Which is worse and why: Physical cheating or emotional cheating (thinking and longing to be with the other person and having feelings for them)?

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Just one or the other. Please don't say both equally.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There's no coming back from physical cheating so it feels more permanent, but I think emotional cheating because it lasts longer and if means someone is feeling more than the quick physical hunger for a person. Emotional cheating cannot be controlled and last longer, it also points out that this person is capable of emotionally falling for someone other than their partner. Something is missing in the relationship or the other person matters for more than superficial reasons. I have been the person that someone taken fell for and consistently liked for months on end. There was no physically cheating because I wouldn't show interest back because I felt guilty, not because I didn't find him everything I wanted too. I just respected his relationship. What it told me is that if he could pine for me, fantasize about me, get shaken or nervous just talking to me... then he could love me. If he could love me, something in his relationship is broken. But I did not want to play a part in breaking his relationship. If it wasn't working for him, he could be passive and put up with it or get out of it before I would even consider dating him, but I would play no third-wheel. It was a hard decision, but I do not want him if he cannot decide for himself what he wants.

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

Like many questions, it depends, but I am going to take it to mean which is worse between these two scenarios.

Scenario A, you are in love with your girlfriend or wife but you are on a trip with guy friends and have some drinks and sleep with a girl at a bar. This is really bad, it could end the relationship, fixing this will be a long process and it will always hurt even if the relationship survives.

Scenario B, you are in a LTR or married but you not in love w your partner, and you are yearning for some other woman and can't stop thinking about her. I would say that this is worse, you should not be in this relationship and nothing anybody can do will fix it.

However the combination of emotional and physical unfaithfulness is even worse, I am just reading the question as if we aren't comparing the combination of factors but separating them out. JMO!

inhua · Accepted Answer

emotional cheating would be worse because it speaks volume about the affair partner whom the cheater has chosen to favor over their current partner

men are naturally polygamous and can fuck women whom they hate or are not attracted or have negative feelings or even no feelings towards.

a guy could fuck a girl who's uglier, bitchier and nastier than his girlfriend but it's not an indictment on his girlfriend but more so himself whether he be horny or vengeful

women are naturally hypergamous and can only fuck guys whom they have positive feelings towards whether love or lustful attraction.

a guy whom a girl cheats with is usually superior to her boyfriend in some or many ways e. g. he's a taller than her boyfriend, stronger than her boyfriend, more Chad-like than her boyfriend, richer than her boyfriend, more of a bad boy than her boyfriend etc. and that's usually an indictment on her boyfriend for not being attractive enough or having any of those qualities

so really at the end of the day, when a guy cheats, it's his fault for not controlling his emotions and desires. when a girl cheats, it's her boyfriend's fault for not being attractive enough to suppress her hypergamy in her eyes.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

You can't really cheat on someone physically without also cheating emotionally.

But you can cheat emotionally without cheating physically. emotionally it takes really time an effort and I find it more troubling.

So physical cheating is like a double whammy... so it worst on that scale.

But honestly it all depends on who she physically cheated with, who else knew and was it with someone I know?

So, let's say she went out had a one-night stand with a complete stranger and I only found out years later. I would not be all that upset about it. But don't ever say that to any of my girlfriends. I say that because on some level I get it, because there are women out there that I would totally do that with, the fact that I haven't really os on those women then on me.

I never cheated on my wife, but then again, I was always in situations where there was an extreme likely hood, she would have found out. So that kept me in check. But other than that I would of, and honestly, she was a terrible wife anyway.

Genie23 · Answer

I think the woese would be emotional cheating because that means they've gotten emotionally attached to the other/even in love with that person basically it means they're no longer attached to you. Also, one can stop from acting on their urge, they can stop themselves from getting involved physically with someone but you cannot stop your mind from thinking about someone you got close to. Imagine how terrible it would be to be in love with someone who has someone else in his/her mind and you think you're in their mind.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Emotional cheating leads to physical cheating… so yes emotional. Because they might be kissing you or having sex with you or coming home to you every night but their heart and mind is with someone else.

