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My wife got drunk and cheated on me. Should I get angry and leave her? (Page 2)
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There's no "should". What are you feeling? What was the state of your marriage before this occurred? This seems like a good case for counseling if you can find the right person to talk to. Or maybe you have a close friend you could trust to listen. Talking through your feelings could help you come to a decision and be comfortable with it.
She should not have been drinking around people that were bot you, especially if she wasn't used to it. And i doubt she was drunk enough to lose all control. Its just an excuse. Whether the baby is yours or not, you should still leave her and just co-parent if its yours
She cheated. Alcohol or not you shouldn’t cheat period! If she was that unhappy she should’ve left. Now it’s your turn to take the high road and leave her! Don’t stay with a cheater. They do it once just means they will end up doing it again. But if you are concerned about if the child is yours or not then you can have a test done on that. Best of luck to you though sir!
That bit at the end was that a typo him vs her*? Otherwise I am confused
But that aside there is hope for reconciliation - it's not the easiest path and neither is divorced. So the real question is do you still want to be with her and work this out?
It's possible to work it out but it's going to require a lot of hard conversations, naked truth and complete forgiveness.
The decision is solely on you pal, but if it were me, I leave her pregnant cheating ass to the streets where she belongs.
Alcohol can be a factor in making stupid decisions, but I've been drunk more times than I care to admit and I can definitively tell you that you still have control over your actions. A truly loyal person doesn't cheat, whether they're fuckin wasted or not.
That's merely an excuse. She wanted to get fucked and she didn't give you a second thought when she did it
Leave her , alcohol doesn’t make someone cheat, that’s a bullshit excuse , she clearly knew what she was doing and the guy that fucked her knew what he was doing , so if she truly valued you she wouldn’t of spread her legs to that other guy , Kick her to the curb where she belongs
Ohhh what a pathetic excuse. She was drunk and high and yet she still managed have proper sexual intercourse somehow? What non sense? Even if one was to believe this lame excuse, she should have gotten drunk in a suitable environment. That's so irresponsible of her. Just get rid of her. It'd be shameful to keep a reckless drunk cheater in your house when you're not even sure of who's kid she's carrying in her womb. Feeling sorry for you, buddy. You can surely do better.
I don't know. Maybe take a paternity test and if you are not the father I would dump her. I don't see how you could look at that child every day and not lose your mind. It is not fair for the child either. None of this is his fault.
Go see a lawyer and find out your options.
Lawyer up and the best you can afford. Being drunk is a lame ass excuse, if she cheated with a coworker when drunk odds are there was something already there to start with. Find out as soon as possible if the baby is yours or not. If you choose to stay be aware the child might always be a reminder of what your wife did. As for me she'd be gone regardless.
Nope, it is thank you and good night.
get a good lawyer first, get things in line, get a DNA test on baby Gilgamesh and if it is not yours then you have a great bar story to tell.
It sucks, but I left my first wife because I found her with the landlord, and another woman that I was planning to marry until I found out that she was cheating.
Im sorry to hear that my brutha, but I will leave. Cheating is not a mistake. It's purposeful. Alcohol isn't an excuse because she is supposed to drink responsibly, especially if she knows she may go wild and have a one-night stand. My thing is, how do you know if it was "alcohol-related"? She could be lying! I know if it were me, I would ask for a divorce. The trust is already gone.
scratch the ask* We were getting divorced lol!!
First and foremost, no matter what happens -Get a dna test on the baby and make sure you're not going to get stuck paying for some other guy's baby. If you have never cheated on her then that's up to you if you can live with it. You will never be able to trust her when she's out drinking while you're not around. Some women call you when they're drunk and say they miss you when you're not around, and others find the nearest hose to hop onto. Sorry you had to deal with the latter.
It’s up to you. If you’re not even angry at this point, I don’t see the point of trying to get angry. If it was a one time mistake then it’s a big one and she does sound like she truly regrets it and is willing to work through this. If she were to start blaming you for the whole thing and making excuses about it other than just being out of her mind drunk. Just out of curiosity, though, how drunk was she if she just flat out decided to have an affair? Are you sure she was only drunk?
Leave the whore. And get it in writing that the bastard child is not yours so you're not suck paying child support for her bullshit mistake.
Don't wait, kick her out now. The "I was drunk" excuse is always that, an excuse. She knowingly and willfully cheated on you.
He's screwed if it turns out the child is his. I hope not so he can dump that worthless slut ruining things for the rest of the good women out there, tarnishing the real meaning of commitment and love, ruining what taking marital vows is about.
Agreed. You're definitely preaching to the choir here.
For real! If you can't handle alcohol, avoid it like COVID.
There's no "I love you but I was drunk when this happened"😸
You got that right
For me, personally… unless I was raped , it doesn’t much how drunk I am, I still KNOW not to let anyone touch me other then my boyfriend
Exactly. Its such a lame excuse, but some guys fall for it.
Okay, first off the last line, "I love him." This tells me you are either a girl writing this or He can not be pregnant... But to answer the question, I my be wrong I believe you can do a DNA test at 7 weeks.
www.arcpointlabs.com/.../
Up to you. Alcohol is no excuse for cheating.
You should definitely take a paternity test. The kid and the other guy deserve to know oif he's the father. Only you can figure out of you can forgive her.
Cheating is cheating and to not even wear protection is horrible.. dump her and get a paternity test..
Whether if she is drunk or not, she should have known her limits or tell her colleagues that she is new to drinking and if she looks like she’s about to commit something bad, they should let her know. But regardless… she knows she’s away from her husband and she doesn’t drink as much then proceeds to commit something that is beyond unbelievable… that’s crazy.
Leave her and demand paternity test before she demands child support. I would do this if I was a you but it's your decision and you boys seem to think different about such topics.