We're not "turned off" per se. Someone can become a single mom for a number of reasons. It's just that those guys looking for a serious relationship will be looking at the big picture and taking the prospect of becoming a stepdad into consideration. And a lot of us don't even know if we're ready to become a dad, let alone a stepdad.
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It's a simple matter. No matter what attributes a single Mom has, there is a completely single woman somewhere that has either the same or more. Thus there is no logical reason for a man ever to date a single Mom over a woman that is completely single.
I have dated single hot mamas before and I have to admit I like it. We did have to plan when we get frisky or work around to have fun so her kid didn’t walk in on us. I did get caught when I was with a single mom and daughter walk in on us while her mom was riding me and us both cumming.
Maybe it will change with age, but currently yes. At 22 I certainly am not looking to care for another man's children. Having kids is 100% one of my life goals, but I also want to already marry the woman and be financially stable before I have kids, not already have them be apart of the package deal. For me a woman already having kids is a deal breaker
Yes. Single moms are the most dangerous women. Because they are willing and prepared to pretend to be anything their partner wishes them to be so they can get into his wallet and bank account.
Maybe you didn't, but a HUGE majority of single moms did, do and will be and that is Exactly why most men avoid moms with kids like a plague, because they know relationships with single moms are fake, they are not real, they are an illusion and it is just a matter of time before moms reveal their true colors and true intentions and start draining their bank accounts as if there is no tomorrow. A term for single moms being the most dangerous women, didn't come from me, but it is a world wide phenomena, that means there is a heavy truth behind that term.
For the 100th time, men don't dislike single moms per se. But you have to understand a single mom to a man is about as attractive as a homeless guy is to a woman. Single moms are bad gambles. Relationships are risk vs. Reward. And single moms are simply too much risk.
100th time? This is the first time I've asked this. Anger much?
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10 mo
No hun I'm not angry at all. And you're forgiven. It's just this isn't the first time your kind has asked this. And since your kind is Notorious for asking this 100 times wanting the answer to change I'm letting you know upfront it won't.
And it's become pretty clear why you're a SINGLE mother. You know instead of getting mad at your desirability you could try something novel and just work on being a decent person.
At least I can be open about who I am. You need to hide.
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10 mo
Decent people don't ask these kinds of question. If you were a decent person you'd know that.
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10 mo
You're right I should just tell you who I am so you harass me. Good advice is good advice it doesn't matter if it's anonymous. You're immune to good advice which is why your predicament.
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10 mo
Yes, because of the attitudes, not to mention the litany of obvious risks trailing behind them. I don't have time to get into all of it or of my own personal experiences in dozens of states, but I can just say I'd be a lot better off just flushing all my cash down the toilet, sucking down a bucketful of pills, heading straight to the nearest jail and start banging on the door, begging to be let in.💯
Men aren't turned off by single moms. Men are turned off by not being priority #1, being a walking ATM, having to deal with baby daddy drama, risking having to pay child support for a child that isn't even ours, emotional baggage, and being unable to discipline a child living under your own roof. A single mother is not inherently an undateable woman, but most single mothers choose to be undateable.
Yes not because they're a single mum though. Its because they must be such an awful a person for a man to abandon his children to get away from her. Equally she'd have to be awful to leave her baby dad and deprive their child of a natural relationship with their father. Either way its not a good reflection on her.
I don't think that it's so much turned of as being cautious. I think most guys are open to the idea. But it can also be a sensitive situation and includes a lot of added considerations. On the whole it's probably still okey for most guys.
coworkers of mine who are single moms say it is hard so they hook up a lot, not my style-- though im not a single parent but would have no issue dating a single parent as long as they have it together over there
I'm gonna be direct with you. Yes, most men are turned off by that. They don't really wanna provide their time and resources to a child unless that child is his (unless he agrees to adoption, but that's another conversation.)
When I was younger I was really repulsed by the idea. My best friend married a single mom. It really derailed his life. Now I think if her kids were older and she was a working mom I would be more receptive.
Hell yeah why would you even ask that question I wouldn't let her touch me. Make better choices in life if you're a single mom or dad just stay single don't date anybody without kids.
Maybe for practice that's about it maybe and that's if a man is dying desperately no offense just truth
If the kids are graduating high school, fine. I didn't have kids, for a reason. I'm not going to be their stand-in daddy. If she can handle all that then it's less of a turn off.
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I can only speak for myself. And my answer is that if anything, I find single mothers MORE attractive, if they are a good mother with a well behaved young child. There are some absolutely gorgeous single mothers, their kid would have to be Damian to put me off lol
Depends on the age of the children and if the sperm donor (s) are a pain in the ass. Meaning doing things to mess up any relationship that you might have.
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We're not "turned off" per se. Someone can become a single mom for a number of reasons. It's just that those guys looking for a serious relationship will be looking at the big picture and taking the prospect of becoming a stepdad into consideration. And a lot of us don't even know if we're ready to become a dad, let alone a stepdad.
It's a simple matter. No matter what attributes a single Mom has, there is a completely single woman somewhere that has either the same or more. Thus there is no logical reason for a man ever to date a single Mom over a woman that is completely single.
