I have to choose between my bestie and my boyfriend. Who do I choose?

[Anonymous]

The story is.. I had a bad day. I need to talk with someone so I talked with my boyfriend that I can't come to his country because i will pay for my besties money and a everything she told me pay for me after a month she will give me my money back... unfortunately, my boyfriend told her boyfriend what i said to him and he was so mad because i canceled to come and he blame my besties and her boyfriend told my besties what i said. After that, she send me a big text and she told me our friendship is over and she blocked me. But I can not believe i went to her house I apology to her many times. I was so sad to told my boyfriend about her now i don't trust him. But I fight with him but i gave him a chance not to share a everything. My besties broke up with her boyfriend. And she figure that i did not breakup with my boyfriend. In the end , I have to choose between my bestie and my boyfriend. ! My besties she doesn't like my boyfriend if she knows i am still with him she will deleted me into her life forever ;(. What should I do?

[MementoMori777]

From what you are telling me the choice is already made, the friendship is over so your boyfriend is still with you so your boyfriend, he gotta learn how to not speak when he doesn't have too tho, I'm gonna reread that again, that was confusing

[MementoMori777]

I think I understand it now, is there a reason why your boyfriend opened his yap tho?

[Asker]

Sorry my English still bad 😭 but I stop talked with him for 2 week he called me many times he said sorry for sharing a word to his friend that he did not keep a secret So i gave him a chance but my besties she didn't gave me a chance and she never forgive me anymore She doesn't accept my apology because i felt bad to my self and put myself down for someone doesn't respect me and told me bad words in the end she put a choose...

[MementoMori777]

Your English is so broken it's adorable to read but if I understood it properly, it was a secret about your bestie that wasn't supposed to be said but your boyfriend decided to tell the boyfriend of your best friend?

[MementoMori777]

She found out and she got mad and unfriended you?

[Asker]

Yesss

[MementoMori777]

Did your boyfriend know it was suppose to remain a secret?

[Asker]

It was my fault to tell my boyfriend ;( i thought he will never told ;(

[Asker]

Yes but he doesn't keep it as a secret

[MementoMori777]

Okay so now my question is why did your boyfriend betray you like that, I don't understand, he did such a destructive thing and I'm trying to understand that, that seems like the real concern here, because now you lost your friend and your boyfriends trust, why did he do it? I want you to get an answer out of him cause that's flake af

[MementoMori777]

What were his intentions, you didn't do anything wrong except maybe talk bad about your friend, it's only logical that you thought you could trust your boyfriend with a secret cause relationships are build in trust but something is off, what was that about?

[Asker]

He told me it was a mistakes. He was a mad why you besties doesn't pay for her own a ticket why from you and that i am a canceled to come to his country because its over my budget she was a little mad at her boyfriend blame his girlfriend.. and her boyfriend told his girlfriend a everything that my boyfriend told him and he told him to keep it as secret when i figure he told me i never said that to my friend he was lier and i kept said many times until he said the truth and was so sorry..

[Asker]

Her boyfriend named hassen ,, hassen doesn't liked me as friendship with my besties because in old days he very jealous of my friendship. So he got a chance to told my friend about me and he knows its too bad to say he wanted to make big a problem with mee.. he sometimes put a choose between me and him and she told me my boyfriend told me me or him.. but she doesn't choose...

[Asker]

In the end its my bad to said my problem with anyone... at the same time i told my boyfriend i will come on summer as holiday but he was upset :/

[MementoMori777]

So that leaves us with two things, your boyfriend is a complete retard with no form of self awareness and for some reason he never thought of the idea of the boyfriend having more loyalty to his girl than him 🤦‍♂️

Or he did it on purpose for this reason because he doesn't like her and he wanted to ruin the friendship simply because he didn't find it fair that you are paying for her and her being the reason you can't see him and I'm sure other things overall end up building up, grudges and stuff, there's always a chance he just did it by accident and he's that slow but it sounds to me like you are just surrounded by a bunch of snakes, all talk shit behind each other's backs and it was unavoidable that this thing you call a friendship was gonna collapse, everyone around you rubs me off wrong, they all seem to match the same energy and they are drowning you in it

[MementoMori777]

You aren't wrong for trusting someone, they are wrong for breaking that trust, I just hope he didn't try to take things into his own hands and he plotted this

[MementoMori777]

Clearly when your boyfriend told her boyfriend, her boyfriend took it as an opportunity to ruin your friendship, he probably made it sound the worst way possible to your friend.

