Are you more scared of an attractive partner cheating on you?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, definietely. I am pretty insecure and introverted though so that could be a reason why I think an attractive, social man would cheat on me if he had the opportunity.

When I date someone attractive I tend to pick other loners but only because they are too shy and awkward to easily go out there and cheat which is horrible but it's what I do. I feel like so many people cheat nowadays and the more attractive (and social) someone is the more options they have. I have actually friendzoned attractive, social men only because I consider them out of my leauge (and potential cheaters) even though they've hit on me or showed genuine interest in me. I am now starting to get sick of using this technique though because the shy, inexperienced men I go for instead almost always have problems with emotional intimacy so things fall apart for that reason instead - they're too scared to let anyone in. So now I have decided to challenge my fears and start going out with the men i've always avoided before...

VaIiant · Accepted Answer

Looks dont factor into my trust- personality does.
When I was a little younger, about two years ago, I dated this guy almost everyone you meet would call unattractive. He was very skinny, had no lips, small eyes, very bad teeth, etc. I liked him for his confidence. People would come up to us on the street and tell me I was out of his league, and looking back, I'm confused why I went out with him. (His personality was shit as well.)
He was dishonest and unloyal, and I could tell. I constantly was worried about him cheating or disrespecting me by sleeping around, and he did.

Current partner is considered by almost everyone as very attractive. Taller, muscular build, good bone structure, etc. I'm aware he gets lots of positive female attention, and I've never once cared or been worried. I'm 100% positive he would never cheat on me, or lie to me.

Looks aren't a factor. Period.

SvanUlf · Accepted Answer

I actually had this exact conversation with my SO just a few days ago.

I basically think that looks have little, if anything, to do with cheating but IF it has any impact on risk, a better looking partner is LESS likely to cheat. My reasoning is this:

Yes, I have options, therefore I'm with my SO out of choice, not out of desperation. Also, women have complimented me before so I'm not about to get all smitten just because someone tells me I look good.

So why would I be MORE likely to cheat than a partner who's with you because a lack of options? At one time or another, another person WILL come by that has a bad hair day or has just broken up with their boyfriend/girlfriend and is looking for a little ego boost... why would I be less likely to say no to that than someone who's NEVER experienced attention like that before? That doesn't really make sense to me.

Knighted2170 · Accepted Answer

There’s two sides to this. Looks have little to do with it.

Look may get them extra attention, but that’s about it.
Next is their personality. If they are with you for superficial reasons (paper love) then chances are they might cheat. If they have true feelings for you, the chances are much lower.

The second part is you. If you are providing what they need and desire. The chances are low. Their feelings for you grow, and become deeper. If you don’t provide what they need or desire, the chances increase.

There are the one off’s. Those always looking for the next best thing, no matter what you do. They do exist, but looks are not really a factor, as they come in all shapes, sizes, and fugliness.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

I'm not so much worried about them cheating on me as them finding someone more attractive than I am and wanting to date them instead (which wouldn't be that hard in my case).

You can't assume that anyone that's attractive or good looking is a cheater, that's a character trait, or flaw rather.
You can be a good, loyal person and attractive, just like someone can be unattractive and a cheater. Heck, my ex was far from attractive, yet he cheated on me!

abc3643 · Answer

Yes, but it has nothing to do with "options". Don't use that word - it's disgusting and highly inappropriate.

It is yes because the SO is likely to attract more attention from potential rivals.

By saying "options", that is like saying all SOs want to cheat and only ugly ones do not because they have less chance to find someone to cheat with. So, when you say "options", you are accusing everyone - including yourself - of disgusting personality traits and make out people (again, including you) to be animalistic vermin.

debi2622 · Answer

All kinds of people cheat. I would be more concerned about their true character being hidden from me, if they have a propensity to always be on the lookout for an upgrade or the excitement of side action. I have never cheated, nor ever thought about it. But I have seen my share of people cheat (even unattractive ones), you just hope that you've picked a worthy SO of good character, morals, and values to match your own.

Anonymous · Answer

Unattractive people can cheat as much as attractive ones. If we weren't having sex regularly I would suspect it more I guess. Particularly if they were traveling for work a lot. My SO used to travel a lot for work with a male colleague, which could have made me a little bummed but he was a nice guy and gay, which was the perfect scenario for me.

Scarecrow13 · Answer

In a sense. An attractive partner may or may not cheat, but you know for sure an unattractive one won't. So take Jimmy Soul's advice.

Fitness-Fanatic · Answer

No. Because a person's character determines if they'll cheat or not. He could have lots of hot girls wanting him and pursuing him, but that doesn't mean he's more likely to cheat

I don't judge the strength of a guy's loyalty by his appearance

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

I just be scared of being cheated on regardless if my partner is more attractive than me or not. If they feel like they can do better, than all they have to do is tell me and I will kindly set them free.

BronzedAdonis · Answer

Yes, they have more options, lol at the people bullshitting and saying no

massb · Answer

Any girl ugly or sexy can cheat on you it doesn’t matter. For guys through we barely have options. Girls have so many options it’s not even funny

andreasderjuengere · Answer

My lady is VERY attractive. I am not so much 'scared' that SHE cheats on me. I am rather … worried … that other guys don't know their boundaries - which would require that I will seriously injure them.

witherwing · Answer

I don't have a preset fear that a partner will cheat on me, even though I've been cheated on in the past. Even if my partner is very attractive, it doesn't make them more prone to cheating.

