Does intelligence matter for you when dating?

[Anonymous]

I lack in intelligence and that’s probably one of the few things that people don’t want from a potential relationship 🤧

[SoupCan]

absolutely depends on the cognitive trade off
Does their humor make up for not being able to sustain a conversation on my level, or does my humor make up for my lack of intelligence.
all a personal decision. What can you accept and what can your acceptance do to sustain a semblance of social acceptance.
For me personally, it all depends on how they treat me. Most think of me as a creep because it has become near impossible to articulate my thoughts without being brutally honest and that creeps people out for some reason. So i have just not dated for 3 years. Instead i have chosen to chase my passion for music, knowledge, and God.

[Kiran_Yagami]

Oddly enough, not really. I wouldn't date a total doofus, but women too often confuse intelligence for being opinionated and bitchy. I've no time for a contrarian or someone who has to have a strong opinion about everything. I'd easily take a woman with an average or even below average IQ who is agreeable than a 200 IQ genius that makes every decision a living hell. Being smart doesn't mean you're always right, nor does it mean you have to struggle to be right about everything. Some things just aren't worth arguing over.

[btbc92]

It depends of what kind of intelligence you're speaking about. You don't have to be a scholar but you should at least understand a basic things of the world and how to handle things in life. At the end of the day people are mostly going to be attracted to those who are on the mental level and mentality. What matters most is maturity and your willingness to want to learn and to grow intelligent. It makes no sense complain about what you want happen if you don't put the effort to help you learn anything. Otherwise you going to end up with the same type of people that's going to hold you back and actually not going anywhere in life.

[Asker]

I’m just an idiot. I don’t have common sense like others do

[btbc92]

You want to know why you're an idiot? Because you already believe you're an idiot. You cursing yourself and your damning yourself. You lack self worth, love, true ambition and assertiveness. You hate yourself. And you don't love yourself enough. And that's a sign that you need to get yourself some help because it's very obvious that you've been abused, and been emotionally neglected. This don't have to be your life. And if you have to be looking for somebody to be dating at your age that's a sign that you need to get your life together. You are far too young to be thinking about things like this, especially about yourself. You should not be seeking the validation of others and seeking affection of a person who doesn't owe you anything. You're not secure in yourself. And you've proven yourself to be very unhealthy and toxic around others to be around with. You're far too young in my opinion to be worrying about dating if you're not going to be looking to get married young. Because trust me a lot of these boys out here at just going to pump and dump. And they are not going to want to be concerned themselves about somebody who's constantly insecure and have problems that have nothing to do with them. These are your problems. And you have to be the one to fix them. Not run away from them or expect others to fix it for you.

[btbc92]

So stop calling yourself an idiot. And believe that you are smart. Because the more you keep saying that you're an idiot, you want to make it a reality. You got to speak life into you body as well as into your own future.

[Nicolette777]

Men say they like intelligence but they don’t like it when women are more intelligent than them. They just like someone who they can hold a conversation with I think. As for me, I like reallly smart men, but not exclusively. I just think it’s hot, especially when they look smart with the black ray bans 😍

[AmandaYVR]

As others have said, find your equal. They're out there. The world is full of people.
You could also develop your knowledge or emotional intelligence. People can change and grow. The longer you use your brain the more it may lower the chance of dementia, Alzheimer's, etc.

[SteveSmith1985]

Intelligence matters, but you don't have to be a genius. As long as you aren't woefully ignorant, I think you should be just fine.

By the way, what makes you think you lack intelligence? Like have you actually been tested or diagnosed with something? Or do you just think you lack intelligence because some assholes got that into your head?

[Cynicaldreamer]

Oh that's a requirement for me. I make sure the guy I'm interested in can not only hold a conversation, but has some brains. I don't want to date some airhead, lol

If he doesn't at least have some common sense and book sense, it's a major turnoff

[Adam1978]

Yes it matters but are you sure your not selling yourself short right now. Intelligence is something earned over time and not freely given. It granted to most who use whats inside their skull all the time instead of waste it. Sure some encouragement might be needed.

