Does intelligence matter for you when dating?

Question

I lack in intelligence and that’s probably one of the few things that people don’t want from a potential relationship 🤧

SoupCan · Accepted Answer

absolutely depends on the cognitive trade off
Does their humor make up for not being able to sustain a conversation on my level, or does my humor make up for my lack of intelligence.
all a personal decision. What can you accept and what can your acceptance do to sustain a semblance of social acceptance.
For me personally, it all depends on how they treat me. Most think of me as a creep because it has become near impossible to articulate my thoughts without being brutally honest and that creeps people out for some reason. So i have just not dated for 3 years. Instead i have chosen to chase my passion for music, knowledge, and God.

Kiran_Yagami · Accepted Answer

Oddly enough, not really. I wouldn't date a total doofus, but women too often confuse intelligence for being opinionated and bitchy. I've no time for a contrarian or someone who has to have a strong opinion about everything. I'd easily take a woman with an average or even below average IQ who is agreeable than a 200 IQ genius that makes every decision a living hell. Being smart doesn't mean you're always right, nor does it mean you have to struggle to be right about everything. Some things just aren't worth arguing over.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

It depends of what kind of intelligence you're speaking about. You don't have to be a scholar but you should at least understand a basic things of the world and how to handle things in life. At the end of the day people are mostly going to be attracted to those who are on the mental level and mentality. What matters most is maturity and your willingness to want to learn and to grow intelligent. It makes no sense complain about what you want happen if you don't put the effort to help you learn anything. Otherwise you going to end up with the same type of people that's going to hold you back and actually not going anywhere in life.

Nicolette777 · Accepted Answer

Men say they like intelligence but they don’t like it when women are more intelligent than them. They just like someone who they can hold a conversation with I think. As for me, I like reallly smart men, but not exclusively. I just think it’s hot, especially when they look smart with the black ray bans 😍

AmandaYVR · Answer

As others have said, find your equal. They're out there. The world is full of people.
You could also develop your knowledge or emotional intelligence. People can change and grow. The longer you use your brain the more it may lower the chance of dementia, Alzheimer's, etc.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Intelligence matters, but you don't have to be a genius. As long as you aren't woefully ignorant, I think you should be just fine.

By the way, what makes you think you lack intelligence? Like have you actually been tested or diagnosed with something? Or do you just think you lack intelligence because some assholes got that into your head?

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Oh that's a requirement for me. I make sure the guy I'm interested in can not only hold a conversation, but has some brains. I don't want to date some airhead, lol

If he doesn't at least have some common sense and book sense, it's a major turnoff

Adam1978 · Answer

Yes it matters but are you sure your not selling yourself short right now. Intelligence is something earned over time and not freely given. It granted to most who use whats inside their skull all the time instead of waste it. Sure some encouragement might be needed.

KimKardashiansFeet · Answer

Nope it doesn't, id say that my dad is a smart man however he has a girlfriend with intellegence a little lower than average id say. Even then theyve been in a relationship for a really long time now, and when im with them i notice that theyre really happy with each other. So no, intelligence doesn't matter.

SlothySlob · Answer

I hope you're not interpreting intelligence as knowledge. While it is part of intelligence, it is not the same thing.
For me intelligence is a composite of knowledge and wisdom.
Knowledge is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, wisdom is knowing not to put it in a fruit salad.

FriedPickles1218 · Answer

There are different types of intelligence. Someone could have books smarts , talk about all kinds of topics, solve any math problem you throw at them, but could lack the most basic of common sense.

Find out what your strengths are and emphasize that.

Passinggas · Answer

I have been with two lower than averages and it was bad. Then I was with a few that thought that they were smart but not; that was worse. The most important thing to me is common sense and that is lacking in most people of this book-learned overeducated world. I like smart if she is clever enough and has enough common sense to practice humility.

nerms123 · Answer

Yeah but obviously people of all intelligences date. I think it’s more important to have someone similar in intelligence. Also everyone has their own kinds of intelligence. So don’t worry about that.

Thatsamazing · Answer

Yes, absolutely. I don't want to date someone who is ignorant as hell and doesn't know anything or read anything. I'd be willing to date her if she felt like learning more about life, the world, and everything in it, but if she decided to just continue to wallow in ignorance and vote Republican or whatever, then hell no-- good bye.

ThatDude29 · Answer

Never think that way. Love conquers all. I've seen a girl who was super smart date a real dim nutter BUT you know what, they got married and live happily.

I would feel sad if I just dated a women because she is smart. Sure being smart is great, but i would never turn down a girl i like because she isn't "Smart". Some of my best friends in school were real dim dorks BUT make life that much more special.

Don't beat yourself up. Reading helps tho. You will be just fine

MannMitAntworten · Answer

It does. However, allow me to note something. Last year I met someone who felt she was not at all smart. Yet, the questions and thoughts she would share with me were not that of a simple mind. Don't discount your brains yet. They might be lingering about.

VikingWarLord · Answer

Most women have the attention span of a gnat or a flea.

Especially when you talk about important topics. They can gossip about stupid shit for hours, but bring up Quantum Entanglement or Neural Linguistics and these women turn into deer in a headlight. I've just come to the conclusion that most women are incapable of keeping up with my intelligence so I just fucck and move on to the next.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Not really. Can you cook? Clean? Be polite to a man? Do you recognize that maybe if you aren't smart you should probably let your boyfriend make decisions for you? If you can do all this then it doesn't matter. I was with a dumb girl for a long time and im very above and beyond intelligent and it worked out just fine.

MercuryG · Answer

For me yeah it's necessity for something long term. I've tried dating gals that are on the low side of the bell curve and it ends up not being a healthy relationship for either of us.

