When me and my boyfriend argue he tells his parents about it. Would you guys be ok with this?

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Would you guys be ok with this if it was your partner? I feel like I don’t have much privacy

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Not at all , it’s an immature trait he is basically thinking that Mommy and Daddy is going to save him , his parent’s are more than likely going to side with him , so basically he will never feel he is doing anything wrong , it will always be your fault no matter what argument you get into with him , He will only see things his way and not your way. Relationships should be 2 partners that prioritize each other , understanding you can’t always be right and your partner is wrong , understanding it should be you and your partner VS the world , When a partner involves family and friends to intervene into the relationship it shows that person’s true characteristics by only seeing things their way , Family and friends can cause a lot of unnecessary drama if you involve them into your relationship period , Your boyfriend is definitely immature if he can’t handle arguments by himself. Something you should really reconsider cuz it’s definitely going to get worse cuz his parent’s our going to start thinking you aren’t a good partner for their son

Fuentes · Accepted Answer

It's weird but I don't know if u can stop that really I mean he could. jist keep doing it but never tell you lol it's very boyish behaviour and he is probably a huge mammas boy and thats a red flag. For a man baby loser watch the signs and make good choices.

Does his mom still do his laundry?

Does he even know how to do laundry?

Does his parents pay his bills?

Does he work a good and productive job? And does he he maintain the jobs? Or does he quit a lot of them and just live with his parents until he finds another?

Those some red flags of a loser, u deff don't wanna accidently have a child with

Blackcupcake · Accepted Answer

definitely not, that would be a huge dealbreaker for me.

as much as I would admire his close relationship to his family, there are just limits to what you share about your relationship. if he’s constantly just telling them about our fights, then that will end up ruining their image of me, even tho our fights could only be 2% everything we go through as a couple. as his family, they could grow to resent me for things he has shared about how bad he feels in the heat of the moment. this is what will eventually sabotage the relationship slowly but surely.

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

I don’t even like my mum telling her parents about our arguments, in what world would I be okay with my boyfriend doing that? I would try to talk it out with him first. There are certain things that should be kept within the relationship. If he doesn’t stop even after I’ve talked with him, I would break up. I don’t have the time nor the patience to deal with immature little shits.

Anonymous · Answer

My ex used to do the same thing and it drove me crazy. It’s cool to have a close relationship with your parents but like it’s such a turn off when they go crying to mummy about a tiny argument. Small fights being told is how it starts then later it becomes every single detail. I don't know if your man is the same but when I tried to set boundaries and tell him to please not share our private life he told his parents that I told him his not allowed to tell them things and it was so awks to even go over there because his mum would bring up things she shouldn’t know and then would accuse me of trying to shut her son off from her. It’s worth a try for you to tell him but beware it could also get worse. If it does run!

madhatters4 · Answer

depends on what he is telling them. if he is simply and honestly discussing the argument because perhaps he wants their help in resolving it then i think that is good.

if he presents it as, 'oh that b*tch and i had another argument' sort of thing or puts it in a light that suggests you are the constant problem leading to arguments then that is not healthy

ohsheeT · Answer

No that's not cool that's not right it's only your business and his business why is he telling his parents because first thing they're going to do is start judging you because you know they're not getting the full story they're only getting his side of the story the way he sees it he needs to stop doing that either that or you tell him you're both need to move out because that's just wrong no it's not right you need to have him stop

TenderFantasy · Answer

Maybe he just wants their advice. I'd tell him that you are bothered by it. I mean you guys are still young so maybe it's because he doesn't have a lot of experience with relating and relationships that he has to do that. Give him some time and forgive. If you love him that is and you think this relationship is worth it!

acidburnone · Answer

Hey listen, you boyfriend is probably not ready for a serious relationship since he cannot handle dealing with his relationship issues on his own, my father said "son, if you ever have relationship issues talk with the girl and you two need to sort things out on your own, only seek outside help if she refuses to try to work things out"

worldscolide · Answer

I had a similar issue, but in reverse. My wife was telling her parents everything.. Even private financial stuff.. I had to tell her that I'd divorce her if she kept it up. This was 6 years ago.. No issues since. But holy shit I felt like I had no provacy.

Sanser · Answer

I think that a person should be transparent with the parents but not TOO transparent... so it depends. There are some issues that maybe he needs to talk with them but if I were you I would feel umconfortable... at the end you know they know a lot of things about your relationship that maybe they shouldn't

JesseP1nk · Answer

But why do you think he should not? Is it because he is right in argument? Or what you afraid to happen? Usually people who are right are not afraid to talk about it. People who do shady shit does not wanna talk about it and keep it down low. That includes domestic violence.  In case of domestic violence i think its ok to talk to their parents.  Just to point out that domestic violence is not only physical.

Singing_Hollow · Answer

Look if he is asking their advice on how to be better for you then he trusts their judgement however parents are mostly Bias so its not healthy. He should seek a mentor who can actually give him good advice instead of a bias one.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

It happens more often than you think. Especially women, they tell eachother everything. But they're more likely to tell their friends and coworkers than family

DizzyDesii · Answer

I tell my friends and fam depending on the topic of the argument so yea. If you don’t want him to do it, ask him not to

Drumlin2001 · Answer

That's terrible. It'll be poisoning how they veiw you. He needs to grow up, learn to deal with his own issues without telling it all to them

Anonymous · Answer

I can understand why he would.

He would feel Guilty about it even if it wasn't his fault, So he would share it because it would be the only way to feel less guilty about it, I would do the same.

It's just you Girls see that as a Betrayal.

Anonymous · Answer

you're young. and he's probably close to his parents. and they're wiser so he may be seeking for advice from them or to at least let off some steam. eventually this will stop. but yeah that's a bit of a privacy issue.

sheikalana · Answer

He needs to learn that it’s not okay to share details of your relationship with anyone. It’s between the both of you only and no one else’s business.

slatyb · Answer

Yes, I would. He's young and seeking their advice. How does he behave during the argument? Is it ugly, or mutually respectful?

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Ffffffffffuck no. I have no interest in having my girl's family hear about me when she wants to paint me in the worst possible light.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Why does it matter if he tells his parents? Are you afraid you might be the wrong one in the argument?

DiegoO · Answer

A couple of times is normal, if you are looking for guidance, but I wouldn't mention my problems that often.

Anonymous · Answer

Isn’t he past HighSchool? He needs go tell mommy and daddy? 🤡🤡 I’d break up lol. What a joke. What a turn off

KrakenAttackin · Answer

I'm sure his parents are telling him to dump you. No one needs a bitchy, argumentative, female in his life.

mommymommymommy · Answer

When I fight with my parents, i tell my friends about it

Anonymous · Answer

No. Normally the other way around but either way it's a breach of trust.

hankgirl79 · Answer

No. When the couple forgives and moves on, family never does. I've learned from experience.

Boomchakalaca · Answer

No he sounds like my sister 🙄

WhitneySnow · Answer

That would bother me

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Do you talk to your friends about it?

Malwi93 · Answer

He has a right to do so

jahaims · Answer

Red flag

EaterPeter · Answer

Depends.

In_Trance · Answer

not ok

KBHF44 · Answer

Hell no

Anonymous · Answer

Wtf 😂😂

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