Do you consider yourself a giver or a taker in the relationship?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I settled into being a taker, since giving is precluded from me.
What about you?

[caring__1]

We're led to believe that opposites attract, yet similarities provide more stability over time. In a relationship between a giver and a taker, it's just a matter of time till the giver feels drained dry. A healthy relationship is balanced.

When two givers connect, they may at first feel confused as to who is giving and who is receiving. What they soon discover is they are actually sharing... an endless cycle that constantly refills our energy and desire resources.

No one is precluded from being a giver. Just be considerate, and show interest and tenderness. It's about quality, not quantity. If your partner doesn't appreciate the subtleties you add to the relationship, consider whether this is truly a healthy relationship.

[Aysen]

I'm definitely a giver! My submissive behavior and kind heart wouldn't ever tolerate taking more than what I give. I've always enjoyed giving my attention, affection and time to my girlfriend, so she knows how much I appreciate and love her with all my heart ❤ Although my girlfriend tries her hardest to mirror me so no one feels left out in the relationship which I do appreciate!

I know a lot of people will say it's important to balance both so one doesn't overtake the other but naturally, a lot of people can be on one extreme end of the spectrum or the other. There's just something so fulfilling about giving in a relationship that makes your heart feel fuzzy and warm inside. I'm sure we've all experienced this :)

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I understand, I used to be like that too but now she just wants me to be quiet and to not overexert myself, so I have to mostly do that.

[Aysen]

I wonder why she'd want you to do that? You seem like someone who'd be equally a giver and taker!

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Probably because she thinks I shouldn't have initiative or feels uncomfortable receiving

[Aysen]

Does she like being dominant in the relationship then? Having the couple intiate equally would be the healthiest situation possible!

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

You are right, but now I know her well enough to know she doesn't want a equal relationship.

[Aysen]

Does that bother you at all or are you ok with it?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

On most things I'm fine with it.
After all she's older and did tutor me in high school so it's natural we keep some of that relationship.
But sometimes it's a bit frustrating when she cuts down on my initiatives or thinks I can't do things by myself.

[Aysen]

She needs to have more faith in you! Both partners should be able to express their opinions and thoughts accordingly without feeling like their being shot down from a lack of perspective or knowledge.

[Aysen]

Oh! Much appreciated for MHO! I continue to wish you and your beloved a healthy relationship :)

[lanadelrey25]

Lol I probably seem like a serial question stalker of yours, but you have interesting questions so, you know. I am without a doubt the giver, I can literally give and give until I have nothing left to give, but I still manage to scrape up something to give. But that's not wise, it will sooner or later take a toll on me if the other person is abusing that.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Thank you, I always try to ask interesting questions!

I understand, I too used to be the primary giver (with my ex and my sister too), but my fiancée really wants me to be the taker. I think it's a bit because she's very generous, and a bit because she prefers to have everything under control. I still make her surprises and things she appreciates though.

[lanadelrey25]

That's good. It's nice to find someone who sees your past sacrifices and wants to make you comfortable and return the favor, whether or not the favor was directed towards them specifically.

[VIVANT]

Hmm I think I’m a giver who isn’t comfortable giving When its one sided, so it ends up balanced or the relationship doesn’t work. I get repelled.

[VIVANT]

Lol why was this down voted. Who is angry tuat I don’t espouse dormattism

Yes yes giving should be done without keeping score. I agree. But giving should be done. PERIOD.. . It’s not keeping score to recognize you’re being used 😉

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Maybe it's from someone who thinks relationships should be one-sided.
I agree with you even though my relationship it's mostly one-sided.

[VIVANT]

You are in a specific situation and we all know who have followed you , you are very giving naturally.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Thank you.
She says similar things, but for now she just wants me to be quiet and let her handle everything.

[VIVANT]

You took on a TON before. Maybe she’s trying to be helpful. Give you a rest. It doesn’t mean she’s right. Or wrong. Really depends on how you feel about it. I only mean that I think she can mean well.

[Guoluren]

I hate to take advantage of people. Neither do I want to be taken advantage of. A healthy relationship must be a win-win one in order for it to last till we breathe our last breath. I have always been a giver in all areas of my life and now trying so hard to give less.

[MercuryG]

Both. IMHO a healthy relationship will involve both giving and taking, usually in equal measure.