SexyAshh · Answer

No because im forever the most attractive partner and can move on a hell of a lot easier then them✌️

Hurlyburly · Answer

I wouldn't get in a relationship with someone I do not trust completely in the first place. Therefore my answer is no.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Kind of, but I suppose that just goes with the territory. I think it's worth the risk (for my heart.). But I'd still get a prenup (for my wallet.)

Jaye234 · Answer

You can't control what people do. If they cheat you break up with them. There's no use in fretting about the what ifs.

Factshurt90 · Answer

Unattractive and attractive people cheat just the same amount. No matter who you have someone wants them😂

genericname85 · Answer

naw not really. i can blindly trust. cause for me a relationship where i can't do that is worthless. if she cheats me: well shit happens. ditch her and move on.

Anonymous · Answer

Anybody cheating on a nice guy with an amazing personality like me, is already ugly for me.
To say it wouldn’t bother me would be wrong but I’d feel bad for her due to preferring a good looking asshole instead of an average looking gentleman only for temporary pleasures.

Florancerose404 · Answer

It isn't down attraction I've known a few sour faces to be unfaithful.

Dav1ss · Answer

Weirdly yes I mean if they are going to cheat they will regardless sof hi attractive they are it just makes me feel like I wasn't good enough after

Lance1965 · Answer

Cheaters will cheat. Looks don't play a major role in that but obviously the good looking have more opportunities to cheat.

Anonymous · Answer

For those who answered yes. y'all need to date fat people. Worse we are gonna do is have dinner without you.

awkwardman · Answer

Sorry if they are an attractive woman then yes. They can get other better fish from the sea, so to speak. I'm a damn 1/10 so anyone is better then me. And if they have options they will leave or cheat.

Horror_lover · Answer

Attractive or not, I will still get scared. So I voted for B.

SongBird3 · Answer

If your a cheater your not attractive. Cheaters have an ugly heart

needhelp777 · Answer

Actually no I am not scared because I know my boyfriend

Anonymous · Answer

Nah. I'd be more worried if she had a looser personality and if she had self control issues and drank a lot, etc. Not so concerned just because she's hot. Personality and past history would matter more.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Nope. Cheaters gunna cheat, no matter what they look like

Gottabsavagee · Answer

They should be scared of me cheating on them rather. I have more options but ain’t low like them.

AcidT0y · Answer

I've only been cheated on once and it was by the least attractive girl I've dated.

_Jay_ · Answer

I just think of myself as awfully attractive so why would anyone want to cheat on me?

standardguy · Answer

The 'problem' is not that she is attractive but if she knows that she is attractive and thinks that deserves more than me.

Anonymous · Answer

Women in general are a gamble since loyalty doesn't exist to them

Twalli · Answer

I consider everyone I like attractive, otherwise I wouldn't like them. So I don't assume they will cheat otherwise I would never date.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

No if I like someone and choose to have a relationship with them I'll be hurt if they cheated on me

Britguy100 · Answer

When you have got something good there Is always a risk you will lose it

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah but to be honest, it’s more of a wouldn’t be surprised kind of thing. Maybe a good 70% of the women I know would treat their partner like shit if given a reason to.

CURIOUShErE1 · Answer

If I had to worry about my partner cheating she would not be my partner.

ChefCurry · Answer

I'm not a jealous person but I'd never marry a very attractive girl.

Twenty2 · Answer

Nope! Tho it will hurt if anyone were to cheat on me.

scooogy · Answer

I knew a girl who dated a far less attractive guy, maybe for him not to cheat on her.

Anonymous · Answer

You just keep your anus smell free  And don't worry about it. If you have a stinky asshole your partner will hate you definitely

Anonymous · Answer

Attractive women will get more offers, and from good looking guys, but even ugly women will cheat. It's in their damn dna.

Alexis1998 · Answer

If they cheat I’m done with them also if friend try cheat me I’m done with them no 2nd chances.

Anonymous · Answer

in general ugly or hot  the majority of you girls are stupid  why would I waste my time?

Anonymous · Answer

she's more attractive than he is and that's an odd pair. I rarely she guys like that with girls Looking similar to her

brittslitt · Answer

I mean no I'm hot myself

Vicbeckler · Answer

They don’t have to be attractive to cheat!!

Belgie · Answer

No, because I'm not hung up on monogamy.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I strongly believe an attractive girl would cheat in a heartbeat

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

No because I date people I trust

Bmories99 · Answer

I trust and respect my partner.

Passinggas · Answer

Absolutely not... I expect them to cheat..

Sha84 · Answer

of course because more popular

colin77 · Answer

because it just doesn't matter

Secret6620 · Answer

Nope lol 💙

AsiaticLily9 · Answer

No. Ugly guys cheat the most.

Bad_Man55 · Answer

Not at all

Kayla45 · Answer

Nope

Pink2000 · Answer

Not really

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