Not her fault, not really mine, just doesn't work out.

CubsterShura · Answer

I can't be with a totally stupid person but he doesn't necessarily have to be very intelligent or whatever. Even being a little dumb is fine for me. I kinda learned from life that having a not-so-intelligent-partner really isn't a huge deal.

MecheD · Answer

Yes it does but ( you don’t have to be Einstein) the thing is no one wants a girl/guy who they wouldn’t bat an eyelash at the thought of them being persuaded to be physically or emotionally acquainted with someone else.

jayden888 · Answer

It does matter. But what makes you think you aren't intelligent? You surely know something. Very intelligent people can get annoying too actually and it's not very desirable.

TheKack · Answer

I doubt you're as lacking as you think. For me, yes, I like to be able to hold solid conversations with a potential SO. But that doesn't mean she has to be a genius, just that we can relate to each other.

6lacier · Answer

It matters somewhat. Just want someone where we're more or less on the same page. If you're lower in intelligence, maybe you can find a partner who is too, and then you'll feel like equals.

Mir95 · Answer

I mean not a big deal unless you're like borderline stupid. I am not very bright either so not really a priority for me.

naijagurl · Answer

It matters quite a bit for me. He doesn’t have to be incredibly smart but I want someone that I can have intellectual conversations with.

morimeme1 · Answer

Yes, for me it is the most important thing but hey, you're a girl and most guys your age don't care about intelligence.

Smelly12 · Answer

I want someone who understands me and my reasons and I will do the same back. It doesn't turn me off if she is a bit dummy. It can very much be cute. But I dont want her to be ignorant dumb thats just eh

devilish-cutie · Answer

of course it matters but its just important that someone is on the same level intelectually as you

normalguy93 · Answer

Has long has you can speek and you can get a job it really dosent matter

genericname85 · Answer

you lack in intelligence? that's usually not a thing dumb people think of themselves. that's usually a thing intelligent people think. have you had an official iq test done before?

pleasestopthis · Answer

Why do you say you lack in intelligence? Low grades in school doesn't necessarily mean you're dumb. We all have different kinds of intelligence.

RobLovesDemi1234 · Answer

Yes it does. I know a few women who are getting an MBA and one of them is as dumb as a bag of rocks and every time I think about it I say to myself how every time I talk to her (at her job) she's a complete dimwit

Daisy007 · Answer

Yes!! I mean I don't just want a sparkly cute box 😂😂 he has to have some sort of knowledge inside

Spitfire808 · Answer

No. I'm suffering from a condition that effects my memory greatly, so I often appear incredibly stupid. Even when my iq is well above 190. I would prefer a girl on the same cognitive level, or a girl with incredibly low intelligence

deronmir · Answer

"HELL YES" one of the most important things is intelligence

Anonymous · Answer

Intelligence only matters to women not as much so as men

ZashidMirac · Answer

Yes it does but I don't want my ptoential partner to be clever than me or how can i backfire

Dark93 · Answer

It absolutely matters. However intelligence comes in many forms. I'm sure you'll find your own form of intelligence someday soon, you're still a young woman and learning.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends , but if we’re talking about common sense type of thing then yes! I cannot be a 2nd mother to my significant other.

BrookieCookie0422 · Answer

I find unintelligence to be a turn off. I won’t date an idiot. I’ve done that before...

Landshrk0068 · Answer

Well, she can't be a rock, but I don't expect a rocket scientist either.

zagor · Answer

As long as you remember to put the toilet paper in your hand before wiping your ass, you'll find someone.

ITGirl95 · Answer

Very much, I'd love to have some intelligent conversation!

Anonymous · Answer

I get bored when the other party is stupid. So yes. But there isn't really a need for fact knowledge. I prefer wisdom. I like philosophical talks so being completely uneducated is a huge turn off.

Anonymous · Answer

Intelligence matter a good amount. I want someone who is somewhere around my intelligence level.

themomo84 · Answer

Intelligence, sense of humor and kindness are vital traits.

weirdoweirdo · Answer

I don't want her to be a total dumbass if that's what you're asking...

A-man-22 · Answer

Yes, intelligence but not full of themselves, is a great quality.

iFarted · Answer

I don't need her to be a rocket scientist, but she shouldn't be a dimwit either.

Jordan_M · Answer

As long as you can hold a conversation and have the same interests, you could have any level of intelligence

vinnie6768 · Answer

It shouldn't matter how smart you are it should matter about how both of you feel twords each other

God-vs-Satan · Answer

Not fully but she can't be completely stupid. She has to know certain things.

Twenty2 · Answer

What type of intelligence? Plus, if you know that you lack it, that means you're intelligent enough!

damaster · Answer

Definitely does it's one of the things I look for in a woman

Anonymous · Answer

Of course it does. I could be dating a very attractive girl. If she has a cancer attitude, horrible character, she is a zero for me. I don’t give pretty a pass and I hate ridicule people who do so

clonesclone · Answer

Yes. Someone who is not intelligent would be completely incompatible with me.

cubonesteak · Answer

No not at all. IQ and intelligence are superficial ratings.

Anonymous · Answer

I enjoy a dumb bitch. I need her to be clueless and air headed as f. If not then I'm not really interested.

Anonymous · Answer

true intelligence is really important but i don't appreciate acting smart and being a smart ass

Anonymous · Answer

belief is more important  she does not have to be super smart  BUT IF SHE DOES NOT BELIEVE WHAT I BELIEVE SHE IS WRONG  and a waste of a life

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, in the sense I prefer less intelligent people so I feel more intelligent.

Logorithim · Answer

It's a definite plus

ronniev1969 · Answer

It's a plus. But cuddling is a plus too.

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