Have you stalked or been stalked?

[OddBeMe]

No judgements. I love the Netflix show, it gives me empathy for both sides, not saying the stalker is right. Theyre always wrong, just human.

I stalked

I was stalked

Nope, but I can see why stalking is a thing

Nope, and I can't see why stalking exists

[Razp_Sorbet]

Yeah had a guy follow me from work to the bus stop, got on my bus. Thankfully he didn't get off at the same stop but almost every day for a couple weeks he would sit in the cafe of my work and the conveniently would be at the bus stop when I went home (I didn't have set finishing times). I think the owner of the company told him one day that he needs to leave because he was also just bothering staff

[OddBeMe]

Ana you never knew him from anything else? He prob saw you on the bus and targeted?

[Razp_Sorbet]

Yeah he just saw me at the bus stop and my uniform has my works name on it. He complimented my glasses and was trying to make small talk with me while waiting for the bus. I politely answered questions but never asked any back. Then it just continued on from there. I had a whole plan in my head when he got on the bus and sat in the row Infront of me. If he got off at the same spot I planned to just fast walk to my parents house instead of home (they live a 5 min walk from mine) because at least then if he followed me they have security cameras.

[DarkLegacy]

That isn't stalking, i can see why it says over 60% of women, most of them are being melodramatic

[DarkLegacy]

You say you had a plan in your head. This was all in your head, i wondered what he looked like. Probably made all the difference to whether you said he stalked you. he probably had Autism or learning disabilities which probably also made a difference to whether you decided it was stalking. Did you even ask him to stop. He did not stalk you nor do anything wrong.

[Razp_Sorbet]

@DarkLegacy you don't think it's wrong to watch someone from within their workplace for a couple weeks? He never bought anything, he just sat there from opening time. You're telling me it was just a coincidence he was at the bus stop when I finished work? Even though my finishing times were not set times?

Kinda disgusting that you'd so easily dismiss a persons experience.

[DarkLegacy]

@Razp_Sorbet yes just your experience. Not necessarily against the law either and you did not answer to the bit where i mentioned you were probably prejudiced against him

[Razp_Sorbet]

@DarkLegacy I wasn't actually. He was a very normal, average looking bloke. The man watched me in my work place, then followed me from my work to the bus stop. That is not ok and you're insane if you think it's a coincidence.

[Razp_Sorbet]

I also talked to my boss about it and she said he has been doing this on different occasions for years to different women. I talked to my mum about it, he does the same thing to people who work in the mall. He's literally known BY NAME. Maybe he isn't quite right in the head, doesn't really make a difference to the fact he has followed and harassed many women.

[douride2]

It happened in real life.

[OddBeMe]

I think you spoke of that before. All good now tho?

[OddBeMe]

If you don’t answer me I’ll spray paint your house!
Just kidding. I do hope you’re ok.

[douride2]

I was away for a week. All is good now.

[OddBeMe]

That’s good. I’m glad.

[SteveSmith1985]

I have never stalked nor stalked anybody. I "understand" why it's a thing. But it shouldn't be a thing. It's wrong. And creepy, and is not appropriate. Period. I do judge stalkers. And I think they should be judged. The people BEING stalked deserve to be left along. I've got zero sympathy for stalkers.

[OddBeMe]

Yeah sympathy is pretty zero. Empathy (understanding them) is interesting to me. And perhaps understanding I feel sorry for them. But it should be zero policy nationwide.

[Screenwriter]

When I was 19 I used to hang around this guy's front door and salivate over him. It was hormones. I was harmless though. It was puppy love. My first college obsession. We went out for awhile. But at 21 he was recently divorced and not at all interested in being attached. He'd been married at 19...

It was comical stalking. Not scary. I'm embarrassed about it to this day. Ah well. Human.

[OddBeMe]

I told you many times not to tell our story online.

[Screenwriter]

STOOPPPP!!! ahahahahahha

[msmissydc]

Not offline (which I am extremly gratefull for), but I do have a few online stalkers.
It may also be less with multiple accounts, that is sometimes hard to find out.
Most of it is via my official newspaper mailadress. It takes many forms all of which are unpleasent at least.

[OddBeMe]

That can be just as scary. Especially if there hacker status.

[Anonymous]

I know “why” people stalk, but I can also “understand” why are person might murder another person for money.


But the aim point is, those stalkers and murderers actively chose to partake in an activity they know is illegal and dangerous/harmful. They don’t deserve any sympathy for their choices, especially when they obviously don’t give a damn about the choices or rights of their victims

[OddBeMe]

Oh fo sho. They’d guilty as fck. But like mindhunters we gotta empathize (not sympathize- fck them). And understand what makes them obsessed.

One stalker spoke of the high she got stalking her exe’s ex-gf. Lol

[MemeSupreme]

yeah, i had to change my phone number twice because someone kept stalking and harassing me. i feel like it's pretty common for a lot of girls to go through this at some point in their life. it's a very frustrating, but scary thing.

[OddBeMe]

Yeah…like violent crime it’s man-sized. There are some female stalkers on the show, which weirdly have more fcked up reasons. Not sexual… basically. Lol

[molonski2]

I've been stalked , its an horrendous feeling , and super frightening , always looking over you shoulder , I have ZERO empathy for insane stalkers , and NO , its never the correct thing to do , no excuses , these people are sick , really sick.

