How should I handle this?

[HappyWoman34]

I’m Kat. My bestie and I are going to join another Asperger’s Syndrome social group. Just to have fun activities and make new friends, as we feel a sense of loss in our group without ex friends, Ben and Steven there. People usually either love or hate my friend and I, with no in between. I just discovered that a woman who can’t stand me is already a member. I feel awkward. She’ll remember me and I don’t want her to alienate me from other people, like she tried to do in the past. Knowing basically nothing about me. However, my bestie and I need to have more fun and make more friends. We feel like there’s something missing in our lives. A big, empty hole. So how do I handle this properly and sensibly?

[ratking63]

Hey Kat,

As someone with Asperger's myself, I fully understand the need to make new friends (I have few friends, and we rarely talk. Different views on life and fun) I recently had a big falling out with someone I thought was my friend, but they seemed to like the bottle more than me. It was hard, as we had the same friend group.

To answer your question, simply don't engage that girl. Hang with your friend and if the girl comes over, don't even make eye contact. Go about your day.

[HappyWoman34]

Thanks, that’s really helpful.

[molonski2]

Hi there Kat ,

I think you just handle it by acting as you within the group , try not to focus on the girl who doesn't like you , just be civil and polite to her , in the long term she can't really convince others , they will eventually make their own decisions , so I would confront her or the like , I'd just adapt to the circumstance you find yourself in.

Just be yourself , you said there is no middle ground anyhow? You and your friend will be fine.

Good luck Kat.