Why Do You Cheat?

[Anonymous]

Why will someone have filet mignon at home but go out for a bologna sandwich? You know what I mean.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Here is a reason... I've been purposed by a couple... like just a few minutes ago and I'm thinking about it. I'm married and my wife has been deployed for about 7 months now and I have at least 3 more to go. This couple wants me to basically let his wife do oral on me while he is at work and I basically just record her doing the deed.

It's very tempting because I could use a blow job and she's not bad looking at all. I'm so horny that I don't think she'll have to work very hard to get me to pop off in her mouth.

What's stopping me is I don't like dealing with people. Especially new people. I think guys that want to see other men in their wife's holes are basically gay, so I'm worried that guy could become a problem. I don't want to deal with her or hear about her stupid problems... not my problem. And on top of that... if I get caught somehow. It wouldn't be the end of the world or my relationship... but still... it wouldn't look good or help my case when I say she should go clubbing or something like that.

I'm probably not going to do it... and my wife just bought me this sex toy that actually sucks me... hands-free. So I'm thinking it's best to just avoid complications with dealing with people and let the toy do the job while I watch some porn or something.

Someone new or someone I haven't banged before is like a rush. The girl could be a 5 and she can appear to be a 8 or 9 just because I haven't been in her yet. It adds points to her scale so to speak. I mean let us be real... having a conversation with a chick usually knocks points off the scale rather than adds to her attractiveness. Holding a conversation is something I would avoid for that reason. In Japan it was no big deal... You pay her, she gets you going with the blowjob which is where the condom goes on, and then you bang her until you're done... quick shower and you're gone. I'd do that 2 or 3 times a night and it was all good. Because it's illegal here in the U. S., it basically makes everything complicated. like my wife said it's okay if I go to a massage joint to get jerked off or sucked off, but that risk of dealing with the law... I wouldn't want to be in there when police come through for sure. I don't need that.

In short, I think cheating for me is just to get off sexually when my main chick is not serving that role for some reason. Sometimes it's lust, but mostly it's just because I really want to nutt on a different chick. My wife's boobs are big... so I'll want to nut on some little boobs sometime. Variety just feels good like that.

[Sasha0426]

If you want to cheat, is your wife allowed to do the same?

[D_Bone_Steak]

@Sasha0426 That's usually the first question that gets thrown out there by chicks. She is allowed to do whatever she wants with chicks... no dudes. I don't have jealousy issues when it comes to chicks. She's bi so she makes it work for herself. The stipulation on me is no pillow princess pillow talk or some sort of emotional thing. Usually, I get attention even from girls that claim they're girls only. So rejection usually comes from me not wanting to bother with a chick or from my wife making a chick disappear because she seems a little too interested. Not joking, she'll make a chick a non-friend... she'll be there one day as best bestie friends forever and then all of a sudden they don't talk which means I don't talk to them anymore either. It was one way at one time where I had a bunch of interest in it... but I've grown to the point of being more interested in watching youtube videos than adding to my body count. The wife seems cool with that, so if she's cool I'm cool.

Red flags though because she's talking about me making a kid with a woman and having the girl live with us. Not sure what that is about and I don't like the idea. I'm done with having kids. I have enough already.

[Sasha0426]

So, as of right now, she’s fucking other women as we speak? And you’re alright with that?

[D_Bone_Steak]

@Sasha0426 She doesn't have one like right now that I know about... but yeah I'm cool with that. If she pulls a girl for herself tonight it's no sweat off my sack. It actually kind of turns me on. No... it really turns me on.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'm not going to be that guy that's like, "only if I can watch." lolz Although even when I try to stay out of it, I get 'sucked' into it if you know what I'm saying. Like I'm not going to say no when she wants to watch her friend do things with me.

I'm that guy that sees those get-hard commercials in disbelief. I have the opposite problem. I got to figure out how to get soft almost constantly.

[billmunch]

@Sasha0426 I'm not at all strict about cheating in relationships. In fact, it turns me on when my SO cheats. I probably get the same thrill out of it that she does. I know it's weird but I like it, always have. I actually fantasize about coming home and finding her in bed with another guy or two. I want my future wife to fuck the stripper at her bachelorette party the night before the wedding. In truth, I find my SO, and all my former girlfriends more attractive when they fuck other guys, to the point they can pick up guys right in front of me. If she cheats, is a slut or even a prostitute, that's exactly the type of woman I would marry. So, yes, I would allow my wife to do the same, as much as she wants. I guess I just like slutty women.

[Sasha0426]

@billmunch Let’s say you had a wife who doesn’t want to cheat, would you respect her or would you cheat on her?

[billmunch]

@Sasha0426 I cn't imagine myself being attracted to such a woman

[OlderAndWiser]

1. I don't cheat. Never have, not once.

2. My perception is that people cheat because it's forbidden, that makes it exciting, and they never really meant it when they said they would be faithful. It doesn't have any relationship to the quality of sex at home.

[Spongebobssocks]

Cheating is a form of abuse caused by narcisstic behaviour. People will say its because of lack of attention, bad sex etc but its not. Its their own brain structure that has been shaped from a young age to lack empathy and only care for themselves. These type of humans are pure evil and if I were you I'd stay far away from them.. evan if they are your own kids.

[Spongebobssocks]

Thankyou for MHO

[Anonymous]

I emotionally cheated on my ex but never physically. I did that because I was too much of a coward to leave him, but he wasn't giving me what I needed emotionally. He was abusive and anyone giving me positive attention was desperately needed/wanted.

[Pinay_ako]

Because they can and there’s options.

