Is it a red flag that a girl I'm talking to lives with her best friend who's a guy and also has slept with this guy?

[Momo2k]

So this girl I've been talking to everything is becoming very serious were basically together but without labels yet early on she told me that she lives with her best friend who's a guy I didn't think much of it but lately I've been thinking more it she has slept with him multiple times but I asked her is there anything that I need to be worried about she said no she doesn't have feelings for him she has been spending so much time with me I believe her but something just doesn't feel right

Updates

11 mo

I overreacted big time! Things have become so amazing between us! Everything actually feels perfect and I have full trust in her I believe her, she would never do anything that would hurt me nor will I ever. Never felt love like this.

[megabamse]

It can be, but it also might not be. One of my best friends is a lady i dated many years ago. But we broke up because there where no good Match romantically, but really good match as friends. Been super good friends ever since, not slept together since we broke up. Don't see the issue of it was like that.

[shades777]

Anytime I let a woman stay with me I was fuckkng her, then again they already had an attraction for me and I paid their way so... but I would check out the guy she's with, if dude is fuckable she's fucking him, if he's unfuckable then your safe, for now.


But dude if you have to ask this question your already fucked 😂

[Anonymous]

I live with a group of guy friends and have at some point or another had sex with all of them. The only times I have ever cheated on my boyfriends with them has been when there were already problems with our relationship.

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. It’s normal to question it, as it doesn’t happen everyday, but I’d say trust her until she gives you a reason not to. She’s been more honest than she’s had to be, with you already.

[IAmAzzurra]

It depends on the person & what you think.
It’s your relationship & nobody should be letting strangers on the internet dicate it, especially when it’s someone only you know.

[Momo2k]

I know your right it's silly of me to put it out on the internet to judge when only I know her was just a thought at the time but I'm feeling different about it I mean so for the last month EVERY SINGLE night she's been on call with me for like 9 10 hours I'm saying not once has he come in or said anything I mean I know where she is at nights... With me

[IAmAzzurra]

Exactly!! If two friends, or housemates sleep together, it’s because they can. They don’t have a reason not to. They were probably both horny and/or high & the opportunity was there. It doesn’t go any deeper than that & it probably doesn’t cross her mind now 😊

[Momo2k]

She did tell me she was blackout drunk the last time she slept with him and I know her and trust her 100% we are so serious about our relationship I know she will never do anything to hurt me nor will I. I have full faith and trust in her

[stepyo99]

I'd trust your gut. Girls with guy friends are a small red flag. Girls with guy friends who they room and sleep with are a huge flashing red light.

[BoopBoopBeep]

He's going to be all over that when he gets drunk/horny/it's Tuesday. Tell her you'll get serious after she moves out.

[Miristheiss]

Of course it is. Don't date a girl is this situation. Huge red flag.

[Miristheiss]

Per your update.
You are a naive "nice gut".
You have a world of hurt in your future.

[Momo2k]

Maybe, good thing I get over things quick and easy 😉

[Momo2k]

Nice gut? You mean nice guy? So confused

[Momo2k]

I know what you're saying but this is such a small bit of my life on the internet abit silly on my side worrying about complete strangers giving opinions on things they have literally no clue about but I did put it out there first so it's on me lol but honestly been the happiest I've ever been so good on me I guess 😊

[Shamalien]

How can you be sexually exclusive with a girl who is living with a past sex partner? Seems fkd. Not gonna lie that’s how my parents met tho hahaha my dad was NOT a fan of her living situation tho

[Gent207-2]

Trust your gut

Your mind is recognizing subtle clues

[Rockstarrrrr]

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[Anonymous]

Yeah that's definitely a red flag. It's not a guarantee that there is a problem, but it's a pretty good reason to be concerned.

[dudeinohio]

Red flag. Run! No one should be friends with someone they slept with, if they want to. be in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

uh yes that's a red flag. personally i just couldn't deal with someone like that...

[Mangospacho]

That’s not technically a roommate she has. They’re technically just on a break.

[Paulalove98]

Yeah it is a red flag

[Spade_01]

Yeah, a big one.

[poetic_pisces]

Trust your gut

[Simslover92]

Yes it is

[juene]

🚩🚩🚩

[itsalyssaagain]

Yes it is

[Pixiebih]

Yeah dude😂😂😂

[roy_ricky09]

Ofcourse

[In_Trance]

the reddest of red