cut your losses and get out sooner than later. The ending here is not good.

[Asker]

Thank you for the response. Should I at least tell him that he have hurt my feelings a lot or just silently move on without ever speaking to him again?

[Guy13]

I would tell him the truth then move on and know if he does this once to you then he will do it again. Never go back no matter what he says etc..

[Avicenna]

If it’s not what you want, end it

[lightbulb27]

Expecting a woman to not be crazy when he is not going to provide emotional support or lead the relationship... we'll... that seems unrealistic.

stop handing out the goodies to guys that buy you drinks.

move on. I think you have a lot to learn and grow.

[denisenic01e]

This guy is just stringing you along and will never commit.

GOOD guys will let you know where you stand with them, and won't leave you confused like this.

Don't even waste your time explaining sh! t to him, you owe him nothing.. Just move on & have a good life!!

✌🏽

[Adam1978]

You should have left a long time ago. You should had your commitment around date 3-5. And if you want a relationship don't do hookups. That automatically put you in the fun category not the girl friend category.

[Paul09]

Stop thinking you can change his mind. He is who he is. There's tons of better options or there. Stop dwelling on someone who doesn't have the same values as you. You make it tough for yourself for nothing

[spartan55]

You can barely get him to hook up with you and you want a relationship? Girl you are delusional.

[SnowedIn]

Move on. Sounds like if he wants anything it's a hook up.

[Iron_Man]

He’s trying to get laid sounds like a player change his mind he’s full of crap he’s using you for sex

[Jamie05rhs]

Honey... This guy is using you.
Please break away and leave him.
Do not give him even one more second of your time.

[Danael31]

It's almost never a good idea to go back with someone you were with. And apparently he's just into you for sex. If this is not what you're looking for, then yeah, time to f*cking move on.

[boobliker]

and you're asking us! move on and find a new one better if poss

[Nikki1989]

It's time to move on.

[driven159]

Move on stop wasting your time

[In_Trance]

Move on