I have been seeing a guy for almost a year now. Things were going great in the beginning and he said he likes me and what's to know where it goes. But every time we just hook up. After a few months, I asked him if he's serious about me because my feelings are getting deeper but things got crazy and he pushed me away by blocking me.
Recently, we started speaking again and met few times but we just hooked up. He said he still likes me but isn't looking for a relationship but maybe he can change his change if I don't act crazy over text. Last time we met he asked me out for drinks. But I am the only one that's texting and if I make plans he always says he's busy or sometimes don't even text back. I like him a lot and want to have a relationship with him. But I am at this point that I dont even know whether I am just overthinking about it or needs to fucking move on!
Any suggestions or thoughts will give get me some clarity, Thanks!!!
What if I told u, ur not having a boy problem? Ok yes, u are but what if I told u that it was a bandage for the real issue underneath?
Everything in ur life is happening FOR u. It is all opportunity! This situation is an opportunity for u to love parts of urself that u don’t rn.
In this case, it looks like u don’t want to be abandoned by this guy so you let him mistreat/disrespect u. But, sweetheart, this will just make him disrespect u further and worsen ur own self-image/worth. It won’t make him want a relationship with u. Rn, he feels that he can continue getting what he wants without reciprocating so he is keeping u around temporarily. This kinda thing is way more common than u think. I would know😒 (if I told u my story, you’d think I was telling urs)
Rn, get a mirror and tell urself “I love you even if he doesn’t, even if he blocks u, even if he replaces you for another girl (he's just gonna mistreat her too, again Ik from experience), even if ur single for a while. Even if you cry and break down. I am on your side. I will not abandon you." Repeat this DAILY. Do it for ALL the parts that you find you are ashamed of and watch your confidence soar. You will never allow mistreatment again and your standard will grow.
Trust me, once you learn to validate yourself, you’ll start to lose the need for anyone to ever like you again. Which paradoxically will just make you seem so amazing to everyone else.
I could have used that in my early 20's haha.