"I tend to give more that I receive in a relationship." Agree or disagree?

[Still-alive]

Do you tend to give more then you get in relationships?

Strongly agree

agree

disagree

I strongly disagree

I've never been in a relationship

A total of 52 votes were cast: 28 girls and 24 guys. See detailed results

[SomeRandomGuy89]

People don't like hearing this but no relationship is ever 50/50. Someone is going to be more involved then the other person. That's just the reality of dating and relationships.

The best we can hope for is that we're given what we need most of the time and what we want some of the time.

Me personally, I receive more than I give.

When I was younger I was definitely a giver but honestly, for men, it does you more good to be a bit less involved. It plays more into the male/female dynamics and makes you far more desirable when you're able to project the "I want you" vibes while avoiding the "I need you" vibes.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I've never been in a relationship. So, I'm only going off of friendships. It's come to my attention that I put more effort in most of the time. I'm never the one to be called unless they want something. I do have one friend that checks on me occasionally, but he's the only one.

[meetkitty123]

IN ALL MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS

It is as if I have conditioned myself to accept this. But I hope and long for and cross my fingers that I will find that one person who can meet me 50/50 on the majority of the days and occasionally on some days 55/45 whether it is he or I carrying the difference or if I was to have a moment which I am seriously stressed out they would be willing to meet me 60/40

[meetkitty123]

The quote in the picture gives me chills at the very end
"IT MAKES ME FEEL AS I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH TO HAVE SOMEONE GIVE ME THEIR ALL"
IT'S AS IF someone snuck INTO MY MIND and read my most intimate inner thoughts.

It's what's so often goes through my head almost daily when I think of my past relationships

"I WILL NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH OR DESERVING OF SOMEONE WHO WILL GIVE ME THEIR ALL AND MORE.
It is I who will always have to be the greater person it is I who will always have to yield... I would love to meet one person who could understands how much burden I carry and how much MORE I am willing to keep adding on as if I am the one rare camel who's back will never break... Become deformed Bend and ache... But never break... and for once reach out and take the painful load for me"... I have yet to meet such a person and I have resigned to the fact that I may never meet such a person... Yet regardless I do continue to cling to some shrinking wading hope... A slight spark... A whispering prayer... Maybe they're out there somewhere

[Still-alive]

I hope you do meet such a person as well. You deserve it in my opinion. *hugs*

[CubsterShura]

I feel like I receive more tangibly/physically, but I give more emotionally. Like in the last relationship I had it was mainly him buying me gifts, cooking me food etc, but emotionally he was a brat and I had to mother him constantly. It made me realize no amount of physical effort can make up for emotional misery.

[Still-alive]

He sounds immature frankly… and trying to buy your love then actually earning it.

[CubsterShura]

He was doing this more for himself than me really. Without going into too much details, I realized that he is a narcissist. All his efforts towards me stopped once he was convinced that he won me over.

[Sukaaa]

I think you should start working on it and try to know why you tend to give more than receive and I believe in the relationship it should be given to give and take because if you give too much the other partner will mostly run away and if you give too little little it still was not work

[itsalyssaagain]

Lol I tend to give everything and receive nothing. That’s why I have so much anger today. I’m over it.

[Still-alive]

Even though you get angry somehow you still come across as someone fun and engaging lol. You haven’t let it completely destroy you at least from my perspective

[itsalyssaagain]

Aw thanks!! Yes the thing about me is that I love life!! So I will feel angry or upset just as a human should, but I’ll come out of it because I think being sad is a waste of time

[Jdjfjcjj]

Everyone going to devalue what the other provides and think what they giving is more valuable.

I've seen both cases but when girl giving more, she terrible at picking guy. Guys generally need to offer more.

[Haha456]

no. i don't. if you are giving 70 while she is giving 30, you might need to grow some self awareness. someone putting in 30 is not interested in you. she's only there because you give to her

[SnowedIn]

In some relationships I have given much and they have not. In my current relationship, it balances out. We both give more, sometimes much more, in different areas and our various needs get me.

[Mimi_758]

Don't waste your time with people like that go find someone else that is willing to give you as much as you deserve and need just as much as you give him/her

[Sparkie460]

In my past relationships I do agree with that. My current relationship, we both give it our all. We both give each other 100 percent.

[TrueConfection]

I strongly disagree. I think my husband gives more. I give too, but I feel like my part is easier and more rewarding.

[melanieeeB]

No, cause I learned to have boundaries and I learned not bend myself all over for others or like go super out of my way just to please someone else

[menina]

I've never been in a relationship. However, I think that if I was right now, that could definitely happen. And of course, it's not good.

[petitedollbabee]

In past relationships, definitely. In my current relationship, no.

[wittymilf]

I feel

like this in 90% of all relationships I have with anyone.

[DARKCLOUD1945X]

Get used to it because marriage is a ninety / ten deal, and it is the woman who gives the ninety

[douride2]

I am in agreement with this statement. It seems I give more then I receive.

[TacosRAwesome]

Agree. And apparently it's not enough. So I'm single.

[OddBeMe]

Don’t know. I imagine responsibility dithers back and forth during relationships. Which is what makes romantic partnerships worth it.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Strongly agree

[llorando]

I've never been in a relationship.

[Ms_Facesitter]

About even I think