So I did something horrible to my ex and I feel pretty guilty about it and he broke up with me for it but we miss each other and miss the sex. I know we shouldn't go down this road when he just broke up with me (like two weeks ago) but I can't help myself.
I feel like a selfish person for not giving things time to breathe but I also have needs and I really miss the sex with him. We are also long distance so it's not often that we get a chance to do something like this but he is going to come down and we get it in.
I can't help but feel a bit guilty though. Am I a bad person for this?
You're not bad, but you're extremely foolish. This person is an "ex" for a reason. Pull yourself together and order a vibrator or other sex toy. Don't use a man for sex who you can't live with, unless you're paying him for sex and he's a professional.
This has nothing to do with "guilt." You're horny and all you can see if the positive relief of sex with this former lover. Think of all the negatives about this reconnection.
Either you've broken up, or you haven't. Fish or CUT BAIT. Make it over and grow a pair. Don't use HIS.
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I wouldn't. Unless you're mentally strong enough to do so. Knowing that you will more than likely catch feelings again, and therefore end up getting hurt. But if you think that you can deal with just my with him physically, then it's your choice. But it rarely works.
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What did you do? Cheat on him? I really like how you left that specific detail out miss anon. I am guessing that is what most likely happened. The fact you admit you “miss sex” makes me believe even more this really happened. Just couldn’t wait around to see him so you got your needs met someone else?
Anyway as for the friends with benefits. He’s either really weak and naive OR he’s very clever and has long game to get revenge on you. But I somehow doubt it’s the latter.
If I were him I would say good riddens and not mess around. I don’t care how hot or how available you might be. You cheated (right?). So now you made your bed so lay in it.
But unfortunately there are some pretty weak, desperate and pathetic men out there. Which is probably reason you cheated on him to begin with.
I just really hope this guy isn’t in his 30s or older. I cut (some) slack to younger guys who do stupid things and mistakenly let women walk over them once or twice.
But if he’s a grown man this is beyond pathetic. He’s enabling and emboldening inexcusable female behavior. When will more men learn that’s it’s better to have self respect and be lonely vs being a chump?
Anyway he’s enabling you and so it’s on him. I just wish someone would slap some hard sense into this guy. You aren’t worth it.
Just leave him alone so that he has the opportunity to find a woman that values him. What you need is therapy, not more sex with a man that you dont really care about. He doesn't realize that he can do better, because he's thinking with his dxck, and because you're still in the picture. So if there's really a part of you that feels bad for how you treated him, then gift him with your absence. These situations, and time to reflect, tend to bring out the best in men. And yes, you are a bad person for that, but no one is beyond redemption. Do the right thing by leaving him alone, so that he can grow into a man that values himself enough to walk away, and stay away from women that treat him like trash.
Your going to do what you want either way but I would say no dont do it,, he is a x for a reason right.. find someone that can give you what you need or buy some toys till that happens.. going back most likely will not work out for you.. good luck in what you decide to do..
If you’re feeling this guilty about it then just be celibate, get a toy or something to take care of yourself and let him go. You can’t say you know it’s selfish and wrong but Continue be selfish anyway because You need to get off, sex is never that important.
It's very simple. Before doing something in life, ask yourself whether it is wise, or unwise. Then you will know whether to proceed or not.
You dont deserve him yet think you deserve the dick?
Sounds like a, great idea! Have you stopped to consider he may not want to fuck you now?
Can you reconcile with your ex, since you busted the relationship?
Your not bad for sleeping with your ex when you both want it.
friends with benefits with someone you were once romantically involved with or have feelings for is rarely a good idea.
absolutely not, it doesn't seem remotely healthy or even smart to do. just get another guy or gal
Why would you hurt him?
He doesn't want u so ur wasting your time.
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