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No. Practicing self-love, and self-care by extension, is extremely relevant in my field as a social worker because developing habits to care for oneself is SO incredibly important to preserving mental health and preventing burnout and compassion fatigue. Just because someone wants to take care of themselves physically, mentally, and emotionally does not mean they "put themselves on a pedestal." I'm tired of society telling people they always have to put others first, even at the expense of our own wellbeing.
Taking time to pour energy into yourself and doing things that make you feel good about yourself is not selfish, it's necessary. I am not a selfish or self-important person, I work in healthcare with extremely sick people and help others every single day. But if I didn't take time to take care of myself too, there's no way I could continue working or be mentally present for myself and my family. I'm a HUGE supporter of people taking the time to recognize and address their own needs, even if it means occasionally putting themselves first. My health and wellness is just as important as the individuals I work with and it's okay to say that.
If you weren't putting as much work into yourself as your patients, I wouldn't want you to be my health care worker. What you said is exactly correct because you cannot give something you don't have. It's like a 7 year old trying to teach someone how to drive a car. Or expecting an angry person to be courteous. A person can only give what they have.
@Sunssong Exactly! I'm a social worker and I work with people who have chronic kidney disease with their insurance, transportation, access to meds, and I support their mental health. So if I'm feeling emotionally exhausted, burnt out, and unwell, I could become disengaged or begin to lack empathy for my patients which helps no one. I have to make time for my own mental health too.
The problem is. Suicide/Depression/Anxiety is at an all time high. Your type have good ideals, but where does it go? It goes literally nowhere. Liberalism is disease. People just need to get a pair of ballz. Remember also, Rape/Muder/Violent crimes are at an all time high too? Where does this happen mostly? Dem ran areas.
My argument is that we need more tough love. Not everyone saying woe is me. That is a conundrum. I can't tell you how many times we see the new generation not getting what they want. They want everything on a platter, because that is their answer. It doesn't work that way. They can sit there and prioritize all they want. The real world bites them in the ass. Like it should.
Interesting q.
Not a pedestal, but it's almost like an audacious or unapologetic declaration of individualism and prioritizing the self; and while some of that is necessary to one's existence, does it really need to be touted as honourable, strong? Lots of people have been hurt or betrayed by others. But some act as if they're so hard done by, so unique because of this. It's actually very common, just part of the human experience, and it's not really a justification for then passing it along to others, or clamping up tight and living a life in fear, or selfishness, or defensive mode. I don't like the term 'self care' either, but it makes me wretch a bit less than 'self love.' Do they really need to be movements? I'd rather hear about how gracious or kind people are to others, not to themselves. That's more something to be proud of. Although I'd rather find it out about them, rather than from them...
I will answer this question purely from a Biblical stand point of view, even though I know there are a lot of people here who don't believe in Jesus or Bible on this forum, but same concept can easily be applied to us, mortal human beings. Lucifer rebelled against God, because of self love, he is the most beautiful angel God has ever created, when you are a pinnacle of Perfection, you cannot help yourself, but to feel superior to everyone else and therefore you love yourself more than anything or anyone else. That automatically puts you on a self loving pedestal, the feeling and knowing for a FACT that you are the best of the best of the best out there, brings a lot of satisfaction, because everyone is looking up to you, everyone wants to be you or trying to look like you and everyone wants to be With you. Maybe it is a bad example, but if you drive say Rolls Roys and if you park this car on a Walmart parking lot, away from everyone else, something interesting will happen, people will start parking next to you, even though there are plenty of other empty spots out there.
I love myself, but I don't put myself on a pedestal and think I am better than everyone else.
I just know that I am content whether I am on my own or with someone, and I don't have to rely on the other person's love or affection all the time to remain happy.
Sure, it is great having someone you can talk to, do activities with, and give them your affection, but, I'm not sad without someone.
I am perfectly fine, heading out on a vacation myself, meeting new people and making some new friends, and don't need someone with me to enjoy it.
