Why is it so hard for people to just treat their partner right?

[Anonymous]

Like, if you told the truth from the beginning or if you were just honest with your feelings, or if you just treated your partner good from the beginning, there wouldn't be any problems.

Nobody is perfect, but that doesn't mean for you to do stuff behind your partner's back or lie to them and then tell them a different story later on, saying that you never said what you said before.

My boyfriend and I had this conversation where I had told him how I felt and that if he never meant to hurt me (or anything like that), then he wouldn't have done things or said things. He agreed and said if he had just told the truth, none of the bs would be happening.

But he doesn't stay consistent with that at all. It's like it's the most difficult thing for him to do or something even though he says it's easy.

[jahaims]

You are the only person with your specific perspective. Every single human has had a different experience so their perspective varies from yours. You can't view the world from just your own window or you won't understand anything. Basically people have different genetics and life experience so some people get shaped differently. Like someone who becomes a narcissist because of a parent. You could argue it isn't their fault that they can't feel empathy or love as an adult because their brain literally wired itself while developing so it isn't capable of it.

[Twalli]

The relationships that begin on truth are stronger. So many people act the way they think the person they like wants in a partner until they get them. then a few months in, they revert to the person they really are. Yet if you didn't put on an act, anyone who wants to date you wants to date the real you.

[Anonymous]

I hope his repeated behaviour isn’t because he knows you will forgive him because if he has that sort of audacity I would encourage you to leave him

[In_Trance]

Because people don't agree on what "right" actually means
Secondly, not all people are capable of delivering on what's being asked

[BLP11520]

Selfishness and immaturity

[Anonymous]

such as?