[KimKardashiansFeet]

Nope it doesn't, id say that my dad is a smart man however he has a girlfriend with intellegence a little lower than average id say. Even then theyve been in a relationship for a really long time now, and when im with them i notice that theyre really happy with each other. So no, intelligence doesn't matter.

[SlothySlob]

I hope you're not interpreting intelligence as knowledge. While it is part of intelligence, it is not the same thing.
For me intelligence is a composite of knowledge and wisdom.
Knowledge is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, wisdom is knowing not to put it in a fruit salad.

[FriedPickles1218]

There are different types of intelligence. Someone could have books smarts , talk about all kinds of topics, solve any math problem you throw at them, but could lack the most basic of common sense.

Find out what your strengths are and emphasize that.

[Passinggas]

I have been with two lower than averages and it was bad. Then I was with a few that thought that they were smart but not; that was worse. The most important thing to me is common sense and that is lacking in most people of this book-learned overeducated world. I like smart if she is clever enough and has enough common sense to practice humility.

[nerms123]

Yeah but obviously people of all intelligences date. I think it’s more important to have someone similar in intelligence. Also everyone has their own kinds of intelligence. So don’t worry about that.

[Thatsamazing]

Yes, absolutely. I don't want to date someone who is ignorant as hell and doesn't know anything or read anything. I'd be willing to date her if she felt like learning more about life, the world, and everything in it, but if she decided to just continue to wallow in ignorance and vote Republican or whatever, then hell no-- good bye.

[ThatDude29]

Never think that way. Love conquers all. I've seen a girl who was super smart date a real dim nutter BUT you know what, they got married and live happily.

I would feel sad if I just dated a women because she is smart. Sure being smart is great, but i would never turn down a girl i like because she isn't "Smart". Some of my best friends in school were real dim dorks BUT make life that much more special.

Don't beat yourself up. Reading helps tho. You will be just fine

[MannMitAntworten]

It does. However, allow me to note something. Last year I met someone who felt she was not at all smart. Yet, the questions and thoughts she would share with me were not that of a simple mind. Don't discount your brains yet. They might be lingering about.

[VikingWarLord]

Most women have the attention span of a gnat or a flea.

Especially when you talk about important topics. They can gossip about stupid shit for hours, but bring up Quantum Entanglement or Neural Linguistics and these women turn into deer in a headlight. I've just come to the conclusion that most women are incapable of keeping up with my intelligence so I just fucck and move on to the next.

[bamesjond0069]

Not really. Can you cook? Clean? Be polite to a man? Do you recognize that maybe if you aren't smart you should probably let your boyfriend make decisions for you? If you can do all this then it doesn't matter. I was with a dumb girl for a long time and im very above and beyond intelligent and it worked out just fine.

[MercuryG]

For me yeah it's necessity for something long term. I've tried dating gals that are on the low side of the bell curve and it ends up not being a healthy relationship for either of us.

Not her fault, not really mine, just doesn't work out.

[CubsterShura]

I can't be with a totally stupid person but he doesn't necessarily have to be very intelligent or whatever. Even being a little dumb is fine for me. I kinda learned from life that having a not-so-intelligent-partner really isn't a huge deal.

[MecheD]

Yes it does but ( you don’t have to be Einstein) the thing is no one wants a girl/guy who they wouldn’t bat an eyelash at the thought of them being persuaded to be physically or emotionally acquainted with someone else.

[jayden888]

It does matter. But what makes you think you aren't intelligent? You surely know something. Very intelligent people can get annoying too actually and it's not very desirable.

[TheKack]

I doubt you're as lacking as you think. For me, yes, I like to be able to hold solid conversations with a potential SO. But that doesn't mean she has to be a genius, just that we can relate to each other.

[6lacier]

It matters somewhat. Just want someone where we're more or less on the same page.

If you're lower in intelligence, maybe you can find a partner who is too, and then you'll feel like equals.