Does high intelligence help in female-male relationships or on the contrary?

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Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

I mean. It just can't stop there. If you're both gonna be intelligent. You're both aware of realities in life and relationship. Easier to pick up things and work on them.

With my intelligence- I've mastered recognizing 'complex,' and simplifying it. As a person of intelligence- I've cut my issues and negatives down more than half.

Some I could seriously avoid- I instead give more attention to working positively.

Actually yeah... intelligent people cut out a lot of drama. He said. She said. Grudges and emotional confusion. Two intelligent people can rule out discussing sex philosophically in the bedroom, and save it for a later... more convenient time ;)

They understand self. The other. General situations.

Grasping understanding really helps.

It's like walking away from being that little kid who cried and asked their parents "why don't they like me?" "Why did they bully me? I did nothing wrong?" "Why did mom/ dad leave us?"

It's confusion. Holding unnecessary pain. Not seeing the situations for what it is. It keeps that kid a little longer away from enjoying life. Understanding/ appreciating self and loved ones, and recognizing other people and situations.

That kid could be eating ice cream. Playing. Laughing. If that kid learns from their parents the truth of the matter. They'll do just that. Walk away with joy, and cone in hand. Living a simple happy life.

Intelligence helps with that. It solves, and eliminates problems.

It's the metaphoric example of the luxury of using 'square roots,' and then dividing or subtracting or whatever must be done afterward. Dealing with a simplified number is a lot easier than dealing with a mega number.

later on, when the problem is solved, you can choose to try and comprehend the vastness of the original number, for fun, but ultimately you would have saved yourself the heartache, as compared to a person who didn't know the simplifying method you knew.

Intelligence? It saves us from heartache.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

The type of intelligence that bothers me is if a guy yells at you or throws a tantrum at you for not meeting his standards. Like a guy was interested in me and I told him I thought this disabled guy I knew was annoying because he always asked me for money and he told me to block the other guy. I agree being a leech is bad but blocking somebody without prior discussion seems harsh to me. I know two good looking guys who yelled at their friends for failures in attention, one guy was messy with a shelf item and got yelled at and another guy was messy with the projector and got yelled at for his carelessness. I can't stand people like that. Unless I rob a bank or beat somebody up, I do not condone being yelled at.

BullShark · Accepted Answer

Yes. Dating a stupid partner or just someone who's really thick and dumb, regardless of how hot they may be is like buying a sexy new sports car but without the engine. And what do you do with a car that doesn't have an engine? You tow it around, trying to look cool because it can't drive itself.

The same thing goes for relationships. It's okay being the smart one in the relationship, but if your partner is just an outright idiot who has no sense of how the world works, no emotional sensitivity to things that need it, no care for others and just a lack of a brain, then you're in deep shit, my friend. Trust me, their innocence and naivety may seem cute to you, but later on when you realize they lack empathy and cannot relate to a thing you say, you'll start regretting being with them more and more.

I'd rather date a 6 or 7 whom I can have a genuine, mature, deep and intellectual conversation with, rather than a solid 10 who can't understand or relate to a word I say.

mobiusforniner · Accepted Answer

I dated a very intelligent girl. We are both engineers. Shit, figuring her out was like trying to play 3D chess. We could literally read each others intent just with body language. It created a lot of anxiety for me. Loved her, but drove me insane at the same time. I married someone who is, well, not as intelligent... Its worked out better and more relaxing for me even though trying to explain simple things to her is very frustrating

dynamicyandere · Answer

There will always be men and women alike that are attracted to intelligence. My intelligence has always been an asset when attracting women. And, I need to be with a woman with high emotional intelligence and the ability have deep philosophical and existential discussions with me. So, yes. I believe it does help. But, it also depends on the type of men and women you want to attract. Intelligence is often attracted to intelligence.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Being intelligent is always helpful in most ways. It CAN be a problem when there’s a great disparity in intelligence between any two people. In this case it is the dummy’s responsibility to catch up, not the know-it-all’s responsibility to play down their intelligence for the sake of the dummy’s feelings. I simply do not understand the current trend of glorifying ignorance and prioritizing feelings over facts.