Well, that's not entirely true, I take my dogs with me everywhere I go, so I guess I do have two fur-people that give me unconditional love and make me happy.
If anything, I feel somewhat sad for people who find it difficult to love themselves. It would be very arduous going through life in a constant battle with yourself. It would just add more drama to your life than everyday life does already...
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Most definitely not. It's not a "pedestal above everyone else" because people who practice self love happen to be some of the most caring individuals you'll find.
Self love is, after all, a typical practice of social workers, nurses, doctors, etc. You can not help others if you don't love yourself because these industries are incredibly emotionally draining. Without loving yourself, a person will come to begrudge others their help and see it as a chore not something they are doing out of care.
I've worked in medicine for a decade, I've encountered people in the industry that don't practice self-love.
To be extremely blunt they hate their job, they hate their life, they often dislike their spouse & children, and they hate the patients. The only reason why they haven't left is because their career pays dang well.
No. There's a difference between self-love and narcissism.
Self-love comes from genuine (quiet) confidence that doesn't brag. It's basically just advocating for yourself. It's saying "I am amazing, but so are other people. We all deserve good treatment. We all have amazing qualities and are deserving of good things."
Narcissism is different. It actually comes from insecurity. It's saying "I am amazing, and other people aren't. Only I am entitled to good treatment, not them." It's a way to cope with feelings of inferiority.
The desire to feel better than others is derived from insecurity, not self-love.
u *stands up on a pedestal*
nope... true and genuine and care for one self will always come off in a healthy and positive way
thinking you're above and superior to others is not self-love... that's just being a pretentious person that has still has plenty of introspection and work to do... lol
I agree unless you are preaching "self love" as the end all be all to living a good life and without it you won't achieve much in life.
preaching and announcing it to "everyone" is usually a bad sign... lol
I rather keep it to myself... and the way in which my self-love manifests itself is in the way I love and dedicate towards those in my life... but that's my very personal take, on what makes me happy
others might find their happiness and fulfillment by different means
Yeah true agree
It depends.
@BarryLiverstone is exactly right...
... but...
... I've run into too many people who use self love as a crutch or an excuse or a right to shit on other people.
So, it depends.
I actually found him confusing with his answer maybe it's the grammar or what not. But lets test it out. Would you agree "If someone loves themselves ONLY then can they love others fully?"
So you see my conundrum? lol
I guess we could ASSUME but you know what happens when that occurs? lol I like to take people at their word.. if he corrects then that is cool.
I don't know, I love you coach 😂 by the way, How do you feel about all 3 or 4 of your trolls not being able to make their presence known anymore? ... at least not the same way they were doing it.
As for the question... I'd say people that show the most self-love the most turn out to be sad cases or heaps of shit if you get to know them... at least 9 times out of 10. I'm becoming a fan of people with a self-deprecating sense of self... just because it's real from the start and doesn't turn out to be a scam in the long run... like a chick that says she wants a generous man, only to find out she really meant wanted a rich simp to supply her gibs and give her the freedom to go meet up with me in the bar bathroom for some shit.
There is a difference between self-love, and arrogance.
Self-love practices patience and kindness with one's own self. Arrogance practices comparison to others. "Well at least I'm not as bad as THAT person" or "I did so much better than all those other people!".
When a person TRULY loves themself, they don't find a need to feel better or worse than any other person. They are enough for themself, and that's it. You'll be able to identify them by their fruit.
After practicing self-love, I find myself happier and compare myself LESS to other people, and feel less of a need to feel like I have something up on another person. That's stepping off the pedestal completely and walking away.
So, when you go to Target, they have a plus sized woman advertising delicates, aka under britches. How does that help? When they reach 600 lbs they need tough love. Why? Because they could die any second. You need tough love, not self love. On the other hand? People who try to be sexy, don't eat, or they have anorexia or bulimia. That isn't healthy either. If it's just me? Sex sells. If I walk into a store, fatties don't entice me at all. It's simply woke culture.
