What Are 5 Things You May Be Doing Unconsciously That Can Make Your Relationship Go Downhill?

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5 Things You May Be Doing Unconsciously That Can Make Your Relationship Go Downhill

AaronKrieger · Accepted Answer

Not all of these are done subconsciously, but these are things I've noticed a lot of people do as bad habits witout even realizing it including myself.
1. Feeling the need to prove that you are always right (don't continue talking about something when they've already apologized)

2. Keeping score of who did what and for who

3. Letting resentment build up because you suck at communicating

4. When expressing insecurity/fear that you blame them for it through your choice of words (EX: instead of saying "you doing that made me feel this way" you should say "i felt this way whenever this happened")

5. Making your life based around them, which makes you co-dependent instead of letting yourself have a life outside of them. (EX: stopping whatever you're doing no matter what it is to prioritize them like responding to a message or hanging out despite being busy/plans already scheduled)

justabuddy · Accepted Answer

I'm kind of independent and the silent type. I can go couple days without communication and be fine. To most girls that is not ok.

I don't always know the correct thing to say or do.

I'm maybe a little too chill.

I can be exciting at times, and boring at times.

That's all I got at the moment.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Keeping little things that you think are unimportant to you but is of significance to your partner  white lies  putting career over your partner or family by working more hours which isn’t your doing  Don’t know how to compliment or critique them  Telling them everything is okay meanwhile it isn’t and you just hold it in

fonduegirl · Accepted Answer

1. Keeping secrets from your partner because you don't want to hurt them.

2. Lying about your past.

3. Lying about your core values, because you're afraid they'd leave you.

4. Giving too much of yourself

5. Playing with money.

bernhardh · Answer

Providing one can support one's own family comfortably, and isn't a criminal, the trick seems to be to be fully honest, to include all of one's needs and desires openly and preferably upfront, and to find a way to ensure all of it is fully legal (e. g. for a daughter that marries me, in case her mom was alone and also wanted a sexual relationship, and the daughter is fine to share me with her mom in the same house/place of living because she would not want her mom left behind nor excluded, that the whole thing is legal and can be celebrated (proudly) rather than shunned or stigmatised by those around us, which would cause distress).

Any needs unmet = depression.

Any having to hide such needs = worry or anxiety.

And to get each partner's all basic needs met, including for family (re) union, is required for halpiness (and for mental health, to be honest).

The same, in my opinion, applies to a mother and two daughters, even if I were to be forced to marry just one, father a baby, divorce her but pay her alimony whilst raising that child with her as her divorced ex, then marry the 2nd sister and do the same, then eventually sign a civil partnership with their mom so she can also be included.

It is a bit bizzare that it is so complex, yet it is what moves the libido (not doing such a thing would feel depressing, doing anything potentially illegal I would not like since it creates anxiety).

Regarding sex, being involved with 3 females in polyamory, if coitus with more than one is illegal, the other two would have to self-satisfy, or to live in a lesbian LGBTQI marriage (orgasms between them included, with or without me participating in some capacity such as kissing and/or petting but not marrying more than one in any given time period such as a year))

Sanser · Answer

I won't say 5 things but something important is Keep things that are a little bit important for you but you say everything is ok... that is miscomunication and will end with resentment and argues because of holding all that without saying nothing...

joenelson · Answer

- cribbing on little things and calling it OCD. Not appreciating what is available.
- no transparency in communication
- Ignoring to respond.
- teasing about finding someone else.
- trying to explain every little thing or giving excuses.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

I really can't blame my girlfriend for anything she does while she's unconscious

Simslover92 · Answer

1. Assuming things 2. Showing how insecure you are via always being jealous 3. Accusing partner of something  4. Not being understanding 5. Not willing to compromise

DizzyDesii · Answer

If I do anything, right or wrong, its with intention. So im not sure how to answer this

Jltakk · Answer

Appear cold, dead inside bite my fingers pick my nose cross my eyes randomly talk to myself

Anonymous · Answer

Having sex with her step-sister five times a month, or more? Or doesn't that count because it's conscious?

whistlingwh0res · Answer

All men are born thief they steal even unconsciously

KingOfMe1 · Answer

1. Arguments Mental and Physical

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