Am I being overly sensitive?

[cts22]

One of my “best” and oldest friend has recently gotten a boyfriend. It’s been an on and off things since the year started. I’m happy for her but it has damaged our friendship and how I see her. At the beginning I was having a rough time I would try and call or text and she just simply wouldn’t respond or would call back with him on the line. I didn’t like that because I just wanted to talk with my friend. She stopped calling and texting even more. I graduated bad she came around but I don’t hear from her for big chunks of time. And she says things as if I’m lesser than her or don’t understand things because she has a boyfriend and I don’t. I took the hint and stopped calling etc. even in person when he is not with her she is glued to the phone and can’t respond to conversations as she is texting or calling him. It makes it difficult. I understand being in love. And I’m happy for her but completely shutting me out is off putting. We’ve been friends since childhood. Or is it my own insecurities? Am I being too sensitive? I don't know it just doesn’t feel great. I want some understanding

[Anonymous]

No, you’re not being sensitive, I actually went through that last year with my best friend of 15+ years so I get where you’re coming from. All I can really suggest is trying to have a conversation with her about having balance between you and him, but unfortunately it may not make a difference.


If she’s pretty boy crazy (or at least crazy about him) then the sad thing is she’s willing to sacrifice her relationship with you to prioritize the one with him. He may be insecure about you two talking or hanging out without him in range, which it was her job to set boundaries about in the beginning. She should be protecting your friendship, but instead she’s ruining it for love, which is too bad because if their relationship is rocky then they will fall out again and she will want your shoulder to cry on. It’s up to you whether or not you’ll provide the support but until that day, don’t feed too much into that friendship anymore.


Yes it’s heartbreaking to feel like you’re losing her, but if she can’t be your friend without him overseeing everything then it’s just not worth it. It’s ok to wanna hang out with her separately or talk otp without him looming over her shoulder, hearing things he’s not intended to hear. No thanks. If you have any other friends then just hang out with them, and if you don’t then start having your own fun by yourself. There isn’t much (or anything really) you can do about how she chooses to keep her man.

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At least some of that is normal. Friends fall in love, get married, have babies. Gotta spread the love around as I see it or you can find yourself very lonely.