Is my boyfriend emotionally abusing me- I’m so depressed?

[xolaurenxx]

I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for 6 months. Whenever I have a problem or if he does something wrong he will shout at me, he will say I’m immature and childish and that he’s gonna end things with me if I don’t shut my mouth and that i dont wanna see it ugly and that he hates me. For example he stood me up on my birthday and 5 nights before that. I said it in a nice calm manner and he said I’m being immature and childish and if I don’t shut up he will break up with me and so I shut up.

Im also pregnant and he’s said no man will want me with someone else’s baby whenever I have threatened to leave. Or sometimes if o threaten to leave he will say how much he loves me unconditionally and how he loves me and this baby. I HATE conflict so when he yells I literally just go numb. He will call me a slag and a whore when he’s angry and I just stand there in silence, I don’t know what to say. He threatens me if I shout at him back so I just don’t.

Then he will apologies and say how much he loves me. It’s weird because when I’m around my friends he’s so lovely and he puts on an act? Then when I’m back with him talking to him he’s horrible to me. He’s threatened before to kill me but I just didn’t take it literal? I thought it was a joke? Or if i’m sad about something he will say I need to grow up and stop being a child then threatens to move out and leave me forever. He said he wish he never got with someone like me and that he wished I was an older woman. Is this common for someone to act like this?

[ohsheeT]

For every girl out there that is having unprotected sex this is reason 2 that you need to make the right choices before you have sex with any guy.
Because this could be you one day

The guy will tell you anything to have sex with you

Then tell you anything to do it raw

Then just a matter of time your pregnant not him you are the odds of him staying around is a 50/50 deal but if he does stay around the odds of him acting like this is a 50/50 deal this is not who you signed that to be in life this Choice was handed to you because of bad choices

Now to answer your question you have 2 choices

Choice 1 walk away now it's just going to get worse this is the Truth

Choice 2 reread your question5 times
Then each time you read it x's it by 5 and when finished feel what that feels like because that's your new life for every min you stay in this relation ship
This is how and who your baby is going to become because he or she gets to experience just like you

It's your choice who do you want to be in life your choice who and how do you want your child to be in life

Pick one it's your choice the sad part is
Before you even had sex you were given the same opportunity to have protected sex or unprotected sex and you cannot take that back you have to live with that now so start making the right choices for not only you but for your child this is not love this is not anything to do with love except for the love of you and your child this guy hates himself he hates you and he will hate that child do not allow it to happen it's your choice

[xolaurenxx]

Yes I hope that no one is ever in this position, if I could scream to the world about practicing safe sex now I would!

[ohsheeT]

You need to scream everything you went through hell it sounds like

[ohsheeT]

Well here's the thing there are thousands of girls in the same position what you need to do is go to the school board and talk to them about having some sort of assembly group chat something that warns these young girls that this is going to happen with this type of guy and blah blah blah blah blah blah and get paid for it try to save some of these girls

[ohsheeT]

So have you walked away yet

[intovertedguy]

Yes, you are being seriously abused. Be careful I don't think he was kidding when he threatened to kill you.

Your boyfriends behaviour is typical of abusers, he's likely a narcissist.

Is there someone who can help you? Maybe relatives or friends. Call the police if you can do so safely.

If you are from the USA the following sites will be helpful:

(make sure you see this site when he isn't there or he will be angry)

National domestic violence hotline

h. t. t. ps://www. thehotline. org

Love is respect

h. t. t. ps://www. loveisrespect. org/get-relationship-help-24-7-365/

Safe Horizon (also has an hotline)

h. t. t. ps://www. safehorizon. org/get-help/domestic-violence/#overview/

Womens law (legal and emotional support)

h. t. t. ps://www. womenslaw. org

Office on women's health

h. t. t. ps://www. womenshealth. gov/relationships-and-safety/signs-abuse

[itsalyssaagain]

Yes. There are men who will listen to you until 3am in the morning to do their absolute best to make you feel better. They will apologise and never do something against if it hurts you. Don’t settle for a douche like this.

[EmmaMary]

I'm trying to think where I've seen this question before. 🤔

[xolaurenxx]

Maybe on here I posted one last week

[EmmaMary]

That's where I've seen it... Thank you for your honesty.

You do know it's against the forums rules to duplicate questions, don't you?

[xolaurenxx]

No I had no clue, I guess I’m just desperate for perspectives as I have no one else to speak to about it haha

[EmmaMary]

Well please don't be too surprised, or perhaps upset if this gets removed/deleted for the very reason I've mentioned.

Fingers crossed that it might just get overlooked.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[JamesMI616]

Leave. Yes it's abusive. Another man will absolutely want you. It's super fucked up and you should go before it escalates to physical violence. It's no joke. He will absolutely kill you. Be careful when you go because he'll do anything to keep you. You can do better and you deserve peace for you and your baby. Don't put up with it it will only get worse

[glennos89]

My advise for you is to pack your bags and get the hell out of this toxic relationship you have. Never allow anyone to mentally abuse you!

The fact that you ask yourself if you are being mentally abused tells me enough to let you know that he probably does! So get the hell out of that toxic situation and protect yourself from being abused

[CreatingWonders]

He is abusing you, he’s likely a narcissist you don’t need him or anyone like him in your life.


Please get help and leave him.


Make sure you have family or friends who can support you while you do this.

[spartan55]

Listen close: you are being abused, if you stay with him he WILL eventually kill you. Get out ASAP.

[Sparkie460]

He is definitely verbally abusing you. You need to get away from him. If you can't afford a place on your own, see if you can move in with friends or even your family

[Anonymous]

Yes this is emotional abuse and you have not chosen wisely. You should pray to God and seek His assistance concerning this problem.

[DextroShade]

You need to get an abortion and find someone who isn't a psychopath while you still have time. If you have his kid you will have ruined your life.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

But you have to understand, deep down he loves you

[Anonymous]

give him head more often

[Opinion Owner]

seriously being stingy benefits nobody

[Agape93]

Leave him

[Anonymous]

Nope