Datboi65 · Answer

Physical cheating is much worse, because it can result in a PREGNANCY. I don't know if that's too obvious or not, but I'm fairly confident most people don't want their partner procreating with someone else, especially men. Paternity tests exist for a reason, I think you and I both know that it hurts MUCH MORE to find out that you child isn't yours after 10 years of raising them rather than find out that your partner has been talking to someone else behind your back without any physical act. That can only result from someone committing the physical act itself.

So yes, physical cheating is a lot worse.

Count_de_Monte_Volo · Answer

Physical. Plenty of couples have a partner that likes a certain celebrity or someone and it’s acceptable because we are carnal creatures. They even let their partner take a picture with the celebrity because they trust they won’t physically cheat.
Some thoughts cannot be stopped, but we can stop actions such as physical cheating.
And physical cheating is physically nasty! STDs and such.

However, The Bible says emotional cheating counts as cheating, in case someone here adheres to The Bible. You won’t go to Hell if you confess your sins to a Catholic priest (in Catholicism of course).

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

For me it's physical. The heart wants what it wants, and if her heart is in someone else, it's not really her fault and we just weren't meant to be.
But the act of taking her clothes off and letting some other dude stick his cock inside her and suck her face is the ultimate act of betrayal and back stabbing horsecockery

DizzyDesii · Answer

Physical. I’d be hurt about the emotional bt even I’ve been guilty of that one. Its hard keeping emotions in check. But physical is all about taking action and having or lacking self control. If you cheat on me PHYSICALLY there is no chance of repair for that relationship

sage2021 · Answer

Emotional cheating because you cannot stop another person from thinking their own thoughts. It could be a lot of time everyday for a very long time. Then eventually it will turn physical, in which case it wouldn't take long and hopefully it's over.

Anonymous · Answer

I heard a few times that women get more upset when men “emotionally” cheat then physical cheat. Men are vice versa.

They are both bad. However some women have no problem having “guy friends” when they are in a relationship. But women generally have less patience and more suspicion of men who are friends with a lot of women.

Anonymous · Answer

Physical cheating. For women the emotional cheating leads to the Physical cheating. So if your woman is emotionally cheating she planning to Physically cheat on you and if that works out leave you for another man.
Men generally don't cheat emotionally, they cheat Physically when the opportunity presents itself.

NathanDavis · Answer

never been through either but I would still think that emotional would be way worse... I think so

Stoner710 · Answer

I would say physically cheating because once you’re emotionally cheating, you’re kind of done with that person you’re emotionally cheating on. You can get drunk and make a mistake and still love the person you are with.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd argue that a woman emotionally cheating will often lead to physical so I choose to read the question as which is worse physical or emotional that leads to physical.

The second, the cheater had more time to think how they'd be hurting you and didn't care

imawfulatusernames · Answer

Neither is worse. A ONS with someone you don’t care about is throwing your relationship away for no reason and is heartbreaking but your SO having an emotional affair (let’s not pretend it won’t turn physical) is also heartbreaking and you don’t even get the you cheated on me fuck you.

Anemone978 · Answer

Physical.. I don't give a damn if he is thinking about another bitch as long as he ain't fucking her.. he belongs to me that is the main thing.

LazerBean · Answer

You can recover from emotional cheating. Once one has physically cheated, they just need to be disposed of.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

For women it’s the emotional. Women are emotional beings to big with. For men, it is the physical aspects. Ever heard of sloppy seconds.

Anonymous · Answer

Emotional, like if you mean being in love with someone else not just thinking about sex with them.

Berethor · Answer

Men tend to be less emotional than women, can't get pregnant from emotions, so why care?

shades777 · Answer

Physical because they acted on their thoughts, emotional cheating don't hurt

Roula2000 · Answer

Emotional to me cause it’s more then just physical.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

This is a stupid question. Emotional cheating LEADS to physical cheating!

berrytired · Answer

Physical. Having feelings for someone is a much more complicated thing than keeping your clothes on.

AdithyaR · Answer

I genuinely cannot choose, both seem horrible to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Obviously, physical cheating is much worse.

msc545 · Answer

physical cheating, which is what emotional cheating oftern leads to.

precious2000 · Answer

Why is it hard to feed my children even tho am a single mother should I go stealing

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Physical cheating.

exitseven · Answer

physical cheating.

tiajoka · Answer

Physical

Anonymous · Answer

It’s worse that women selling their body

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