My boyfriend calls my rapist my “best friend”?

[Anonymous]

Example:
“I seen your best friend today.”
“Your best friend texted me today”
etc..
This is very upsetting to me.

[Screenwriter]

Something is wrong with the person who calls himself your "boyfriend." It almost sounds like he's jealous!!! How he could twist a traumatic incident in YOUR life into something that has taken something from HIM is disturbing and bizarre.

I hope you've TOLD him how much this upsets you. If you haven't, you MUST. And if he continues to act in this manner, you need to break up with him. I can't fathom how he sees your rape as a threat to him, but this is all I can come up with. He needs help you do not have the expertise or the emotional wherewithal to deliver.

YOU are the one who he should be supporting with compassion, not anger and jealousy. That he has reacted in this manner makes no sense. Confront him about how inappropriate and hurtful this has been to you and that if he continues, you two cannot continue either. Good luck.

[kylee2437]

Why is your boyfriend even in contact with him? That’s really bizarre and honestly I’d probably dump a guy if he was actively in contact with someone that raped me and didn’t even flinch to whoop the rapists ass.

[FunkyMonkee]

Sounds like a real dick, to me!!
My best friend was raped as soon as she moved here to be with her new boyfriend and, as soon as he found out that she was raped, she accused HER of cheating on him with the rapist!! He even accused her of fucking ME even though the ONLY thing I did was accidentally kiss her on top of her head, ONCE!!

[TooHot2Care]

Honestly, bro? You should probably chloroform or drug your boyfriend one night and rape him to teach him a lesson.

One of my exes did that to me once. I still have mixed emotions about that night…….

[Summeroflove]

Yeah… maybe he’s joking. But that’s really not right. You need to express how you feel and if he won’t respect that. Then you probably need to move on. It’s concerning behavior to say the least

[AaronKrieger]

Create a boundary about it or end things, but that is fucked on his part to be saying that. I cannot see how he thinks that's fine unless he lacks empathy (don't mean that as an insult, but a genuine statement).

[Anonymous]

He doesn’t believe you were raped.
He believes you got yourself into a situation that could have been prevented and ended up fucking someone and then called it rape based on regret, alcohol, or some other excuse.
Therefore when he see’s the guy in question, he mocks it because he resents you slightly for the choices you made.

Was there even a police report?

[RavVid]

So you were raped by a guy known to you and your boyfriend and they have little chats?

Do I have this right?

[Asker]

You’re correct.

[RavVid]

Oh my. I think there is only one thing to do with your boyfriend. I don't think I have heard of anything more brazenly and callously offensive. Was the rape before or after your boyfriend became your boyfriend?

This is like, if not in fact, passing your girlfriend around.

I don't suppose you want to do anything wrt to the rape? I have helped a dear friend through something similar so I know it is not easy.

[Sparkie460]

First, your boyfriend is an ass. How can he be so rude to say that?
Second, if this other guy raped you why isn't he in jail? He shouldn't still be walking around

[Asker]

The sheriff’s department won’t take my case because “I don’t have proof I told him no”. I even ended up pregnant and had his baby, but yet, “don’t have proof”.

[Sparkie460]

That's absurd. How can you have proof of saying no? Are you supposed to tell your rapist to wait until you record yourself saying no? Police and sheriff are supposed to "serve and protect " the public

[Asker]

Mine clearly aren’t doing a very good job with that. I wasn’t the only one he’s done it too, i’m sure I won’t be the lest either unfortunately. I was hoping to put a stop to that. Multiple women has turned him in, still nothing.

[Sparkie460]

Can I ask where you live?

[Asker]

Indiana

[Sparkie460]

If I knew you irl I'd make him a pair of cement shoes and take him swimming in the ocean with the sharks

[Simslover92]

That's so messed up. You should really consider him not being your boyfriend anymore.

[Massageman]

OK. I'll take this at face value. How does he know about this other individual?

[Asker]

he knows who it is because i’m comfortable enough to talk to him about it.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

That is messed up, for sure.

[LiamJHayden]

Your boyfriend is a horse's derriere. Do yourself a favor and dump him. There is definitely someone more compassionate out there for you.

[Nikki1989]

Why is he your boyfriend still?

[Anonymous]

that's fucked up that's a really fucked up thing to say to someone who got raped

[Mettbltt]

what the fuck is this

[Asker]

What do you mean

[LimitedBenefits101]

Stop lies lady, you haven't been raped.

[DsX_Life]

enjoy it after all life is short