Do men wanna hear about past partners and what they did to you?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This is a complicated question, and the answer may vary depending on the individual man and the context of the situation. Some men may be interested in hearing about their partner's past experiences and sexual history, as it can be a way to build intimacy and trust in the relationship. Others may feel uncomfortable or insecure hearing about their partner's past partners or sexual experiences.

It is important to approach discussions about past partners and sexual experiences with sensitivity and respect for your partner's feelings and boundaries. It is also important to consider your own motivations for sharing this information, and to ensure that it is done in a way that is consensual and respectful.

Ultimately, the decision to share information about past partners and sexual experiences is a personal one that should be made based on your own comfort level and the dynamics of your relationship. It is important to prioritize open and honest communication with your partner, and to respect each other's boundaries and feelings.

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

This would depend on how secure the two of you feel about yourselves and your relationship. We have an underlying curiosity of our partner's past experiences, but the most meaningful part of that is to discover what our partner learned from that experience rather than just the details alone. If either person feels insecure, details can limit your present relationship. Details can lead them to feel they are constantly being compared. This leads to a constant need to prove oneself or avoidance of anything that might have been shared with a previous partner, to prevent our partner from being disappointed.

Avoid sharing details that come across as bragging (ie focusing on quantity or frequency or variety). You won't prove your worth to your partner by exaggerating past feats. Never give more than your partner seeks, and never encourage your partner to seek more.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

😂 no no no girl all that will do is is poss make him jealous and make him want more stuff. Like tell him you tried anal with one guy, and now you gotta do anal with him again or he feels slighted 😂

KarinMcDonald · Accepted Answer

I'm sure that it all depends on the man. I can say with certainty that when I talk about my own sexual adventures with my husband, he gets visibly turned on!

AviatorTom · Answer

My SO has told me of some of her past encounters. If she wants to tell me, that's fine, and I'm sometimes turned on by them, which leads to some great sex. But I wouldn't ask, and I certainly wouldn't demand she tell me all about her past, just like I wouldn't expect her to ask (or demand) about my past.

AimeeKyle · Answer

Some do and some don’t. I am one of those that do. I do because I want to know as much about you as possible and understand your likes / dislikes. Examples help me do that quicker. And the stories can be kinda interesting / fun (we all have a past, why sweep it under the rug and pretend it didn’t happen every time we get a new SO).

Paige90 · Answer

Most guys I know want to know how many I have done and what I have done with them. I have no problem being honest with them but they have to do the same with me.

Motiv8edMan248 · Answer

It depends on if it's in like a sexual nature a lot of cuckolds would love to, but if it's like emotions and how they hurt you and the trauma of it most men don't want to hear that however good men will still listen

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

Sam do. Sam might feel insecure about it. Personally, it turns me on. You may feel free to tell me about your past partners and what they did to you. :-)

Anonymous · Answer

This is a fine line. No guy wants a woman who's always playing the victim. Guys are natural problem solvers we want to fix things. No guy wants to hear a woman whine about her past relationships. But we would like to help you heal. So unless you're saying it to say, "this is a soft spot for me" as a fair warning to him to NOT make this mistake with you. Or to be cognizant that this is a soft with you. Then don't say it.

weysally · Answer

there are a lot that wants to know,, it's like they then have something on you if things go wrong,

Soldieronamission · Answer

Perhaps I'm in the minority but I am interested in knowing what they did and more so what they enjoyed. Helps to know what to do and yes it can be a turn on as well.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

eh… I might want to hear about it in a very brief and cursory fashion. That stuff is in the past. At a certain point (before you start dating me), you have to move on from the past.

Backwood1988 · Answer

Well in my eye I think that I would like to know so I would if I am bigger and maybe better or you might tell me something that you like and learn new things about you and stuff

MrCommodore · Answer

No, never, its a bad idea to share this type of info.

AydenHazor · Answer

I want to hear about what a woman likes, regardless of the context, because it will help me please her better.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I would only want to know in two situations: if she has issue from it and needs help to deal with the issues or if she cheated, which would make me not want to be with her in the first place.

Miristheiss · Answer

The more you have slept around the more you are only worth a hookup and not a relationship.

Andres77 · Answer

I've never shamed a girl for her past. i do like knowing about all a girls past experiences, in detail

notwoke · Answer

No, even if they say they do, they will end up butt hurt about it after you spill the beans, just say no

bowenw · Answer

I don't ask but I'm okay with it if she finds it important to tell me.

Alex8736 · Answer

TBH what happened in the past with exes should stay in the past focus on the present moment

Nerdvana · Answer

Are you referring to sexually or abusively?

Anonymous · Answer

No. And women don't want to hear about a man's past sexual experience with other women.

SunnyRS · Answer

I have no problem listening about past partners as long as the discussion doesn't go towards sex.

jjj101010 · Answer

I don’t think that helps anything personally

Notsoshyguy1985 · Answer

Let bygones be bygones I say and here is to a bright future

Talksik6 · Answer

Yes I know i get turned on hearing about past partners

Anonymous · Answer

It depends. If you had a doubke anal i prefer not to know.

SnowedIn · Answer

Don't care really. The past is the past.

Guy13 · Answer

No thank you.

FeelingGroovy · Answer

Not usually, but some guys LOVE it.

Stevefiveo · Answer

Nope.

exitseven · Answer

I don;t really care about them.

msc545 · Answer

Unimportant and irrelevant.

In_Trance · Answer

Some do, but most can't handle it

Guardian45 · Answer

Yes, but only in context of a discussion

QuietRunner · Answer

not really, but sometimes

playerr · Answer

I don't think all men want to hear

Oliverklozoff · Answer

Because it turns some of us on. Lol.

riverrat3 · Answer

Curious yes, but not my business

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Nope

marish01 · Answer

Only cucks do

BrookeS · Answer

Yes I would

Rohaan2020 · Answer

Not really

dinojames22 · Answer

Kinda

Anonymous · Answer

no you whore

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely.

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