Why do women love selfish men?

Question

I feel like I have so much to give, but no one has ever been able to love me.

But I always see women bend over backwards for men who are completely self centered and puts all his wants above her needs.

And it seems like the men who work the hardest to make their partner happy are the ones who are hated and get cheated on.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

NO.. WE DONT. What kind of I—DIOT. Are you that makes you think that? ❓❓❓ How inexperienced are you that makes you think that? ❓❓❓ Women like Hot, Attractive , Masculine Men of High Testosterone. This is because we will replicate and reproduce high quality genes. It’s all about looks. We women are affected negatively by pregnancy. We women are affected negatively by reproduction NOT THE MAN. 👆 👆 And now that you understand this biological fact. It unfortunately turns out.. That Attractive, Masculine Men of High Testosterone. TEND… TEND TO BE SELFISH AND NARCISSISTIC  . . These men TEND to be selfish and narcissistic because of the amount of female options they have. They TEND to be selfish and borderline evil. Because of how much women spoil them. Women don’t like selfishness and evil. They like masculinity and manhood. Unfortunately.. AGAIN.. those who have high testosterone and that manhood. TEND to be selfish and evil. Due to them being spoiled brats. Don’t ever think that women like narcissism or evil or being bad!! ‼️ That term “badboy “, is incorrect. It’s supposed to be “hotboy”.  If you look like an undesirable and you behave selfish against a woman or narcissistic or evil or bad. That’s not gonna make you attractive at all. . If you’re an undesirable 🫵, you’re still an undesirable at the end of the day. Behavior doesn’t make you desirable. 🤦🏻‍♀️ AGAIN. Don’t ever think that women like narcissism or evil or being bad!! ‼️

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

“Why do girls date jerks?” It usually boils down to the jerk  not  being jerky in the beginning, knowingly manipulating the relationship and her expectations for him to where he can comfortably keep her in his life with no real emotional growth while she takes care of him. You’re not manipulative, you’re not lying to these women or putting on a facade to keep their attention, this is a good thing. Women that fall into these relationships are often women who are insecure and feel the very real  need  for male validation in the form of a relationship that these guys are offering. Women who have experienced these kinds of toxic relationships, especially if they’ve experienced them from a young age, will continue to subconsciously seek out more toxic relationships because of the comfort of the familiarity even if it comes crashing down on them for it later. Being in a healthy relationship would be really unfamiliar and seemingly dull in comparison. This is not their fault, nor yours, but the women and men who do these things are not psychologically healthy and maybe you should consider it a bullet dodged instead of constantly comparing yourself to someone who knowingly lies and manipulates to get what they want because her feelings matter so little to him in comparison to his need to have someone take care of him.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

It's an energy thing and you have to work on yours. When you come across differently, being confident and strong, you can be yourself and be successful and draw many options.

Womens hormones and emotions... they see those people as stronger, masculine. can't do anything about them. Realize a lot of females are broken inside, takes decades to repair... if ever they try. Talk to girls to learn and understand them... you'll find out. They will go where they feel more secure.

It's really screwy to think about women, there's a reason they have 4 year degree programs and frankly, may be impossible to understand. Your job is to love them, and that's it. That means you gotta find someone you can like first.. and tolerate as well. Women think different, have different purpose...

you don't want those ones anyways... so try being attracted to the ones that are better quality and save yourself the headaches.

As well, when women wisen up, they don't love those guys anymore or as much. They have to learn, same way men have to learn to sort out their mate options.

good luck.

CaptainOverthink · Accepted Answer

I know it seems that way, like it about them wanting a badboy.
But it's not.
My take is that it's about seeming:
- Assertive
- Goal-oriented
- Competent.
Underneath, this is also about what kind of a man these signs signal to the world that they are.

The problem with these signals are that it's often much easier to fake than be them. But it's not so much that they are aware that it's what they are doing, the badboys. It's just something they learn from looking at how true competence looks. So it's not that they are knowingly deceptive, although they can know deep down that they know nothing and are just being macho or playing cool.

And the problem for people that think first and act later is that we are not used to 'the act' and we also shouldn't but we should get to work on ourselves, ourgoals and dare to fsil miserably until we earn the competence to shine and be assertive.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

They want somebody who reacts to them cause they mistake attention for affection. Nice guys respect your freedom and don't react to everything you do and say.

sheenagwapa · Answer

not true dear there's a man who spend so much on me but as a candidate of his wuest which i did not agree on the first place so technically bot really my fault but he was so mad at me. i am thankful forall his help bur love life just so happen to rank to be my top most priority and so now i wish him the best. i used to love him but after gettinh fed up beinh a candidate i didn't enlist myself and always hatinh me in favor of his ex it's all gone. i don't understand this giy keep following me but he is fond of his ex. so my advise to him follow your heart dude. 🙏

catiecatie · Answer

Gotta love people that say “Grow up.” Kinda mean as you are generally curious. I fell in love with a selfish man. He broke my heart and it took time to heal. Have you tried online dating? That could be a start. I like this one guy really hard, but according to my friend he said it’s a 50-50 chance. So I think I might have to go for it and see. I mean the worst he can say is no. You just need to find a girl that matches your energy.

