How do you sustain or gain your self-confidence? and how do you get the confidence to try new things when you're a shy person?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

In most cases, confidence is faked until it becomes real.

To gain confidence you need to start small. Set tasks for yourself throughout the day and every time you accomplish that task, reward yourself with something small. Let yourself get excited when you've completed the task no matter how small or how dumb it might seem. Positive reinforcement is the best tactic to build positive patterns in the brain. Also, when people compliment you, allow yourself to fully believe they are being genuine. Agree with them in your head. Maybe even writing down the compliments on paper. Another strategy is through building self love. On a daily basis, make time to write down 3-5 things you like about yourself. Could be anything from physical aspects to personality aspects to just being proud of yourself for certain things you've overcome/accomplished in life. Self-love is the driving factor behind real self confidence.

To gain confidence in trying new things, I've always found that it helps me to bring someone else along for encouragement. Whether it's just having their presence there or having them actually tell me I can do it and verbally support me. Again, it's about positive reinforcement. Another strategy is simply forcing yourself to try new things. Baby steps are great! Sometimes just showing up to a place/event is enough of a boost to push me. I get easily embarrassed by thinking about how other people would think of me/my actions so sometimes when I force myself to show up and that pressure of other people judging me for not doing it will force me into actually doing the thing I'm nervous about doing. Hope this was helpful for you.

[burlen]

Start small: Take on small challenges that are within your comfort level and gradually increase the difficulty as you gain confidence. For example, making eye contact and starting a conversation with a stranger or asking someone for their opinion or advice.

Practise self-care: Engage in activities that make you feel good about yourself, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies.

Surround yourself with positive people: Surround yourself with people who support and encourage you, rather than those who bring you down.

Reframe negative thoughts: Instead of focusing on your fears and insecurities, try to focus on the positive aspects of the situation and what you can gain from it.

Focus on progress, not perfection: Don't expect perfection from yourself and recognise that making mistakes is a natural part of learning and growing.

[Guy13]

Stop festering like an old lady and try interfacing with the women. It will come ti you overtime.