Is it normal to feel down in relationship after a fight?

[Anonymous]

3 years relationship. Distant for now. We had a huge fight last 3 days. I was unhappy with a specific behaviour of her, told her that and she was not trying to understand, which ended up in 3 days ignorance and arguments with “idgaf” attitude from both sides.

I mostly used to talk a lot in romantic way , used to call till she fall asleep and we never go to bed without kiss.

Today we both were talking in uninterested, dull way. She fell asleep early, we haven’t kissed. We both are still behaving like it’s gonna end someday. She already slept without any problem and I’m here , thinking about this. We had fights before, but this time it’s really making me mad.

Does this phase occurs in long term relationships?

[D_Bone_Steak]

Sounds like you've ran into a problem you feel needs to get fixed and she's refusing to even consider fixing whatever this problem is. It is 100% normal to feel frustrated with that kind of shit. This is an adapt or overcome situation. Whatever this behavior of her's is, you don't want to adapt and just accept it, but she wants you to... thus you're in the pickle you're in. If it's a really shitty behavior thing she's doing, you're going to have to overcome her resistance to trying to change it. ... or end up breaking up. If you adapt and just accept it, then the reasons that shitty behavior is shitty will fester and slowly just get worse and worse.

[Asker]

You are right thank you. The problem is if she buys a new pair of dresses or shoes or anything, I have to ask 10-15 times for a pic of that. Even if its in the next room she won’t put effort to send me a simple pic. As a partner we expect them to show their things and ask opinions. I mean her doesn't care attitude even after asking for it is making me mad

[Guy13]

Yes that’s normal and it can take a little time to tool back up and continue with conversations. Relationship is a rollercoaster 🎢 at times. Keep an even keel and stroke trough it

[Asker]

Thank you

[Phoenix98]

That’s normal wether it’s with a friend or your partner fighting with em always sucks.

It may take a little time but things will smooth out.

[FilmGuy93]

Why wouldn't that be normal?

[Asker]

Thank u

[boobliker]

mostly yes! it's the making that get you up again.