Are you more scared of an attractive partner cheating on you?

[Anonymous]

Are you more scared of an attractive partner cheating on you?

Yes, they have more options

Nope

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[Anonymous]

Yes, definietely. I am pretty insecure and introverted though so that could be a reason why I think an attractive, social man would cheat on me if he had the opportunity.

When I date someone attractive I tend to pick other loners but only because they are too shy and awkward to easily go out there and cheat which is horrible but it's what I do. I feel like so many people cheat nowadays and the more attractive (and social) someone is the more options they have. I have actually friendzoned attractive, social men only because I consider them out of my leauge (and potential cheaters) even though they've hit on me or showed genuine interest in me. I am now starting to get sick of using this technique though because the shy, inexperienced men I go for instead almost always have problems with emotional intimacy so things fall apart for that reason instead - they're too scared to let anyone in. So now I have decided to challenge my fears and start going out with the men i've always avoided before...

[VaIiant]

Looks dont factor into my trust- personality does.
When I was a little younger, about two years ago, I dated this guy almost everyone you meet would call unattractive. He was very skinny, had no lips, small eyes, very bad teeth, etc. I liked him for his confidence. People would come up to us on the street and tell me I was out of his league, and looking back, I'm confused why I went out with him. (His personality was shit as well.)
He was dishonest and unloyal, and I could tell. I constantly was worried about him cheating or disrespecting me by sleeping around, and he did.

Current partner is considered by almost everyone as very attractive. Taller, muscular build, good bone structure, etc. I'm aware he gets lots of positive female attention, and I've never once cared or been worried. I'm 100% positive he would never cheat on me, or lie to me.

Looks aren't a factor. Period.

[SvanUlf]

I actually had this exact conversation with my SO just a few days ago.

I basically think that looks have little, if anything, to do with cheating but IF it has any impact on risk, a better looking partner is LESS likely to cheat. My reasoning is this:

Yes, I have options, therefore I'm with my SO out of choice, not out of desperation. Also, women have complimented me before so I'm not about to get all smitten just because someone tells me I look good.

So why would I be MORE likely to cheat than a partner who's with you because a lack of options? At one time or another, another person WILL come by that has a bad hair day or has just broken up with their boyfriend/girlfriend and is looking for a little ego boost... why would I be less likely to say no to that than someone who's NEVER experienced attention like that before? That doesn't really make sense to me.

[Knighted2170]

There’s two sides to this. Looks have little to do with it.

Look may get them extra attention, but that’s about it.
Next is their personality. If they are with you for superficial reasons (paper love) then chances are they might cheat. If they have true feelings for you, the chances are much lower.

The second part is you. If you are providing what they need and desire. The chances are low. Their feelings for you grow, and become deeper. If you don’t provide what they need or desire, the chances increase.

There are the one off’s. Those always looking for the next best thing, no matter what you do. They do exist, but looks are not really a factor, as they come in all shapes, sizes, and fugliness.

[Cynicaldreamer]

I'm not so much worried about them cheating on me as them finding someone more attractive than I am and wanting to date them instead (which wouldn't be that hard in my case).

You can't assume that anyone that's attractive or good looking is a cheater, that's a character trait, or flaw rather.
You can be a good, loyal person and attractive, just like someone can be unattractive and a cheater. Heck, my ex was far from attractive, yet he cheated on me!

[abc3643]

Yes, but it has nothing to do with "options". Don't use that word - it's disgusting and highly inappropriate.

It is yes because the SO is likely to attract more attention from potential rivals.

By saying "options", that is like saying all SOs want to cheat and only ugly ones do not because they have less chance to find someone to cheat with. So, when you say "options", you are accusing everyone - including yourself - of disgusting personality traits and make out people (again, including you) to be animalistic vermin.

[debi2622]

All kinds of people cheat. I would be more concerned about their true character being hidden from me, if they have a propensity to always be on the lookout for an upgrade or the excitement of side action. I have never cheated, nor ever thought about it. But I have seen my share of people cheat (even unattractive ones), you just hope that you've picked a worthy SO of good character, morals, and values to match your own.

[Anonymous]

Unattractive people can cheat as much as attractive ones. If we weren't having sex regularly I would suspect it more I guess. Particularly if they were traveling for work a lot. My SO used to travel a lot for work with a male colleague, which could have made me a little bummed but he was a nice guy and gay, which was the perfect scenario for me.

[Scarecrow13]

In a sense. An attractive partner may or may not cheat, but you know for sure an unattractive one won't. So take Jimmy Soul's advice.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qh9ZZgDqzAg

[Fitness-Fanatic]

No. Because a person's character determines if they'll cheat or not. He could have lots of hot girls wanting him and pursuing him, but that doesn't mean he's more likely to cheat

I don't judge the strength of a guy's loyalty by his appearance

[BrittBratt2416]

I just be scared of being cheated on regardless if my partner is more attractive than me or not. If they feel like they can do better, than all they have to do is tell me and I will kindly set them free.

[BronzedAdonis]

Yes, they have more options, lol at the people bullshitting and saying no

[massb]

Any girl ugly or sexy can cheat on you it doesn’t matter. For guys through we barely have options. Girls have so many options it’s not even funny

[andreasderjuengere]

My lady is VERY attractive. I am not so much 'scared' that SHE cheats on me. I am rather … worried … that other guys don't know their boundaries - which would require that I will seriously injure them.

[witherwing]

I don't have a preset fear that a partner will cheat on me, even though I've been cheated on in the past. Even if my partner is very attractive, it doesn't make them more prone to cheating.

[SexyAshh]

No because im forever the most attractive partner and can move on a hell of a lot easier then them✌️

[Hurlyburly]

I wouldn't get in a relationship with someone I do not trust completely in the first place. Therefore my answer is no.

[Jamie05rhs]

Kind of, but I suppose that just goes with the territory. I think it's worth the risk (for my heart.). But I'd still get a prenup (for my wallet.)

[Jaye234]

You can't control what people do. If they cheat you break up with them. There's no use in fretting about the what ifs.

[Factshurt90]

Unattractive and attractive people cheat just the same amount. No matter who you have someone wants them😂

[genericname85]

naw not really. i can blindly trust. cause for me a relationship where i can't do that is worthless. if she cheats me: well shit happens. ditch her and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anybody cheating on a nice guy with an amazing personality like me, is already ugly for me.
To say it wouldn’t bother me would be wrong but I’d feel bad for her due to preferring a good looking asshole instead of an average looking gentleman only for temporary pleasures.

[Cvjjjbnkjj]

He could be goodlooking and gentleman as well

[Opinion Owner]

I know how worth I am, bottom line is, I would feel bad for her.
Most good looking men looking good for a reason. It’s not all genetics, you can enhance your looks with loads of things today.

[Opinion Owner]

If I’d try to enhance my looks, my priority would be to fuck. Not to meet someone with an amazing personality.

[Dav1ss]

Weirdly yes I mean if they are going to cheat they will regardless sof hi attractive they are it just makes me feel like I wasn't good enough after

[Lance1965]

Cheaters will cheat. Looks don't play a major role in that but obviously the good looking have more opportunities to cheat.