I have dated single hot mamas before and I have to admit I like it. We did have to plan when we get frisky or work around to have fun so her kid didn’t walk in on us. I did get caught when I was with a single mom and daughter walk in on us while her mom was riding me and us both cumming.
Maybe it will change with age, but currently yes. At 22 I certainly am not looking to care for another man's children. Having kids is 100% one of my life goals, but I also want to already marry the woman and be financially stable before I have kids, not already have them be apart of the package deal. For me a woman already having kids is a deal breaker
Yes. Single moms are the most dangerous women. Because they are willing and prepared to pretend to be anything their partner wishes them to be so they can get into his wallet and bank account.
That's awful. I've never used anyone for money.
Maybe you didn't, but a HUGE majority of single moms did, do and will be and that is Exactly why most men avoid moms with kids like a plague, because they know relationships with single moms are fake, they are not real, they are an illusion and it is just a matter of time before moms reveal their true colors and true intentions and start draining their bank accounts as if there is no tomorrow. A term for single moms being the most dangerous women, didn't come from me, but it is a world wide phenomena, that means there is a heavy truth behind that term.
Women do tend to lie a lot to get what they want including denying the fact that they would do shitty things
For the 100th time, men don't dislike single moms per se. But you have to understand a single mom to a man is about as attractive as a homeless guy is to a woman. Single moms are bad gambles. Relationships are risk vs. Reward. And single moms are simply too much risk.
100th time? This is the first time I've asked this. Anger much?
No hun I'm not angry at all. And you're forgiven. It's just this isn't the first time your kind has asked this. And since your kind is Notorious for asking this 100 times wanting the answer to change I'm letting you know upfront it won't.
Lol my kind? You must be fun at parties. Hahaha.
And it's become pretty clear why you're a SINGLE mother. You know instead of getting mad at your desirability you could try something novel and just work on being a decent person.
I am a decent person. You don't know me at all.
At least I can be open about who I am. You need to hide.
Decent people don't ask these kinds of question. If you were a decent person you'd know that.
You're right I should just tell you who I am so you harass me. Good advice is good advice it doesn't matter if it's anonymous. You're immune to good advice which is why your predicament.
Yes, because of the attitudes, not to mention the litany of obvious risks trailing behind them. I don't have time to get into all of it or of my own personal experiences in dozens of states, but I can just say I'd be a lot better off just flushing all my cash down the toilet, sucking down a bucketful of pills, heading straight to the nearest jail and start banging on the door, begging to be let in.💯
What attitude might that be? I'm assuming you've dated one? If you haven't, then you don't know what you're talking about.
Maybe you should do that then.
The comments from men on this are classic
Men aren't turned off by single moms. Men are turned off by not being priority #1, being a walking ATM, having to deal with baby daddy drama, risking having to pay child support for a child that isn't even ours, emotional baggage, and being unable to discipline a child living under your own roof. A single mother is not inherently an undateable woman, but most single mothers choose to be undateable.
Yes not because they're a single mum though. Its because they must be such an awful a person for a man to abandon his children to get away from her. Equally she'd have to be awful to leave her baby dad and deprive their child of a natural relationship with their father. Either way its not a good reflection on her.
I don't think that it's so much turned of as being cautious.
I think most guys are open to the idea.
But it can also be a sensitive situation and includes a lot of added considerations.
On the whole it's probably still okey for most guys.
coworkers of mine who are single moms say it is hard so they hook up a lot, not my style-- though im not a single parent but would have no issue dating a single parent as long as they have it together over there
I'm gonna be direct with you. Yes, most men are turned off by that. They don't really wanna provide their time and resources to a child unless that child is his (unless he agrees to adoption, but that's another conversation.)
Last single mom destroyed my heart with a rejection, and so did the one before her.
Having children of your own from past relationship/marriage is not a red flag or a taboo. It is not a deal braker.
Any women can do that unfortunately.
So can men. I have rejected women as well.
When I was younger I was really repulsed by the idea. My best friend married a single mom. It really derailed his life. Now I think if her kids were older and she was a working mom I would be more receptive.
No they’re not turned off. Men want women.
Only the basement dwellers try to put you down cause they can’t even get an inch of P—SY. 😂
Hell yeah why would you even ask that question I wouldn't let her touch me. Make better choices in life if you're a single mom or dad just stay single don't date anybody without kids.
Maybe for practice that's about it maybe and that's if a man is dying desperately no offense just truth
If the kids are graduating high school, fine. I didn't have kids, for a reason. I'm not going to be their stand-in daddy. If she can handle all that then it's less of a turn off.
I can only speak for myself. And my answer is that if anything, I find single mothers MORE attractive, if they are a good mother with a well behaved young child. There are some absolutely gorgeous single mothers, their kid would have to be Damian to put me off lol
Depends on the age of the children and if the sperm donor (s) are a pain in the ass. Meaning doing things to mess up any relationship that you might have.
Yes, the thing about a single mom most of the time is also that a single mom isn't really looking for a lover but a supporter.
That's not all single moms. I'm sure there are those, but not all.