Do you think certain relationships are destined to fail to help you progress?

[LemiaOfThunder]

Yes

No

Maybe

[D_Bone_Steak]

I voted yes, and that's because I've seen so many relationships form and knew how they were going to end years before those two people figured it out and finally split up.

I'm not going to call it wisdom, or knowledge like some egotist. But it's like when you can just see enough on the surface to make an educated guess. She's like this and he's like that... this, this, and that has already happened between them... it's just writing on the wall at a certain point. But they haven't figured that shit out and they're going to both insist on learning the hard way.

That is why I voted that some relationships are just destined to fail.

Now, on the other hand, I don't think it helps some people progress. They'll do a hop, skip, and a jump right into their next relationship, not change a damn thing about themselves, and then repeat the same shit they did in that other relationship. Some people just don't learn.

Also, there are a lot of effing quitters out there. They'll quit a relationship just because. It takes 2 committed people to learn some harsh lessons and stick together through it. Ask a site like this one about some basic bitch relationship issues and you'll see a ton of responses that are just like, "Just leave them." That's the advice you'll mostly get on a site like this one... just saying.

[TooHot2Care]

It’s funny you ask this: People like me have a weird relationship with the concept of “destiny”.

The universe is huge, the more we discover about it, the more absurd concepts like “god” and “fate” or the idea an infinite being would give a shit about finite beings like us is.

and yet……Why not choose to believe anyway? I mean think about it….. We know infinity exists, yet we are finite….. and because of infinity and the immeasurable objects of the universe, we likely won’t ever know the true nature of existence….

Why not believe there is purpose in the pain? That’s the beauty of being human : To struggle and to grow and to love one’s fate , “amor fati” is an essential part of being a quality human.

objectively, our struggles have no meaning to the world around us.

But we aren’t limited to the objective.

We can choose to see the painful moments and the valleys as a test and the peaks as what we were destined to take from our suffering.

So yeah, the science tells me it’s stupid and pointless and I say : No, it’s a test and a gift from infinity itself.

[catiecatie]

I believe people come into your life to teach you lessons. They teach you what you want in life and what you want in a partner. I’d definitely want a guy that isn’t super clingy, but we check in with each other at least once a day. A good personality as well as a good sense of humor. I need to match energies with my man. I’m hoping the guy I like comes around, so I will ask him for drinks here within a week. I hope I pass my test and he says yes. But if he doesn’t then I’m not going to be surprised. I’ve been rejected before and it’s not going to be the last time. I’m just really hopeful.

[LazerBean]

A lot of relationships are destined to fail. And a lot of people never progress and learn from their mistakes. Some people are just destined to fail, period.

[Rosexøxø]

Uhhhh no such thing as destiny.

Unless your parents gave you an arranged marriage and/or they chose your college/ career for you.

[Rosexøxø]

They fail on a variety of factors and failed, hit points. 🎯 / 🚩

[Pinay_ako]

What doesn’t kill you make you stronger.

[aoihewgf]

I think it tends to make me more jaded if anything else

[BrookeS]

What doesn't kill you makes you stranger.

[ManOnFire]

Oh absolutely. There are tons of relationships out there where the two people know deep down that they aren't great for each other, or only person loves the other and they know the other person doesn't but they hold on to the relationship anyway trying to have hope that it'll get better, but doesn't. Lots of people will keep pressing on in a relationship they know is bound for downhill but they simply don't want to believe it.

[lightbulb27]

Yes, in essence, attraction is sub conscious familiarity... e. g. emotinoal programming. that programming may not be good, may draw opposite or be a bad match. You have to get into it and experience it to grow and a lot of times, it's too much stress.

So you learn about yourself and others, what you can deal with and be happy, what you need, and you grow as a person so you yourself, are easier to deal with.

The better our training, the better our choices.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, failed relationships occur do to bad partner choices.

You could choose a match the first time, or the tenth time, or never, it depends on how well you learn about the person before letting your crotch overrule your brain.

[smashleyy]

Yes I do. People marrying someone who was only suppose to be a lesson is why I think there’s so many failed marriages.

[Sour-rose]

Oh yeah, for sure. If every relationship was a good one, how would you know or understand a bad one?

[DizzyDesii]

I don’t think they’re destined to fail but i think that if they fail, it was another lesson learned

[itsalyssaagain]

Every relationship teaches you something about yourself. The more you know yourself, the better decisions you can make.

[Adam1978]

No they fail because you didn't make a good pick or because you are the issue.

[Nikki1989]

Some people fail at relationships just as they are getting started.

[Peter_Penetrator]

No. I do believe that when they do fail, both parties have the option to learn from their mistakes.

[fonduegirl]

Progress to what? If a relationship fails, you only have you and your partners to blame.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, I believe so, I had 2 relationships so far that have failed.

[Luopio27]

I dont think our lives are scripted. Love is more lile wealth. Its an exchange of atractive qualities.

[art84]

I think people sometimes just chose the wrong person to be with and never learn from their mistakes.

[VikingWarLord]

I believe in "artificial destiny" for sure.

[Twalli]

There are people who go through life with one relationship. Mine is likely to be that, and this popular internet couple is the same way.

[FilmGuy93]

Some are, yeah.

[Fuentes]

Nah I don't beleive that

[shades777]

incompatibility is what its called

[Christoff92]

Yes absolutely