If a 41 year old woman has a major crush on a 25 year old guy is she crazy/weird/out of her mind/all of the above?

[Anonymous]

I've got this huge crush on this way younger guy (I'm 41, he's 25). I'm super crazy attracted to him in a way I haven't been towards anyone in a very long time. We get along super well. We have a ton of fun together and get along great. He's super funny, smart, and sweet. He's also insanely hot (with a body that drives me wild on whole new levels).

However, even as I write that I feel really dumb/weird/out of my mind for feeling that way. I'm not one of those women who just wants to date younger guys. In fact, the youngest guy I've ever been with up to this point was a year older than me (which is part of why I'm so taken aback from being so attracted to this guy). I'm almost old enough to be his mom. We flirt all the time. When we are flirting I love it, but afterwards I always feel so weird and stupid for flirting with a guy whose almost young enough to be my son. A huge part of me feels it's just plain stupid and crazy for me to be so attracted to/interested in a guy so much younger.

I really wish I felt this way about a guy my own age, but there's no one my age I'm even close to as attracted to as him. Is me feeling this way really stupid and/or weird? Am I totally out of my mind?

[Anonymous]

You’re not wrong that’s for sure. That’s what men have been trying to tell women all along. I get it some women say he could be my son. Age wise sure but he’s not your son. Now w that said, what exactly are you looking for? If you’re looking for a fling maybe he’s up for that, but if you’re looking for more I’d make sure first. At his age he may be looking for something serious, but chances are it would be w someone his age or a little younger as he may want children. So make sure first that he’s even interested, then establish what exactly he’s interested in. I remember when I was 24, working at the hospital, I met this girl, same age as you. She kept coming around more. One day I went to her place, one thing led to another. Man she schooled me on a lot of things sexually. She’d ride me then give me head after, then ride me again. Probably why I think that’s sexy now. Ok too much info, but just make sure you know what he wants, if you’re ok w it than have at it. I just wouldn’t want you to get your feelings hurt if you’re expecting more.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think you should pursue it. It is nothing for a 47 year old guy to go out with a 25 year old girl, kind of a double-standard if you can't flip the situation. So you shouldn't feel uncomfortable.

If it were me, I would go slow though and feel him out. Some young guys chase after mature women than them, bc they are in it for the sex alone. Don't rush into anything and make sure his intentions are honest.

If he is a nice guy, he will treat you the way you're suppose to be treated.

[Guy13]

Ode to Spring and surviving the Holidays' penned up aggression... Who am i to say anything as a 19 years old (look 25) undergraduate and a 42 year old Nurse where I worked in PT/OT departments. Don't fall in love and he better be learning "tricks" of the trade...

[coachTanthony]

No not at all. I say go for it unless he is your professor or some shit.

[mobiusforniner]

I recognize most of the opinions here say go for it, but honestly, in his mind, you're just meat and I, for one, dont wish for some young horny 25 year old to take advantage of a womans feelings because, in all likelihood, he doesn't care.

I say this because he won't view you as long term material- but just a fun time. Its not fair to you because you are very likely wanting to feel loved and valued and have something lasting. The prospect of a young hot guy being interested in you im sure is quite thrilling. Just dont expect him to stick around for long.

If you're fine with that, then thats your call.

[LickwidSkie]

You're both adults and capable of making decisions for yourselves. Yes, that is a big age difference but we can't exactly control who we're attracted to. The right person doesn't just come along on a regular basis and you might end up seriously regretting it if you don't act on it. I say if you both feel it's something you want, go for it. As far as anybody hating over it, it's not about their happiness; it's about yours and his.

[Lycirian]

Just because an age difference doesn't mean you got to feel bad. If a guy that is round 50 have a girl on his side which is 20 everybody is OK with that.

Suddenly what? The world have a problem with a women which is round 40 dating or being with a guy who is round 20? Even if they had a problem it is there problem not yours so give a damn about them.

Pro and contra and everything I red is pro so go with it you will be fine and he too trust me.

[Angelo75]

Oh don't.
I've been a guy that had the best relationships with women of older age.
Mature women tend to be less complicated and easy going.
They tend to know how to treat a man well.
Aaaand... when they get in bed, they'll make the guy see stars.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I banged 40-year-olds when I was 25. Maybe not the material for a long-term relationship, but a good time was still a good time.

He's a dude so I bet his mind isn't going to be much different than mine was.

[Berethor]

Yea you almost old enough to be his mom, and you also not be able to give him children, so really is would likely be a short live relationship, the question is if you okay with that.

[JSmuve]

Imagine if this was the other way around. A lot of people would call the guy a predator and creep. So to not spare you the double standard, you should probably leave the poor guy alone and go after a guy your own age.

[Sunssong]

I always wonder that tbh. Like everyone encourages her and that fine but would they do the same if the genders were reversed?

[JSmuve]

@Sunssong its unlikely that they would. My experience is women online like to flame guys because they inherently view guys as predatory and only wanting sex while they victimize themselves and believe that they're infallible when it comes to men. So a woman going after a guy 16 years younger is in the right because she's innocent and he's a big, strong man who knows what he's doing. However, a man going after a woman 16 years younger is in the wrong because he's "preying" on her naivete and innocence, even though she might have more experience than he does.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

The only thing that matters at your stage is what the guy thinks. Is he cool with it? Maybe not? What?

[Kinkyhubby]

Are you married? Going through a divorce? Is he your kids friends? Is he an ex student? If they are all no, then go for it. My wife is 11 1/2 Younger then me, so you are just a little more then that have have and see where it goes.

[Part2603]

It's fine as long as you don't insist that he "man up" and marry you after you've had your fling.

[Fireguy17]

tough call.
He might just be into a cougar, you never know.
Why not see if you can take it to the next level?

[abc3643]

Go for it.
When I was 33, I had the hots for a woman turning 49...

[Jdjfjcjj]

She's just insecure, and likely regrets life choices she made in her 20s and early 30s

[Wade12345]

Go for it! Love doesn't care about age differences.

[Anonymous]

I didn't read it because I didn't need to. It may be unorthodox but you do you, Booboo.

As long as it works for you both and you're both old enough to legally consent...

[Anonymous]

Go for it I had a great fling with a 40 year old woman when I was 21 one summer and we had a blast

[Anonymous]

It's only crazy if you think there is a happily ever after.

[boobliker]

go for it he will have fun if you get him I am sure