Haha456 · Answer

highly intelligent people tend to marry other highly intelligent people. do you really think a genius would be attracted to an idiot?

Effably · Answer

As in if it is a benefit in finding a partner? Not especially. The things commonly brought by a high intelligence might help.

It doesn't harm you much of course. But as always the real divide in people finding partners is down to whether or not you're putting yourself out there first and foremost. Followed bt slightly less important traits like looks and gender.

Anonymous · Answer

It actually makes dating tougher. Natural intelligence doesn’t mean you can grasp “animal spirits” i. e. social queues and nuances in others. It doesn’t make you street smart.

It also makes you overanalyze behaviors that are often not rationale to your pov (e. g. young women chasing assholes). Those behaviors are impossible to fully understand.

lightbulb27 · Answer

If it helps you to relate to the other and communicate well and as well resolve conflict yes. If it results in endless debates that you are right, then no.

and the question may be... what kind of intelligence... emotional, mathematical?

Anonymous · Answer

Depends what kind of intelligence, I’m academically mid my ex’s have all been academically gifted in one way or another however they’ve all had no life experience I mean fixing things, using household appliances washing machines/ovens/boilers/vacuuming/ironing just basic things you’d think a 23 yr old would know they did not. I think it’s because they were coddled by their parents too much.

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

Human intelligence and logic rarely are of much benefit in a relationship- where emotions are king. Specifically, a female's high intelligence has been shown to be a detriment to a relationship working.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really. When it comes to understanding the way women think you have to comletely suspend logic and just think about her emotions. Then you need to use your logic to weed out what is workable to a solution that is acceptable for everyone. And when to tell her to stop acting like a child.

Avicenna · Answer

Being of relatively similar intelligence helps, but I think having some values in common is even more important

fonduegirl · Answer

Depends on what kind of intelligence. Like if they have high interpersonal intelligence, yeah definitely a plus. If it's mathmatics IQ, not so much.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I tend to have less drama and bullshit with highly intelligent women.

MCheetah · Answer

The contrary. Very few women are intelligent. Few men are intelligent. But the ones who are intelligent, are usually men.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I feel like average-intelligence people are the most successful romantically. Because they're not smart enough to overthink, but they're also not dumb enough to get offended and get into arguments over stupid shit.

Jay3344 · Answer

It’s relative, and sometimes with extreme intelligence it can be difficult no matter how intelligent your partner is. But to be honest I think it really helps to have a high level of intelligence between partners.

watercolor_lions · Answer

I've heard less intelligent people are happier in life.

Anonymous · Answer

Be careful what you wish for.

Smart man + smart woman = love

Smart man + dumb woman = single mother

Dumb man + smart woman = marriage

Dumb man + dumb woman = you definitely don't want them to be your parents.

genericname85 · Answer

intelligence helps everywhere. just not with depression. depression tends to be harder to fix the more intelligent you are.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yes, if both are smart and share the same interests/hobbies.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It's extremely helpful, as long as you can balance it with the appropriate EQ

Anonymous · Answer

Smart is always better than dumb. But it makes much less a difference in terms of making a girl attractive to a guy on average than other characteristics.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

Intelligence has nothing to do with it. The key lies in emotional maturity

maximumpower · Answer

Help? It's mandatory. As many have said in the past - you can't fix stoopid.

OddBeMe · Answer

If the other is highly intelligent. Helps to match.

Anonymous · Answer

If depends on what you mean by intelligent. People often confuse intelligence with educated but those aren't necessarily the same though they often go hand in hand.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Well, her being an idiot certainly isn't helpful for the relationship.

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

Entelligence is subjective with each gender. Understanding and respect helps

Anonymous · Answer

Well yes, because looks only go so far.

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