The answer to this question is to wide to answer one way. Most people who say the practice self love just mean they don't want give equally in a relationship. But there are some people who ATE willing to give equally but never get back in return. These particular people have a healthy respect for themselves and are perfectly willing to be alone than be in a unhealthy relationship.
Yes it is too wide to answer one way but you did a fine job man. Good comment.
Loving yourself and bring a narcissist are very different.
Loving yourself means you see yourself in a positive light, you're kind to yourself and don't let other put you down.
Narcissism would be to ignore any red flag in your behaviour, think yourself better than everyone and expect others to do the same and never hold yourself accountable.
I don't think so, like yeah you put yourself first and you accept and love yourself but it isn't like a "I'm better than everyone" but more a "It's okay to be me and you deserve to be respected and loved by some others too" thing... so no, no pedestal
People who are self aware and confident will always appear to stand on a sanctimonious high ground because people who are not self aware cannot being themselves to being better, so they necessarily do what they can to bring others down.
No wut? In this world there's so many expectations, demands and pressures if you don't put yourself first you'll be chewed up. Knowing how much you can handle and being able to say no to people who want to pile on more is probably one of the most important things in life. That's just one part of self love, but one a lot of people seem to have difficulty with.
u No, not necessarily. One should be able to see his or herself as God does. You ought to have a healthy, informed, and humble sense of self-love, enough to be able to sustain and grow the good things about yourself and to work on correcting flaws and shortcomings. You have to be able to love yourself enough to keep going. You have to be able to love yourself enough to allow another person to love you more.
No, I think you need a healthy dose of self-love to even navigate this fucked up selfish world. It's a dog eat dog type of world and you need all the help you can get! At least that's what strangers have told me online and also I truly believe that. Heck, my parents advised me this stuff as well. Competition is steep like a wall and so yeah, you'll NEED all the help you can muster!
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Yes but the cope is understandable. Nobody enjoys admitting they an ugly mofo.
Nobody does enjoy that but if they have good self awareness at least they can maneuver through life correctly.
Yes, if they love their mirrored and superficial reflection, not themselves as human being.
Not everyone who practices self love put themselves on a pedestal, and vice versa.
Arrogant people (not self loving) put themselves on a pedestal.
Self loving people (not arrogant) try to do the right things.
People also have a mix of personalities and no one is perfect. We should strive to be better people.
Self-love is a good thing as long as it isn't to the exclusion of all else, then it becomes narcissism. People who don't love themselves have little love for anyone else either; the most misanthropic people really just hate themselves.
That has been my experience entirely. I’ve never met someone who admitted to practicing self love who demonstrated an ability to truly love someone else.
Not necessarily. Self love is a quality that we should all have but it’s not as common as it should be.
a lot of people are proud that they love themselves because there was probably a time where they hated themself
No. Self love is essential and healthy. If someone loves themselves only then can they love others fully.
When the oxygen bags fall on the plane first put yours on before helping others
I believe people who don't hate themselves can love others fully.. it's hard to love yourself because we have a monkey brain that tells us we suck.
That’s why I said love others fully. It takes work to love ourselves and it’s not easy. But the work is worth it. No one is perfect so the monkey brain can still accept our flaws
Your comment was a bit confusing. You said if someone loves themselves only. ( sounds like they love only themselves) only then can they love others fully. Makes no sense my guy.
I guess so. And there's nothing wrong with that in my opinion. cause you're the most important person in your own life untill you have children.
There's a fine line between self love and narcissism
Just a nice way of saying they masturbate a lot.
Practicing self love is for you and you only. I wouldn’t connect that with anybody else. The focus is on me.
People who preach self love and accepting everyone for who they are, are almost always terrible people in my experience. So I’d say yes.
No, but those accustomed to the top will always hate those who won't take their belittling bullshit.
Yes because most people have low standards nowadays.
No, that does not follow at all. Self - care includes encouraging the love and friendship of others.
I believe people who love themselves are also more capable of loving others.
I don’t care anymore mate
So where do I put myself at the bottom
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