Why, why not?
2 mo
Are you afraid at least a bit to get cheated on behind your back or you have no fear about potentially getting cheated on while in a relationship?
No I am not. My mind simply says oh well. I was cheated on and it hurt badly but honestly it was one of my most easiest breakups. The breakup was so instant and quick it was easier to simply accept it was over. (But honestly I still would have preferred a quick and sudden break up over the humiliation of being cheated on)
I refuse to live in fear of being cheated on... That will just ruin every relationship I ever have. However that does not mean I am passive and will allow a person to cheat on me. If I was to discover solid evidence that my partner is leaning towards cheating on me (which has happened to me) I will nip it in the ass immediately.
And I learned a lesson it's best to breakup with someone than to cheat on them... I mean if you care about them at all...
It's just kinder to break up with a love one you either no longer happy with or you no longer are fully satisfied with them than to hurt them worst by cheating.
Ps
In the situation where I became suspicious because of things not adding up (arriving home late from work claiming to be with so and so and discovering they were elsewhere and an odd sneaking behavior that wasn't there before and seeing he became friends with an ex on FB when he wasn't friends with them before we were together) led me into having to look into the situation and only fueled by the odd behavior I discovered conversation via text messages and Facebook that my husband was beginning to attempt an affair. With actual proof and a little further investigating I discovered he had been stopping at a coffee shop and staying there for over 30mins instead of his normal behavior which was to stop at a gas station to quickly buy scratch off tickets before coming home.
So with evidence at hand I waited for him on the steps of our front door to arrive (late) from work. He was so happy with a shitty looking grin and had such a pep to his step he didn't even notice my presence until he nearly bumped into me. His damn smile faded quick (I'm sure my arms crossed over my chest and my dagger shooting glare had something to do with it). He mumbled a hello and tried to step by me to walk into the house but I blocked his way.
Demanding where have you been and quickly dismissing his lies of having to work late and correcting him with the truth of the exact time he left work and the exact time he made his extra detour (I tracked his phones gps) to the exact time he left his unnecessary detour.
I dismissed his "I don't know what you are talking about" and step right up to him making him take a step down and told him
You listen to me clearly! I'm not dumb and Im quite handy when it comes to technology (tossing in a right out lie I told him I had our car insurance install a GPS tracker in our cars in case they are ever stolen and I know exactly where you been these past few days)
He gave me a shitty clever grin and a I don't care shrug saying so what I stopped for coffee. To which I tossed in and you also befriended your ex and texted her to meet up with you all week.
He aimed to say something but I cut him off and I released all the sinister deadly Latina heat we Female Puerto Ricans are known to have as I told him...
I know you. I know you have cheated on your previous wife by your own admition. Know you hate condoms and will refuse to use them. I also no you have no qualms about sleeping unproductively with another woman and happily coming home to sleep with another Now I also know you know I am breastfeeding my son. So let me tell you something you may not know I will not sit by and be knowingly cheated on. I will divorce your ass and I will take everything I can from you in a court of law.
AND MAY GOD HELP YOU AND YOUR SOUL IF YOU GAVE ME ANY DISEASE which then was transferred to my son through his breast milk. Now where God and not even the law will be able to protect you is if you give me an incurable disease!
BUT LET ME CONTINUE TO SAY IT IS ONE THING TO GIVE ME SUCH A DISEASE BUT IF MY SON WAS TO COME DOWN WITH HIV I SWEAR AS THE LORD IS MY WITNESS YOU ARE A GONER! LET ME FIND OUT MY SON HAS A TERMINAL DISEASE BECAUSE OF YOU! YOU WILL NOT LIVE TO SEE ANOTHER DAY AND YOU KNOW WHAT ON THE ACCOUNT OF INSANITY I WILL BE FOUND INNOCENT!
(now by the time I got to this stage I had taken so many steps towards him he was no longer on the stairs and was on the walk way.)
my nostrils were flailing I don't know if I had ever experienced so much anger in my life!
I then asked him with all the venom which was boiling through my veins "Do I have any reason to fear HIV being transferred to me or my son? And I don't care Whether or not you a condom or not though I know you wouldn't have. Tell me now DOES MY SON AND I NEED A STD TEST?"
He quickly But silently shook his head no.
My shoulders dropped and I nodded
And said
I hope to God we never have to have another conversation like this again but I also hope that if you EVER find yourself in the situation where you want to cheat that you have enough sense and respect for me to put a F'ing condom on! And you better be prepared to accept the fact that it will mean You and I will be having a divorce because I WON'T BE WITH A MAN WHO CHEATS ON ME!
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Absolutely. The end of a relationship. My brother when his ex fiancee cheated on him described it like a bereavement of the person he cared for most in the world but that the person he thought she was never really existed. He said the betrayal hurt more than when he got shot, that he would have rather she shot or stabbed him than cheat on him like that.
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No, while it has happened in the past, I just decided that would not look at every relationship as if they were going to end up the same.
Yes, it sucks big time when it happens, but if you always thought that your partner was going to cheat on you it would be like you were living under Damocles sword.
You would just never feel comfortable in your relationship, and it would probably end up eroding the relationship.
Trust is a huge part of any relationship, so you need to develop that trust over time.
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never had it (fear)... never been (cheated on)
never done it myself
why? when two confident people with the most basic sense of integrity meet... this is not even a concern at all
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I am scared to get cheated on but not so scared that it effects my life lol I don't care that much about it honestly. If it happens we find out why it happened can we fix it or not and then move on.
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No, but that's because I don't have any prospect of being in a relationship. Even then, I wouldn't. If I find out I have been, I would break up with them immediately, or in the worst case scenario, find a good lawyer that will hopefully help to keep my life intact.
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I definitely get feared that he might cheat so I don't do relationships at a young age but only for a marriage when the time comes
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No, because I am fortunate to be with a woman that I trust completely.
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I wouldn't be concerned with the cheating but if he has changed his mind.
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No. Because I trust her. And if she were to cheat on me she knows (or at least she better know), there's no coming back from that. We will be over! Do not pass go, do not collect 200 dollars.
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I don’t worry in the slightest. The type of women who do cheat aren’t the ones I’m attracted to in the first place
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I’m not afraid, I don’t really care what he does anymore. I’ll get my own too.
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I KNOW I am going to be cheated on - and yes, I care.
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no I'm not.
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