Should I give up and try to move on?

[Anonymous]

This guy I like, I thought maybe liked me back. He’s had a few bad relationships that started with a divorce where his wife cheated on him. I thought maybe he was just being cautious and not making a move because we see each other at least twice a week. We’ve flirted over text and email (at least I thought so), but he’s never made a clear move. We’ve never been out on a date. I’m the one who starts all text conversations, 99% of the time at least. I haven’t texted him since last Wednesday just to see if he’d reach out or anything, and he didn’t. When I saw him in person yesterday, he didn’t really even acknowledge my presence.

I really like this guy. He’s smart and funny, but I don’t want to spend my life in limbo wondering if he will or won’t. It’s awful to try and get over someone you love without them loving you back.

[BasedBaeBecca]

It's hard to say for sure what this guy's intentions are, and it's possible that he has his own reasons for not being more forward. However, it might be helpful to consider the fact that he hasn't made a clear move, and you always initiate text conversations. This could be an indication that he's not as interested in a romantic relationship and doesn't have the same intentions as you. If you feel like you're wasting your time and energy on something that's not going anywhere, it might be best to put your focus elsewhere and try to move on from him.

[rm_llort]

There's still hope, he probably likes you but is waiting for the right time. If he's recently gotten divorced people will talk if he moves on immediately. He's probably got a lot on mentally with lawyers, probably self esteem issues after the failed marriage and the cheating. It won't be easy for him to open up again to a woman for quite some time.

You're also testing him, however people never pass tests they aren't aware that they're taking. If you play dumb games you'll get dumb results. Hope that helps.

[Asker]

He’s been divorced a few years and has had at least two girlfriends since then. As far as I know he’s been single at least a year though.

I didn’t mean to test. I was curious if he would reach out if he didn’t hear from me for a few days. I don’t want to be the one putting in all the effort.

But thank you.