Anonymous · Answer

Not true.

Maybe the young girls who do like them, they don't know they are selfish yet (I had that happen to me).

But once you have experience with relationships and self-worth that is not something you need to tolerate!

It's not going to last if only one person is having their needs met, unless the other likes being kicked around and being a dormant or because of love, she waits for him for ten/twenty years and then her fertile years go by and she still has not a ring on her finger or he was just using her for sex or for companionship or an ego stroke!

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

I don't know about all that. I've done some pretty selfish things in the relationships I've been in, and I paid for it every time.
One started talking to another guy, and one straight up said she was done.
Being a jerk has never worked in my favor when it comes to women. The few that did fall in love with me, did it because of how sweet and caring I am. They said it was refreshing

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

It’s a human nature to like someone who likes himself.

We wonder, what is something he loves about himself so much? Let’s taste the bite.

Same about girls, every time guys fell for me, I was selfish. And the only time he fell out of love was when I became selfless. So yeah, be selfish. Love yourself, sometimes treat your kindness to others as well, but remember, you first. You are the first person who should be happy.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

It depends on the type of women you’re pursuing and also what you mean by “bending over backwards”.

Women with high self esteem wouldn’t pursue selfish men.

And you should bend over backwards for a woman unless she has given you a reason to do so.

Luopio27 · Answer

I've been facing rejection my whole life. All the girls I have liked have rejected me without any hesitetaion, remorse or regret. Im an avarage joe that is only atracted and in love with the looks.

If I wasn't shallow, I would easily get myself an avarage girl.

Are you shallow, going only for the pretiest or do you give chances to the rest?

Hanrej · Answer

They are rich, handsome and don't give their affection to just any girl.

That opens up possibilities and makes a girl feel special to have such a mans attention... At least at first. It usually takes a while before the same girl realize that he'll be selfish in their relationship as well.

Billlewis · Answer

I actually love it when the woman I'm serving starts dating and very selfish guy, because I know that if he's very selfish, he's probably also a total stud in bed, so she'll be well satisfied sexually.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

It's all about the butterflies and the fee fees, which include her being mad and drama. If you're the type of guy that isn't afraid to shit all over a woman, you'll make the panties drop like their hot.

Anonymous · Answer

They don't love selfish men. They want a imagination to be true about a man and then date that person.
Depending on looks, body, money, rude behaviour with a bit of good in between.
Girls always go for looks , behaviour and money.
Nothing else. Trust me, just wait for someone else to enter, that personal might be a real one but don't hope.
Today's women cheats a lot.

Anonymous · Answer

Because usually that selfish self centered ass hole is also handsome/ good looking. You don't see the God damn woman liking a ugly/ unattractive self centered selfish ass hole. The good looking ass hole can afford to be selfish and self centered. It is all about physical attraction.

inhua · Answer

selfish men tend to be stick up for themselves more and not tolerate BS. they aren't pushovers thus are seen as more attractive

Blueeyes81 · Answer

No one respects a doormat. People like pushback, people like to have their bullshit called not pandered to. Take care of your needs first and give what you have leftover. Being a nice guy shouldn't be your only defining trait.

thatshydork · Answer

To quote The Perks of being a Wallflower, “we except the love we think we deserve.”

fonduegirl · Answer

Are you a part of their relationship? What's that? No? Then you probably don't know the dynamics and interaction. Don't assume, don't judge. 🤷‍♂️

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Those women are not women you want, believe me. You just have to be patient and accept the woman who likes you and not the woman you like.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm sure those women come with a long list of their own problems. Toxic people attract other toxic people, because decent people won't deal with them.

Anonymous · Answer

Ugh, the old “always blame someone else for my failures” excuse. Grow up.

Anonymous · Answer

They're a challenge. If a woman doesn't feel she's earned him then she doesn't consider him of any value. This is why so many choose guy a bit toxic towards them. She believes he's better than her.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

Because they have the desirable traits men who aren't assholes have. For example, they have confidence and are disagreeable.

Nuu96 · Answer

I have gone through this and actually I don't knw why women needs to cry cz of those selfish men. They are seeking selfish men all the time. Sometimes, women may enjoy that feeling.

shades777 · Answer

I've never dated a fix her man type of woman but thats because I never needed that from a woman

Anonymous · Answer

Dawkins wrote a controversial book called "The selfish gene" Read about it.

Jltakk · Answer

The people saying grow up have a lot of growing up to do themselves.

imawfulatusernames · Answer

They don’t. Grow up, this is a you issue

Anonymous · Answer

Because they are mysterious.

dragoblack · Answer

Falsy comes across as confidence.

WallsVan · Answer

I'm still trying to find the answer...

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