Me and boyfriend had an argument about his parents involvement in his life and he’s told me to deal with it?

[Anonymous]

I have so much stress in my life right now. I have a difficult work placement and my grandma has end stage cancer.

My boyfriend is so close to his parents, he is in his late 20s. He still asks them for advice about everything. He has told me ‘this is how my family is, I share things with them, deal with it’.

I’ve also had someone just shout at me on the street. I’ve been feeling depressed lately too and so I just feel so crap.

Am I wrong here with my boyfriend? I just don’t want to contact him for some days, I just want peace, for gods sake I don’t want to keep hearing about his parents and their take on literally everything in his life

[pervertedjester]

I used to talk to my parents a lot in my twenties because I needed advice free from own ego and I trusted very few individuals to provide that. And I had found it's safer to ask family than friends. Because I've had those arguments and they are far more heated. I would talk to him, set some ground rules and compromises. Remind him of your struggles and ask for patience as you work through them with his help when needed. The fact that he's asking for advice means he cares enough but remind him also that he needs to trust his own judgement a bit more often.

[Pyrofox]

I mean the other option thats left is do you wanna be going through all this alone or with another to weather the storm? If the latter maybe don't chase off the one person going out of their way to be with you XD.

[Guido]

It's what you get when you date a
Mama's boy. They can't do anything without checking in first. It's time e he grew up and got a set.