Do you tend to give more then you get in relationships?
People don't like hearing this but no relationship is ever 50/50. Someone is going to be more involved then the other person. That's just the reality of dating and relationships.
The best we can hope for is that we're given what we need most of the time and what we want some of the time.
Me personally, I receive more than I give.
When I was younger I was definitely a giver but honestly, for men, it does you more good to be a bit less involved. It plays more into the male/female dynamics and makes you far more desirable when you're able to project the "I want you" vibes while avoiding the "I need you" vibes.
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I've never been in a relationship. So, I'm only going off of friendships. It's come to my attention that I put more effort in most of the time. I'm never the one to be called unless they want something. I do have one friend that checks on me occasionally, but he's the only one.
IN ALL MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS
It is as if I have conditioned myself to accept this. But I hope and long for and cross my fingers that I will find that one person who can meet me 50/50 on the majority of the days and occasionally on some days 55/45 whether it is he or I carrying the difference or if I was to have a moment which I am seriously stressed out they would be willing to meet me 60/40
I feel like I receive more tangibly/physically, but I give more emotionally. Like in the last relationship I had it was mainly him buying me gifts, cooking me food etc, but emotionally he was a brat and I had to mother him constantly. It made me realize no amount of physical effort can make up for emotional misery.
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I think you should start working on it and try to know why you tend to give more than receive and I believe in the relationship it should be given to give and take because if you give too much the other partner will mostly run away and if you give too little little it still was not work
Lol I tend to give everything and receive nothing. That’s why I have so much anger today. I’m over it.
Everyone going to devalue what the other provides and think what they giving is more valuable.
I've seen both cases but when girl giving more, she terrible at picking guy. Guys generally need to offer more.
no. i don't. if you are giving 70 while she is giving 30, you might need to grow some self awareness. someone putting in 30 is not interested in you. she's only there because you give to her
In some relationships I have given much and they have not. In my current relationship, it balances out. We both give more, sometimes much more, in different areas and our various needs get me.
Don't waste your time with people like that go find someone else that is willing to give you as much as you deserve and need just as much as you give him/her
In my past relationships I do agree with that. My current relationship, we both give it our all. We both give each other 100 percent.
I strongly disagree. I think my husband gives more. I give too, but I feel like my part is easier and more rewarding.
No, cause I learned to have boundaries and I learned not bend myself all over for others or like go super out of my way just to please someone else
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I've never been in a relationship. However, I think that if I was right now, that could definitely happen. And of course, it's not good.
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In past relationships, definitely. In my current relationship, no.
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like this in 90% of all relationships I have with anyone.
Get used to it because marriage is a ninety / ten deal, and it is the woman who gives the ninety
I am in agreement with this statement. It seems I give more then I receive.
Agree. And apparently it's not enough. So I'm single.
Don’t know. I imagine responsibility dithers back and forth during relationships. Which is what makes romantic partnerships worth it.
Strongly agree
I've never been in a relationship.
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