We just started dating for 2 mos but we've been friends I guess you can say more than that timeframe. I'm 24 by the way tho I am still healing some parts of me when I broke up with my first boyfriend so he is the second one now... It's just weird I am scared with engaging physically but wanting as well... Unlike my first boyfriend I dont lust much over him while this one does and with my orevious boyfriend i have to think of other person or other like fictional character or a certaing situation just to turn me on and this second new boyfriend of mine is different I can't get him off my mind. Is it just because he was a former FUBU and ahhh... the feelings that i have towards my new boyfriend is very mixed but i want to take care of him and of course be the best version of myself for my personal life
Am I just lusting or Love or both to my boyfriend?
If you are talking about feelings of sexual attraction or wanting to be physical, that is lust for sure. To say that you love someone after two months is not unheard of if there is a very strong connection. However, it usually takes a while for people to truly say they love their partner.
That is not to say it isn't both. You might have found the one and you love him for who he is... his personality, character, humour, values and so on. Perhaps you hit the jackpot. The lust part is the part that is turning you on and making it so you cannot keep your hands off him.
That is pretty typical in a new relationship. Everything is fun and exciting and you can't wait to be next to him. I call it the honeymoon phase. Things usually fade over time and normalize. That is not a bad thing though. It just means that you are comfortable with each other and don't need to give each other validation by affection and whatnot. That is when it is more love than lust in my opinion, but everyone is different.
Thank you , the funny part is I am not vocal on my desires as well as if I am scared hmnn insecure maybe? And I don't know it's like I've known him for a long time and pretty much I can say I am not that stressed with him compare to my previous boyfriend...
You know what it sounds like to me? It sounds like perhaps you are a bit nervous because you do like this guy that much and don't want to mess it up. I don't think it is insecurities though.
This person actually gave me the ball to lead things most of the time since he said he doesn't want to rush things because if he is the one in charge he will rush pretty much like having sex. While in my side i have the desire and scared apart from i might mess it up.. I am a breadwinner in the family who got a lot of responsibility
I can understand why you are a bit nervous. The thing is, try not to be. You aren't going to mess this up. It is a natural thing to feel that way but ultimately you are just letting your mind get the better of you.
I felt like this at the beginning of my relationship. "Oh, please don't mess this up Priya" going through my head because he was so perfect. But hey, now we are married. So nothing to fear.
It's difficult to determine whether your feelings towards your new boyfriend are solely based on lust or love, as both can be present in a new relationship. It's important to take the time to get to know your partner on a deeper level, beyond the physical attraction, in order to understand your true feelings towards him.
It's also important to understand that healing from a past relationship can impact your current emotions and actions. Take the time to work through your emotions and focus on your personal growth before fully committing to a new relationship.
Ultimately, only you can determine whether your feelings towards your new boyfriend are based on genuine love or just lust. Take things slow, communicate openly with him, and prioritize your own emotional well-being.
