Is getting a girlfriend mostly based on luck?

[Unit1]

Or how else would you explain, that there are guys, who can get girlfriends easily like they aren't really trying and then there are guys, who despite all the effort they put into dating can't get even just one?

Mostly? Getting a girlfriend IS based on luck entirely!

I agree, getting a girlfriend is mostly based on luck

Luck is involved in it for sure but not a very big factor in success

I disagree. Getting a girlfriend is not based on luck

Other

[TonyBologna25]

I’ve seen your posts for years now, and you sort of have a toxic attitude towards dating. I believe you praised Elliot Rogers at one point on this website. Kind of alarming to be quite honest. I apologize for this analytical analysis of you as I gather this might be uncomfortable, but I think you’re a decent guy who’s had some unfortunate experiences with women that have sort have warped your views. I’m not going to write a novel here, but there are great women out there, but they are harder to find. The reason you’re not having luck with women has most likely got to do with your attitude. Your demeanor. Even ugly people have relationships, so it’s not just appearance. I’d work on having a more positive outlook in women as a whole, and you’ll prly attract better women to your life. Really the only solution is to try, otherwise you’re going to end up continuing with the dating life you have now... which you know you’re not happy with. Not all women are feminist, cheating slurs who are entitled and materialistic. I get it, progressive society has got women some type of way and dating can be shitty in liberal part of the US right now, but really women are out there.

One definition of insanity could be described as to continue to do the same thing, and hope for a different result. Choice is yours man.

[Unit1]

At some point i had Elliot Rodger as my avatar only as a joke.
Few days later the admins removed it because some members of GAG got offended by it whereas others found it funny.
I did describe in one of my articles "why i don't consider myself a nice guy" how as an example of Elliot Rodger was not a good guy and why it's no wonder he couldn't get a woman.

My problem with dating is that I'm a migrant and i have limited proficiency in their language. Add to it the cultural difference and that's the perfect recipe to be a single man indefinitely. I want to go back home but i don't have a home. I must make my home in Europe or the US.

[coachTanthony]

Luck meaning being in the right place and the right time YES. But as for when you are in the right place and right time you still need some communication skills to connect with people.

I believe LUCK is generated by the extent of how we live. Motion creates emotion... If people sit on their couch and don't go out you will be SHIT OUT OF LUCK!

[AuroraRoseat]

No. Luck is random chance. It has nothing to do with it. The odds of a woman being interested in you isn't due to luck: it pertains to objective reality. Skill is necessary also: I feel that more women would be interested in a man who ISN'T socially awkward, knows how to read the atmosphere, knows how to deal with uncomfortable or extending silence etc.

[Inneedofusername]

The fact that some guys get girlfriends easily and others do not is the proof that it's all based on skill, not luck. The same goes for women. First, there are looks. And then there are other factors like the way someone walks, talks, behaves, reacts. Those are things that we dont have much control over. But those things determine one's attractiveness

[OlderAndWiser]

Finding a girlfriend results from putting yourself in the right place to meet eligible women, having confidence, and playing the numbers game: approach enough women and one will say yes.

You need to see yourself as a winner and not as a loser, because losers have excuses and winners have results!

[Unit1]

Is being rejected because you don't have social media an excuse?

[OlderAndWiser]

Did every girl reject you because you aren't a social media herd member?

[Unit1]

It happened half a dozen times. The communication stopped completely either immediately or shortly afterwards.

[crazy8000]

Little to many factors.
Just don't think you're lucky, that's just to put someone up on a pedestal. she is as lucky as you in that case.

Both of you must do the dance of triggering each other feelings, enough of different ones.
Both must put some effort show they are in to you in more ways than just showing body or sex.

(the deserving game is only a game to create power structure dynamic relationship who has most power and control. not really love)

If she only waits on you to do everything and should automatically get feelings for her.
That's a unhealthy relationship in progress.
Personal do I recommend to ditch her, there are a lot of them with nothing special to offer as a person no matter what they claims. (hidden selfish agenda in progress)

Effort and action couldn't.

[Unit1]

The last paragraph is very accurate!

[Korand]

It definitely has nothing to do with luck, it ultimately depends on you as a person, if that means you need a bit of skill of how to talk to females sure, if it means you need skill on how to dress properly sure. But I don't really think skill is it either. Most people are attracted to each other without having any previous interaction before that. If they like each other they like each other. No skill no luck...

Does that make sense to you?

[Unit1]

Sort of yeah.

[lightbulb27]

I think there is some luck in that she and you meet in space and time, and she has to be in some available state. But so much of it is your ability to engage in the right way, converse, project the image that attracts her and get the first date. for some people that is easy, others it is a lot of learning and repeated pain and suffering as they fine tune. We all learn by repetition, practice, and that's how it is.
I'll say this, the aggressive bird gets the worm, not the early bird:)!

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

I don't know, but my brother gets girls all the time, he has nothing to offer.
He is fat, unemployed, has poor hygiene, and is rude
Women love him

I think some guys are destined for a life full of ladies.

[Unit1]

This is Very accurate.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

It makes 0 sense, like most women 😂
That's life 😔

[Unit1]

So it is.
It's like with everything in life. You're either bestowed with certain things or you're not. Women, genetics, a job, intelligence...

Live life. Some things can't be changed.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

Cheers to that!

[invalid1]

Luck is the probability of you meeting with a girl where your relationship will succeed in the right time and conditions.
Skill is your ability to make the relationship meaningful and lasting.

[Unit1]

This is very accurate.

[genericname85]

somewhat but if you consider it "luck", then it's just a numbers game so go and approach litterally every girl that you find even remotely attractive xD that way you'll find one eventually.

[Unit1]

Aye! Just what I was thinking!

[Jjpayne]

Is say a little bit of both, luck to find the right one and skill to present yourself to the girl in the most efficient and effective way possible

[SarahsSummer]

As with most successes in life, It’s a little luck, the right timing and effort.

[CreativeMumble]

It's about the right timing. And that might feel like luck sometimes.

[CubsterShura]

It's definitely partly based on luck, but not fully.

[sawno]

Finding the right girl is based on luck. Finding A girl can be done trough skill.

[Creepazoid]

Luck on your genetics. If your ugly to most people then obviously it will drastically lower your chances

[jirwin7979]

most girls go off looks or a bank account or what gen you are i have tried to meet new girls even just as a friend and they ghost me after they find out i have adhd and ptsd

[Slim57]

I guess you could say that. It's whatever traits you were born with, sometimes those traits help you in dating, making you luckier in that sense, or you're not good at dating but are good at something else

[jouqiytrwzpoin]

مرحبا 😂😂

[Anonymous]

Luck certainly plays a role, but mostly that is just creating opportunity you still have to be of interest.

[SilentWatchman]

I disagree. It's mostly based on charm, looks and personality, not necessarily in that order.

[13IsALuckyNumber]

I don’t know. I’ve never tried to get a girlfriend and never have, probably a blend of luck and skill.

[VaIiant]

Ahh.. honey to the INCEL flies. Run, run! They're descending!

[Anonymous]

Height, money and status. Women don't care about us as humans, it's all about what they can get out of us.