[Kelly6]

Best simple and answer with detail.

[Pinay_ako]

@Kelly6 thanks 😊

[Anonymous]

I don't cheat. Even when I have options and it feels tempting, I control my instincts. I actually like telling women who are interested in me that I am in a relationship. I want them to know that their looks and superficial flirting is nothing compared to how my girlfriend makes me feel. As silly as it sounds, people cheat because they are in relationships. They do not have the balls to break up with their partner if they are no longer attracted because they want stability. If you want to be with someone else, you can either break up with your partner or you can control your instincts. I don't see any middle ground, unless both partners agree to be in an open relationship.

[richardcory]

Lots of reasons people might cheat. But sometimes your example of "filet mignon at home but go out for a bologna sandwich" isn't really right. For the 2 people I know who told me they cheated, there was nothing a home. Their partners didn't want sex ever - were asexual. Something they only discovered after marriage and having kids.

[Anonymous]

I haven't cheated personally but I can see why people do it being in a long distance relationship. Loneliness is a bitch. And sometimes even when you're not in a long distance relationship, loneliness can be present in a relationship.

But people cheat for more reasons than loneliness but that might be one of the top reasons people cheat.

[mommymommymommy]

The same reason anyone else might. TO GET AWAY WITH IT

I'm not condoning it, I'm just saying that's the ONLY LEGITIMATE REASON TO CHEAT

Every heard the line "have your cake... and eat it too"

Eating it too, would be the other person

[Justmeagain1]

I haven’t and would never. But I do propose the question what don’t they get at home or from them selves or their significant other that makes them search for what they are looking for in another? I’d say it would come down to communication

[Manuel2]

No but if it is a form of sex acts.

But cheaters is usually do cheat due to the person doing the cheat on, is the sex is bad or borring. Like sex on their petiods and so on.
Also wife beaters have a soft foolish wife or girlfriend to bully, while women gives them what they want. A challenge

[happyfoetus]

Coz my filet mignon was demanding and tasteless so I went for expensive, tiny portion of bologna sandwich

[Asker]

Sorry bout that, I try to stay sweet and juicy. 😉

[lightbulb27]

I don't

but someone that grew up with bologna sandwiches thinks those are the best... and maybe, filet mignon... they don't feel they are worthy of.

[OfMiceandMen]

I don't cheat, period. I am a one-woman man and I expect the person I am with to be a one-man woman.

It has everything to do with respecting her and respecting myself.

[Sirenboobzilla]

Listen... I religiously go to the gym 3 days a week and do plenty. I deserve a damn cheat day to feed my inner fat girl every once in a while!

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Why do men cheat? Sex

Why do women cheat? There's not enough room on this entire website to explain that one

[Sasha0426]

People cheat because they never loved you. What’s even more fucked up is that they plan it the moment you two meet. Cheaters always look for new victims to hurt.

[OddBeMe]

I think it’s their nature. They like deceiving. They like “having it all”…. cake and eat it too syndrome. That’s why they rarely change.

I bet there are signs like sharing food, chores around the house. Etc.

[inhua]

society virtue signals hard against cheating but does a lot of cheating regardless

[Minahh]

People who cheat are in fact not satisfied in the relationship and have zero respect for their partner otherwise they would have try to work things out or leave the relationship.

[Peter_Penetrator]

Because filet mignon can spoil and the bologna might be within the best buy date.

[Anonymous]

I've never cheated and never will. It's never justified and does nothing but cause pain. Having experienced that pain twice with two different women, I could never do that to someone.

[Anonymous]

I’m not a cheater and i never cheat not even once
But i believe cheating is a chronic disease, that i won’t date let alone marry someone who has cheated on their ex before.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

To try something different as with time things get dull.

Cheating is wrong but that's why people who cheat do it.

[LiamJHayden]

I do not and never have cheated in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I don’t respect anyone who cheats, I find people who cheat as gutless human beings that can’t control their urges and lack loyalty.

[Anonymous]

b/c there's filet mignon everywhere and it walks right up to you and gives you its coordinates.

[WolfDM]

Maybe the filet mignon isn't really the filet mignon she thinks she is.

[Asker]

Yes, bro, she is!🤣🤣

[Anonymous]

I dont cheat. This question sounds like projection.

[Anonymous]

I would never cheat. If I am not happy with my current partner or if she refuses to have regular sex or play hard to have sex then I have to cheat.

[Anonymous]

A bunch of reasons but I think it’s a terrible thing to do, unpopular opinion but I think it’s sex offender level terrible

[Cheerfull009]

Reason is, lack of physical and mental satisfaction

[Anonymous]

Probably bcs I am an idiot, dunno, a really bored idiot

[MementoMori777]

There's endless reasons on why people cheat

[BarryLiverstone]

Some people like variety and novelty.

[Asker]

But is the cost of hurting someone deeply worth it?

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope. Sometimes if someone cheats they don’t consider the feelings of someone else.

Would you want them to cheat and hurt on purpose?

[Asker]

No, been there, done that, it's rank.

[Anonymous]

Some people like bologna.

[dray995]

I don’t and never would.

[TallAnon]

Because the filet had shit on the inside

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why you cheat

[riverrat3]

It is not always about looks

[Asker]

Talking about having a quality person in a relationship but messing with home wreckers.

[riverrat3]

Some people like to stray, sometimes things are not good at home

[Asker]

That's very sad.

[riverrat3]

I have never cheated on my wife, I know plenty of wives that have cheated

[Iron_Man]

I don’t cheat

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Iron_Man]

You’re welcome