You have to be ready and willing to give 110% in a relationship, and know that your partner will do the same for that inevitable day when you need them to pick up your slack.

The moment you take this for granted, where you relax into letting them do the majority and give all the time, you're sabotaging the relationship.

[Account]

In an erotic relationship?

Both. I like balance. I hate when the other person gives more than I give and I hate when the other person takes more than I take from them.

I tend to mirror them. It works better for me.

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh- I did not know this was about sex.

[Account]

When it comes to family and/or friends I like giving more.
I have no idea why.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Account That's not a bad thing.

[I-C3_ME]

I'm primarily a giver but if i feel like you aren't putting effort in or something, then I'll slowly do it less and less. I feel like it should be a combo of both giving and taking, in a healthy/lasting relationship

[robvc1]

Normally I'm a giver.

But only when we are together.
She should want us to be together as much as possible in my opinion. And no don't give me any excuses I honestly don't care.
You either want to be together or you don't.

Now if we are together I would cherish you set tea help you with work and do on. Then I really am a giver in my opinion haha

[JosyJosy]

More of a giver. I don't expect gifts or favors... I sort of feel bad if he like 'spends' on me. As for the giving, I just like taking care of him, pampering him. Seeing him happy, makes me happy

[Kit_Kat88]

Money related I’m a taker because I like it when he provides and takes care of me in that manner. I’ll pitch in sometimes. Sexually I’m a giver because I care more if he’s satisfied. I’m a giver in the sense of affection and emotional support. I’d cook often for him too lol

[Trooper205]

I'm a giver ❤️
I think if I'm truly going to enjoy a Relationship, I will give to my Lover. Not necessarily material things, but Love. True Love. Kindness.

Plus, If the Love is mutual, You will have a Mate who Mirrors those actions. You'll get back what You give.

[roody]

I feel like a taker a lot of the time. I wish I was more of a giver.

[kawaiiguineapig]

giver 100%. i ALWAYS have given more love than i’ve received

[Dongtai]

Receiver and a giver. Not a taker. Unless she’s into that sort of thong.

[Dongtai]

Thing**

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I never had a relationship, so I am neither a giver nor a receiver I am just a loner with a boner sitting a corner 🤣

[Aakash_Hangargi]

B4 I am misunderstood I am just trolling myself and the question its a good question 👍🙂🤓

[DavidFox]

Usually a giver. Feel like if both people are givers most of the time it’s a successful relationship.

[Poppykate]

I give, but I also take. Relationships can make life easier, comfortable and just more beautiful.

[WilliamO]

You need to do both in a relationship if we are talking in general terms here, both people in a relationship have to put something into it otherwise it's just one sided and probably isn't a good relationship

[Anonymous]

I am a giver, primarily. But you constantly have to be on the alert for people who take and don't give in return.

[Unit1]

How about both? I'll be both. There's no competition who gives or takes more.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm a giver. But, sadly, I haven't found anyone who wants my love yet.

[OurManFlint]

I'm more of a taker. I do like to give but its self gratifying for me to give.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Giver as long she isn't asking to do favors i. e go buy this or fix this. Money wise I give.

[PrivSens]

Giver, but my guy loves it. So he kind of loves acts of service and melts even more. And then he gives and I take 😏

[Jessie91331]

I'm a taker, whenever he wants, I take his dick, and I take it multiple times

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

In every hole?

[FreyaRed]

Balanced. I don't take more than I give.

[Anonymous]

I'm definitely a giver. I'm a nurturer, and I like to take care of my guy.

[ItsTheNephilim]

I prefer both but giving more.

[Reign_Interrupted]

I give and take as needed. Balance is the key.

[jabberwocky00]

Definitely a taker

[Star177]

Both but I give more

[Alyssa11]

Both!

[Iron_Man]

I’m more of the giver

[pocketman]

Giver for sure

[DexWest]

Give and take. That’s what a relationship is

[msc545]

Both really.

[Aaliyahbabii]

Giver hands down

[jimmy2]

A little of both

[sheikalana]

A giver.

[Ripper_E]

IN what way?

[Twinrova]

Giver. Big time.

[LonewolfMeme]

I'm more of a giver

[clampfan101]

Giver. :)

[mrArcher]

50/50.

[allenwants2]

giver for sure

[knight2468]

Mostly giver