My boyfriend and I had a small disagreement yesterday and it made me feel really bad. Will he still be mad after three weeks?

[Anonymous]

I told my boyfriend i won't talk to him until my exams end. I feel terrible, but I don't know maybe in twenty days i will learn to not be so clingy.

Updates

+1 y

I apologised, he called me stupid twice and then we laughed about it. Everything is good, thankyou.

[SnowedIn]

Ouch. This situation sucks. I agree with @ilikesnow : you need to deal with this now. Here's why (and it connects with my feeling that your question is the wrong question): if you literally truly don't talk to him for three weeks, it's not that he'll be mad (he might be mad now), he'll be gone. Three weeks is, for all intents and purposes, ghosting him/blocking him. It's not like you're in the Army and on deployment or a Sailor on a ship. There's a better way to do this. You're at risk right now of losing your guy. You need to fix this now.

Please remember that needing space and time for whatever isn't a bad thing whether that's exams or you time but just going silent for three weeks is too much.

[Asker]

I'll apologize tonight, thankyou. I did feel really bad the entire day myself, i can only imagine how bad he would be feeling.

[SnowedIn]

I think that's the best way to go about this. :)

I cannot stress enough that your need for space and time is 10000000% valid and awesome. Don't let go of that. Just please don't let it impact your other behavior. AND... he has responsibility in this too. If he can't honor your need/take care of you in this way, that should cause you to pause and reassess.

[SnowedIn]

Regarding your update: well done!

[Asker]

Thankyou! Your advice really helped :)

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Hey I made wrong choices when dating girls my first girlfriend was age 21 and the second I met was age 18 when I was age 35... But I know how things can be it's a rough road tackling education and relationships... My advice is sit down and talk things over with your boyfriend it's a small world out there.. Best wishes with your boyfriend and yourself :)

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :)

[ilikesnow]

did you really say 'i won't talk to you until my exams end' ? because if you did, that's not a very good way to tell him. you could've said something like 'i need to focus on my studies for exams, and even though you're incredibly important to me i still need to spare some time to revise, so i won't be texting as often. i hope you understand :)'

[Asker]

Yeah i know i f'ed up.. I'll let him be free for the weekend and call him on Monday. Thankyou
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[ilikesnow]

that's an okay plan, but i think an even better idea is to go to his house so he can't exactly ignore you, then give him a big hug and apologise and thoroughly explain what you meant-

[Asker]

Ah I wish i could but he's away for college and i can't drive

[ilikesnow]

oh :(, then maybe you could try facetime him?

[Asker]

Yeah I'll do it tonight i don't wanna wait for so long

[ilikesnow]

ty for the mho, i'm glad you fixed the problem!

[Anonymous]

get ready for a breakup because that's where this is heading.

[Guy13]

He will calm down if you calm down and both apologize.

[ShiftingMonke]

You really think a 3 week silent treatment is healthy for the relationship?

[Asker]

I guess not, but i already told him that and now i don't wanna take it back

[ShiftingMonke]

Fair enough. I'll hope he doesn't leave or otherwise hurt your feelings. I think he will be mad the first week, but if he is still with you by the 3rd week, I'll be surprised.

Good luck though, with both the relationship and with the exams!

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should talk before then. Give it a few days.

[Asker]

Yeah thankyou, i was thinking the same thing. Would three days be enough?

[Opinion Owner]

I think so. Just give it the weekend and see how it goes on Monday

[es20490446e]

Why twenty days?