[OddBeMe]

I have zero SYMPATHY. my empathy means understanding and studying why this is an issue. We should have zero policy for stalking nationwide.

[molonski2]

Its a mental illness OBM , and lets say Worldwide , it bloody frightening , especially if they pay someone to hack your various accounts , take your ( snail ) mail , and turn up at various places " by chance " you are always looking over your shoulder... really frightening. And you know what the police said ( Australia ) ? How do I know you dont want her to come? Look she is great looking -- " Umm , Yes , because I'm telling you she is a stalker " - " How she looks has nothing to do with it " , now , if the genders were reversed? Would I have been asked this?

[OddBeMe]

That’s true. And the snow gets into female stalking. Not as common, but like every crime we should have transparency.

[OddBeMe]

*the show

[Apulu_Imback]

I was stalked on here by a pedo but it took one second to kick him out, click the report and block option!

[OddBeMe]

At 14 yr old? So sorry. Hope it wasn’t frightening, per se, more than educational. Glad gag backed you…

[Apulu_Imback]

Nah, at the age of 13, when I was a newbie here. The mods even helped to freeze the account.

[OddBeMe]

Good. I see a lot gals reply anonymous and it doesn’t bother like the guys.

[DarkLegacy]

Not stalking

[Apulu_Imback]

@DarkLegacy what?

[OddBeMe]

@DarkLegacy yeah what?

[Sevenpointfive]

the stories are pretty tame aren't they? i think i watched an episode and wasn't that impressed. true stalking to me is more like the movie Fear made in 1996. it was mark wahlberg's breakout movie and definitely worth a watch

[AngryCarl2]

Yes, briefly. Even so it was uncomfortable. I changed my phone number so they couldn't call me.

[OddBeMe]

Shit, Like a. Solicitation. Just 10x? I have that issue as my company website has my phone #

[AngryCarl2]

No, more like a casual acquaintance who became over-friendly.

[OddBeMe]

Well just keep the compass and horizon in site.

[FreyaRed]

Yeah. Using the same bus over a longer time span ends always with stalking. However a boyfriend of friends who talk with the stalking guy solve such problems quickly.

[DarkLegacy]

Wow, women really think a guy getting on a bus is stalking. You are just aiming this at certain types of guy, bet he wasn't doing anything wrong.

[Anonymous]

A TV show about retarded people gets a Netflix show. It's so boring. The first gay is such idiot and the same with his wife. Awful. I can't believe people think idiots are interesting.

[OddBeMe]

Elaborate. I’m seriously interested. This is a major issue, as seen from other replies here…

[Opinion Owner]

People have a hard time finding someone to love them. The wife picks a guy who has no emotional core and lacks the ability to care and empathize for others.

She needs therapy because she thinks she deserves a crackpot like her husband. Or she is just really stupid. She wants some to love her and yet she picks someone who can't love her because he has no emotional side. Like you would tell yourself to stop at some point because you don't want to hurt other people. He obviously doesn't care about anything at all.

Why is a guy who is kind to people and treats others with respect demonized yet this crazy guy it's fine for him to be like that? It's because she is desired by a woman who is either dumb or needs therapy and it's okay she picks that. Society speaks about the guys who pick as though they are gospel and if someone criticizes women they are dismissed.

The media promotes this sympathy-seeking from women, so she looks like she's a poor victim and makes it look as though she has nothing wrong with her either. Like she needed therapy not a lunatic husband and she can't see that, but she wants that guy because she can use him as a scapegoat to make herself seem like a better human being because she is empty and probably just crazy as him. But it doesn't matter what I say because the media and popular opinions are gospel and I am incorrect.

[OddBeMe]

I 100% agree. And it’s not really the girls fault. Maybe 20%. But psychopathy is attractive. Not having morals and able to be a chameleon. They see the girls weakness and fulfills it even though they’re crazy fckin stalker loons.

[OddBeMe]

You truly have to be a better person and find that one person. Or call Chris Hanson.

[CreatingWonders]

I’ve never stalked or harassed anyone on or offline I’m not that sort of guy.


I have however been harassed and stalked online and offline and still am by my ex who just won’t go away, she won’t even listen to the police. 🙄

[DarkLegacy]

I wonder if the woman answering yes are going by the own perception or were they actually stalked.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, in real life and online.

[OddBeMe]

Eesh. You good now?

[Dead_Bird_Daniela]

I have been a bit (or a lot) stalker-ish in the past. I am trying my very best to work on my obsessive habits though.

[NathanDavis]

nope, neither... luckily

[jshm2]

Stalked lunch, many a time.

[OddBeMe]

It’s roadkill, bud, just go scoop up.

[BrookeS]

Yes I was stalked before

[Anonymous]

Neither too strong of a concept for me

[OddBeMe]

Stalking is too strong a concept? That sounds like what a stalker would say?

[Opinion Owner]

And you sound like a lot of frustration

[OddBeMe]

Frustration in what? Everybody has that. But what do you think mine are?

[Anonymous]

Many times.