[MementoMori777]

You said he didn't like you so it makes sense he didn't hold back, your boyfriend tho, how didn't he know her boyfriend would blab to her tho?

[Asker]

My friendship is over from yesterday.. she doesn't wanted me and her boyfriend too. She told me i am so happy without you leave me a lone you are bad a friend.. she always doo a stuff bother me but i never told her about... before she end our friendship she told everyone about my old secret she share everything its broke mee a lot she told my mom , my other friend and her mom that it was a secret. I have many secret about what she do but i still never said to her parent i will never do because it broke her more as she did at me and all my friend blame me for it and when she share my old secret.. even my friend ship is over i will not ever share old secret to her parent or her friend it will be a big a problem but she did it to me. If you end your friendship why you open old secret and you destroy my trust with my family..

The real friendship if they want to move on not sharing a secret that is very danger to say because its might be worst to happen to someone... she doesn't have anything to hurts only sharing my old secret to my family her friends her mom that broke my hurts i have worst she done in past but i would never say to anyone...

[Asker]

In the end i will move on from her and my boyfriend its hard at the same times my friend she hurts me because she shared risky my old secret ;(

[MementoMori777]

Wow, so it's like Dat, she's so toxic, at least now you won't have her wasting your money, time, patience and effort, it's better this way, she would have dragged you down anyways, at least you got your boyfriend, that's all that matters right, he still got a big mouth tho, this happened yesterday, that was the worst part, from here things should get better, life got it's ups and downs, you get back up and keep going, it might not seem like it now but this is good, this had to happen, separate from toxicity, you'll be alright, she was never a friend, just a fake persona feeding off you like a leech, she never deserved you as a friend, cheer up 🙂🙃🙂🙃🙂🙃🙂

You got that summer trip to look forward too now 😄💯🙏

[Asker]

I will broke up with him because when i see him i remember my old days it happen. I can't trust i will move on with both of them.. i need a break of fall in love...

[MementoMori777]

Only you know what you need, if you need that break then you take that break, I believe It will be good for your health, I can't imagine how it's like being with someone you can't trust, what I hate is seeing others grow trust issues, because everyone gets trust issues from betrayal and lies and dishonesty so seeing you trust someone and seeing your devastation when they broke it lowkey broke a part of me as well, take it from someone that has trust issues, take that break if you gotta and take a breather, everyone needs one at some point, you'll know when you are ready to jump back in, I hope things get better and don't forget there's one you can always trust, God, will never do you wrong, I wish you only the best on your healing process. 💯🙏

[Asker]

Thank you for your words its really helpful 🙇🏻‍♀️💗

[Marked_Man]

I don't think your bestie or your boyfriend are good. They both sound like they're not good to you. He is a selfish, jealous ass who can't deal with waiting or coming up with the money himself, and your bestie basically is a lousy friend if she broke the friendship without allowing your side or allowing you to decide. They are both selfish.

[Marked_Man]

by the way, keep your money. Let them get their own money. If friendship is relying on money, it's a shitty friendship. Don't give your boyfriend or any friends money.

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to say who you should choose between your best friend and your boyfriend. Ultimately, it's a personal decision that only you can make based on your own values, priorities, and feelings.

It's important to take the time to reflect on what matters most to you in your relationships, and to communicate openly and honestly with both your best friend and your boyfriend about your feelings and concerns. It may be helpful to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals, such as a therapist or counselor, who can offer guidance and support as you navigate this difficult situation.

Remember, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and to make choices that align with your values and goals, while also respecting the feelings and boundaries of others. It may be possible to find a way to maintain both your friendship and your romantic relationship, but it may also be necessary to make a difficult choice if the two are ultimately incompatible.

Whatever you decide, it's important to approach the situation with empathy, respect, and open communication, while also prioritizing your own needs and values.

[Iron_Man]

Keep them both don’t take any sides. Don’t listen to them if they want to walk away then they’re a holes for walking out of your life, making you choose. You probably have known your best friend a lot longer, but he is still your boyfriend

[Alex8736]

a happy medium where he is cool with spending time with friends and family