Pushing themselves away?

[Anonymous]

Been in a long-term relationship and the fire is not burning as hot as it used to. Me and my partner used to be very close. But in the last year or so there is a lot of distance between us. He used to do so much for me. But I never really put much effort back into him. Feeling like the relationship is going downhill. Maybe me being selfish pushed him away.

[MrOracle]

Of course being selfish is going to push him away. What did you imagine would happen?

I'm sure he feels like a complete chump, and has a lot of resentment towards you. And he has every right to. A stronger man would have kicked you to the curb long ago.

You get out of a relationship what you put into it, and you have turned a generous man into a distant, resentful man. Great job.

If you don't make a big change in your attitude, and soon, you will lose him, and some other woman who appreciates him will be the recipient of his generosity.

[TheIrishWolf]

I've never been in a relationship, but what I've heard is that you get past a honeymoon phase at some point. Maybe that's what your experiencing?

It could be that he might not feel valued because you're not reciprocating the actions. You said it yourself.

It takes two people to make a relationship work. One person can't pull the weight alone. Unless he was being too much...

It could be completely different than what any of us are thinking it is. Talk to him anyway.

[TalynMere]

Talk to him or it's going to keep going that way.

[VikingWarLord]

Did you gain weight?

Chop off your gawdam hair?

Booobs startin to sag?

Trust me, it makes dudes lose interest QUICK

[Anonymous]

You think? Ding Ding Ding she can be taught ladies and gentlemen... "Maybe me being selfish pushed him away." No fucking shit sherlock

[slatyb]

Maybe you should meet someone local.

[Hanrej]

That should be obvious...

[Anonymous]

Have you discussed this with him?

[Jamie05rhs]

Sounds about right.

[Greenbins]

Definitely