I understand, I used to be like that too but now she just wants me to be quiet and to not overexert myself, so I have to mostly do that.
I wonder why she'd want you to do that? You seem like someone who'd be equally a giver and taker!
Probably because she thinks I shouldn't have initiative or feels uncomfortable receiving
Does she like being dominant in the relationship then? Having the couple intiate equally would be the healthiest situation possible!
You are right, but now I know her well enough to know she doesn't want a equal relationship.
Does that bother you at all or are you ok with it?
On most things I'm fine with it. After all she's older and did tutor me in high school so it's natural we keep some of that relationship.But sometimes it's a bit frustrating when she cuts down on my initiatives or thinks I can't do things by myself.
She needs to have more faith in you! Both partners should be able to express their opinions and thoughts accordingly without feeling like their being shot down from a lack of perspective or knowledge.
Oh! Much appreciated for MHO! I continue to wish you and your beloved a healthy relationship :)
Thank you, I always try to ask interesting questions!I understand, I too used to be the primary giver (with my ex and my sister too), but my fiancée really wants me to be the taker. I think it's a bit because she's very generous, and a bit because she prefers to have everything under control. I still make her surprises and things she appreciates though.
That's good. It's nice to find someone who sees your past sacrifices and wants to make you comfortable and return the favor, whether or not the favor was directed towards them specifically.
Lol why was this down voted. Who is angry tuat I don’t espouse dormattism Yes yes giving should be done without keeping score. I agree. But giving should be done. PERIOD.. . It’s not keeping score to recognize you’re being used 😉
Maybe it's from someone who thinks relationships should be one-sided. I agree with you even though my relationship it's mostly one-sided.
You are in a specific situation and we all know who have followed you , you are very giving naturally.
Thank you. She says similar things, but for now she just wants me to be quiet and let her handle everything.
You took on a TON before. Maybe she’s trying to be helpful. Give you a rest. It doesn’t mean she’s right. Or wrong. Really depends on how you feel about it. I only mean that I think she can mean well.
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Oh- I did not know this was about sex.
When it comes to family and/or friends I like giving more. I have no idea why.
@Account That's not a bad thing.
B4 I am misunderstood I am just trolling myself and the question its a good question 👍🙂🤓
In every hole?