Is emotional intelligence important in a guy when it comes to relationships?

[woody]

I can't say that I am very good at emotional intelligence. Reading other people's feelings or being sensitive in an emotional moment is not my thing. Do you think this means that I will screw up in relationships? Girls, do you value emotional intelligence in a man you want a relationship with?

[ohsheeT]

It is one of the most beautiful and most important things you could have and understand with inside of yourself we all have it it's called megahertz it's energy just like a radio station that flies through the Airways you can pick up people's signals you can feel their energy and you can become one it's a beautiful thing that we all have. I call it energy whether you believe it or not we are all energy we project energy 15 ft above us and all around us at all times our planet has an energy filled around it everything on this planet that is alive is energy our planet vibrates everything on this planet vibrates so fast it's energy it is an intelligence it is very emotional when you can feel it and when you can project it if you have never felt it before. do this
Next time you are making love there become a moment in time where you both hit the same
Frequency and your body's become one about one minute before you're going to have your orgasm pay attention looking to that person's eyes feel that energy from them. Everybody knows that it is one of the most beautiful moments ever and people mistake that as love it's not love it's energy it's when you both become one and it's like you melt float swirl into a round each other this is a moment in time that you need to learn everything about it I believe that we are all supposed to have this capability and knowledge of understanding it to become it every minute of the day it is breathtaking literally like I have always said you need to experience it to understand it and it goes deeper than you would ever believe

[Tiptoetamm]

Beautiful said

[ohsheeT]

Thank you

[MrWolf]

Who cares anyway what we man want or think this days. I ain't point fingers or blaming someone. It's the hard truth that no one can swallow.

This days we are the bad people who don't understand and our only use is to give everything we have and more without expecting anything in return because we don't get it what costs a woman/girl to be with us.

Like I get the whole picture but what I don't get is why we man should even care in return or pay attention to people like that.

Being called the bad person over and over only shows who the real perpetrator is in the end.

[sunflower00]

It is definitely one of if not the most important thing for me in a relationship. If my partner lacks emotional intelligence it won’t work at all.


I wouldn’t say you’re alone though, a surprising amount of men do seem to lack emotional intelligence, lots of reasons for it.

[midnightmoon05]

It’s essential to be able to connect with diff. people in diff. levels.
to be able to connect with your partner will make life a lot easier. We all kinda need to adapt, make changes, learn to be better. It’s well worthy it.!

[Investigator]

Emotional intelligence, as far as I understand it, is basically the ability to connect people's actions and intentions with their temperament. It requires a keen eye and an observant mind, and it's equal parts "problem solving" and "active listening". For example, knowing when to engage in an argument and when to back down, in order to defuse a situation, is demonstrating emotional intelligence.

Conversely, trying to "out-scream" your partner, in order to win an argument by sheer volume, because you aren't willing to listen to whatever it is they have to say, or believe it is beneath you to humor them, would be considered emotionally deficient. It is often the case that "being right" is more important than "being heard".

[TooHot2Care]

EQ ….. see for EQ to work you need three things.

1. A person who communicates their emotions.

2. A person who appreciates it.

3. A person who will reciprocate or you will want out.

I have good EQ, leveled up my body, personality , got a skincare routine. Did all the “hard work” that Reddit dating advice people insist you need to do…..

It doesn’t really help me in dating, it just helps me see what the other person is gonna do.

im sure it will help me when I get with someone who is relationship material, but….. it’s like a pearl wasted on pigs for now.

[whereismyjohnny]

It’s crucial, both in relationships and in life in general. A lack of emotional intelligence causes difficulties in building and maintaining relationships. It’s very important to me when it comes to men.

[itsalyssaagain]

It’s probably one of the most important if not THE most important trait to have as a man. You’d be surprised by hope many men aren’t emotionally intelligent and they don’t even realise it.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Yes it is and so are being realistic and communication. This is vice versa so it’s not just on men, but it is on women just as much. I don’t care if you’ve been with someone for a long time. If something feels off to you, say something. If you wanna make sure things are ok, ask her.
If she can’t tell you what the problem is, then she’s failing to communicate. Same goes for the man who can’t point out an issue.

[devilish-cutie]

yes, it is very important. plenty of guys act towards women as they do with their friends, you cannot do that, you need to be gentle, kind to your woman!!

[TheThingALing]

It's definitely important but I'd argue it's more important for a guy to learn how a woman communicates first. Guys say what they mean and make the critical mistake in thinking that girls do the same when in fact, much if what they say means something else.
This creates situations where guys are dumbfounded eventually let their emotions all out on the girl because yallve caused a system error in his brain

[devilish-cutie]

@TheThingALing well communication is generally extremely important in any human relationship, however i wouldn't think its as simple as you say. Personally im very practical and say what i mean while in my experience men haven't been so, they have been evasive, they said things i wanted to hear and things they believe but aren't true cause they are often unrealistic and thik of themselves in higher regard than their abilities. I think its more important for a man to figure out what is important to a woman, like safety and attention. Men often dont understand womens needs and vice versa. Men also should work on themselves, like you said communication, emotional intelligence, their own insecurities etc.

[TheThingALing]

Ok I agree that many will lie. I guess I was more so stating the difference between them communicating overtly and women (tending to often) communicate covertly

[serious]

Yes of course it is very important. However, it is best to be logical and rational though

[Steelcore5280]

Women will claim they think emotional intelligence is an extremely important thing in a man, but based on life experiences and how I've seen women react to men you'd call "emotionally intelligent," I would have to say it's all a ruse on their end.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Very important. Lack that and it is not going to work.

[AmyHew1tt]

It's one of the most important and attractive traits.

[Tiptoetamm]

Being emotionally available is the sexiest thing in a man so. I'd say yes it's important

[Rockstarrrrr]

Dude if you're like that you become quite irresistible to women lol... Even friends would fall for you...

[KrakenAttackin]

Let's be real, most men have a much higher emotional intelligence than women. Most modern women completely lack empathy at their core.

[captain_voidwalker]

There is no such thing as emotional intelligence. As a man you should have almost 0 emotions. You are the cold logic component of the relationship

[Jltakk]

I am not good at reading other people either. I don't even look them in the eye. Its too much for me.

[shades777]

Don't need to be, thats what women are for, we complement each other, not replace each other

[sunflower00]

This is not right. Everyone should be capable of emotional intelligence along with other things. If a man lacks emotional intelligence a relationship often just won’t work.

[shades777]

Thats a woman's strength, you gals suppose to do the nurture, we guys do the tough love, shielding y'all from the harashness of reality

[mandyfire98]

Absolutely important.

[LazerBean]

Of course.

[JustBeingReal727]

I say it's important for both sexes.

[LovingJo]

Yes 💯

[Blackcupcake]

huge yes

[Anonymous]

Well his dick don't no emo

[Alinejanelle]

Yes for sure