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If a person has had 3 + girlfriends or boyfriends in relationships but all failed, does that person just have a bit of bad luck or are they the problem?
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No, that doesn't automatically indicate a problem. Not at all.
It's possible that "you're the problem" but if that's the case, then you would have been made aware of it. Or it would be fairly obvious to you. If, for example, there is a common theme to WHY the three relationships failed... then it might indicate a problem with you (or a problem with how you conduct yourself in relationships).
If, however each relationship had it's own issues, and ended for it's own reasons (not because all three felt that you were selfish and didn't take their feelings into account or something like that) then it's not a problem with you.
Having three relationships fail is... very very very very very normal. Most people have had more than 3 failed relationships. I would hazard a guess that most people in Love today, have more than 3 failed relationships.
That is not a number that is problematic on it's own. Not at all. Not even close.
So unless there is something in the feedback you're getting from each of the relationships that didn't work-out, there is absolutely nothing to worry about in having 3 failed relationships. 🙂
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It's difficult to say without knowing the specific circumstances of each relationship. Sometimes relationships don't work out because of external factors such as distance, timing, or conflicting goals, and it doesn't necessarily mean that any one person is at fault.
However, if a person has been in multiple relationships that have all failed, there may be patterns of behavior or communication that are contributing to the breakdown of those relationships. It's important for that person to reflect on their past relationships and identify any areas where they may need to improve or change their approach.
For example, they may need to work on communication skills, managing expectations, or resolving conflicts in a healthy way. It's also possible that they may need to take some time to work on themselves and develop a stronger sense of self-awareness and self-worth before entering into another relationship.
It's important to remember that relationships are complex and involve two people, so it's not always helpful to assign blame or label one person as "the problem." Instead, it's important for both partners to take responsibility for their own actions and work together to build a strong and healthy relationship.
I think it depends on:
1) The age - If still in high school or below, sometimes, it's a revolving door for them or conveyor belt. It's a contest to see who's dated the most people, or the most popular one, etc.
2) If they are just playing the field and both parties are OKAY with it and no body is leading anybody on. They are "proud" Bachelors and aren't ready to settle down. You usually see these people between 18 to 25 or so.
3) Lastly yeah, it could definitely be them. They have to look deep within themselves, self reflection and see what it is they truly want out of a relationship. It can mean different things to different people. Some just want a fuck buddy, some just want someone so they aren't lonely. Some just want internet flings. It really varies, but I can safely say that most that are dating are looking to marry, find love and start families. At least that is what I have observed with like 75 to 85% of the population. They are very traditional like that. Wanting to please their families and society. Also, wanting to reproduce.
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It can be many things:
1. They fall victim to predators. Men or women who prey on their kindness and hopeless romantic mentality in order to manipulate them into sex or money.
2. They haven't met someone who they're compatible with. Sometimes you dont know a person until you've actually dated or been around them long enough.
3. They are the problem because they have a type that's not suitable for them. For example, they may have grown up in a toxic home so they pursue unhealthy individuals for relationships.
4. Or they could be a problem in a way that they're cheaters, liars or manipulators.
Overall, it's up to you whether you choose to accept these qualities or not.
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Depends on how old they are. 3 failed relationships by the time they're 20 could indicate a personal problem. By 50, that would be totally expected.
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Most relationships fail. And look how fast teenagers get together with and break up with each other. So it's no big deal most of the time.
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I wouldn’t say they’re necessarily the problem. First off , I don’t think three relationships is a lot. If someone had 15 failed relationships, then my answer would be different and I would say they’re most likely the problem.
but 3 relationships failing isn’t saying much. It could be bad luck with choosing partners, it could be a “right person, wrong timing” situation, or yes it could be that they’re the problem.
but you still can’t know for sure based on so few relationships tbh - 3.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Not bad luck. It is a problem. Poor choice and decision making and yes there might be other issues as well which needs to be resolved.
This is in general, but without knowing the actual reason as to what happened that lead to 3 failed relationships it would not be fair to comment on what could be the exact cause.
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It could be both.
Many people seem to concentrate more on looks vs the person as a whole.
There is a lot more to someone than looks, big boobs whatever.
You have to enjoy actually being with that person.
So, if you are guilty of that type of behavior pattern then it is you that will need to reassess your dating strategy and figure out what to do differently.
Sometimes the person you are with turns out to be someone different than their representative that you first met.
Meaning that they were presenting themselves differently than who they really are.
Sometimes even after doing all of the careful research for any number of reasons it just doesn't work out so you part company and move on. -
yes. I am currently doing an friends with benefits with a guy who keeps talking about a shit ton of his exes. I immediately know that there is something wrong with him. You don't want to be with someone who had too many failed relationships. It shows poor judgement when it comes to picking partners or possible issues with his character / personality. If he's had 6-8 exes by the time he is 30, you will likely be his next ex.
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Depends on the person? You could be fine but just happened to date people who weren't right for you, you may have your own issues you need to fix. There are like, so many possibilities out there and it wouldn't be fair to assume that everyone who has been in a handful of failed relationships is problematic.
Personally, I had struggle with having boundaries and building healthy attachments.
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Every woman attracted to me it seems is either living an ocean away or else severely mentally ill. I'd at this point sooner take my chances with a level-headed railroaded "felon" woman than have to deal with yet another funny farm escapee.
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Mix of both, we all have a personality type we like it could be you or I could be you need to find a different personality type of gal I don’t know what caused the break ups, but look at what cost to break up, so maybe change your ways. And if you think your ways are valid then try looking for another type of girl. I’m probably gonna have to go with a Christian girl I don’t want to go with a Christian girl that’s probably what I’m going to have to do it myself.
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It depends. If all 3 were the same kind 9f person and the relationships ended for the same reasons, then I would say they do not learn from the past and are doomed to repeat the pattern.
If all 3 ended for different reasons, maybe they were unlucky, but they still have a decent chance of success in the future because at least they learned from the past and didn't make the same choices again that already didn't work out before.
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Relationships fail for all kinds of reasons, and that can change depending in what stage of life you're in. Having multiple reactionships in late teens/early 20's is pretty normal. If someone is in their 30's and still only having relationships last a year max then it would raise some questions
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Take time to know her it's not an overnight thing. First before jumping into bed
take time to know them, and find out your compatibility, before you create child support. Time is in your favor. You don't buy the first car you test drive.
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Every relationship is different
It could mean either they have bad traits or the other person did
I won’t repeat what others said
It does depend
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I had a lot of serious bad relationships in my younger years. I'm glad I did because I found the right person in my life. It helps to around the person out. Having several failed relationships will help you look at how to change your life to meet the right person.
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Not necessarily, not everything is forever and if a relationship ends it can also be a good thing! Not every relationship is good, some relationships are very toxic or you just part ways in your views and so on
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If relationships were easy, it wouldn't be worth the effort. As it is such a long term thing in your life, is it not worth some risk for a great reward?
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Neither. Most relationships fail. If you only start a relationship in the naive belief that it may be the last relationship you ever have because it's going to last, then you're definitely going to fail because you will have no experience of navigating the pitfalls every relationship has.
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Uh I think 3 is a bit to few to say anything for certain, not gonna say someone is hopless cause " 3 whole relationships" didn't pan out.
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Depends on who has the issues in those relationships
Considering they've all failed, I believe that person may be at fault, but who knows -
Depends on the reasons the relationship fell apart, but I don't typically hold people's pasts against them.
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