Do you think the distrust for women who like to sleep around is justified?

[zero444440000]

the distrust is justified.

the distrust is not justified.

[nastyb]

its quite funny how men on here demand that women "put out" by the 3rd date. Meanwhile they won't date a woman with a high body count.

If you expect a woman to put out by the 3rd date... she will have a high body count.

the entitlement is ridiculous...

[AmeerX]

What does put out even mean?

[nastyb]

@AmeerX

she must give sex.

[gothbxtch]

exactly like. “men have to have a lot of sex but women can’t “ okay have sex with each other then?

[Chthou95]

@gothbxtch men and women are different in sexual regards

[AmeerX]

Honestly, I like my woman to be clean like me. That 3 dates rule is put there by a man and western Women follow it as if it is some law.

You should walk away from this madness.

[WiccanLady2023]

@nastyb - increase your standards & you'll find most men don't expect girls to "give out" at a set date, it happens when suitable. The douchebags you date aren't men.

[AmeerX]

@WiccanLady2023 thanks 👍

[WiccanLady2023]

@AmeerX To be precise cheap western women follow the 3 date rule like its some law. Women who have standards decide for themselves when it is suitable for having sex.

Unfortunately western - in particular the USA and UK - society has become a denigrate slum where sleeping around and giving out early is expected and encouraged.

[AmeerX]

@WiccanLady2023 :/ that's a problem but what's the solution to this problem because it's spreading everywhere

[nastyb]

@AmeerX "walking away" literally means 80-85% of the male population is off limits.

[nastyb]

@WiccanLady2023

Not putting out by the 3rd date litreally means 80-85% of the male population will be off limits from dating. I don't think you understand the modern dating scene. No man would wait over 1 month in dating without sex. Most men wouldn't even wait 3 weeks.

[WiccanLady2023]

@nastyb - like I said increase your standards sweetie from gutter trash. Most decent respectable guys will wait. I've NEVER had a guy expect me to give out by 3rd date... but then I don't dress like a tramp, act like a tramp and behave cheaply so it doesn't attract gutter trash looking for 85% of the modern western woman... a cheap near prostitute.

[nastyb]

@WiccanLady2023
I'm from a large city, NYC, and guys generally would never wait over 3 weeks to get sexual with you. the only places where guys don't expect you to put out by the 3rd date is the very conservative, all white suburbs or small towns where everyone goes to church on Sundays. But otherwise, if you live in large city, men will lose interest in you if you dont put out.

[WiccanLady2023]

@nastyb - NYC is TINY compared to cities like London & Paris where I grew up. TINY. But desite it's small size it's not a city that's well known for ethics or morals. Even some of the police units are so corrupt they could be considered part of the mafia NOT law enforcement. ... So NO the guys I am talking about are not Bible folk or what not... they just were raised properly. That'd be upper middle class and richer NYCers for your reference.

[nastyb]

@WiccanLady2023

its not only in NYC. Its also in most parts of California. In all the big cities in the US such as seattle, atlanta where there's a lot of young modern people. You will have absolutely no luck in dating if you don't put out by a certain time.

[nastyb]

@WiccanLady2023

[That'd be upper middle class and richer NYCers for your reference.]

even rich upper middle class men do not wait for sex. I live 7 blocks away from wall st.

[WiccanLady2023]

@nastyb - sweetie you seem to have a hard time comprehending what I've been saying. When a woman acts & dresses like a slut NO MAN is going to wait for sex because that woman IS NOT WORTH waiting for... Do you comprehend now? It's not men who demand sex on the 3rd dates. It's cheap SLUTS that give out at the 3rd date.

[WiccanLady2023]

@nastyb - and cities like NYC are overfilled with CHEAP SLUTS that'd give out like any prostitute. You walk down some streets in NYC and you'd think you're in prostitute alley because of the CHEAP SLUTS who parade around half dressed, boobs all but falling out, etc. Act like a slut, be treated like one.

[AmeerX]

🙄 @nastyb you are exaggerating this figure. May be in your country but how about looking beyond the borders?

[nastyb]

@WiccanLady2023

[sweetie you seem to have a hard time comprehending what I've been saying. When a woman acts & dresses like a slut NO MAN is going to wait for sex because that woman IS NOT WORTH waiting for... ]

I don't think you understand the point... what I meant to say is :

Men will lose interest in a woman if she doesn't get "sexual " with him by a certain point.

[AmeerX]

Lol, I have waited 3 years to marry a girl but she married someone else. And I asked directly. There was no sex involved and in fact in our country sex if frowned upon before marriage.

[nastyb]

@AmeerX

GAG is an American website. So we are talking about america specifically

[AmeerX]

@WiccanLady2023 hey being rich has nothing to do with sex or no sex. People with self restraint don't just do try outs of different girls

[AmeerX]

🤣nastyB GAG is owned by a Turkish company that also has a Turkish version called Kizlasoruyor.
And even if it was American what difference does it make? When I talk to people here the men are off put by women who sleep around. So, the claim that a women needs to indulge in sex to keep a man is far fetched

[nastyb]

@AmeerX

Because this website attracts a certain type of people and as for the males goes... most men on here hate women. But surely in america, most men do not hate women. GAG really does not represent the real world america.

[WiccanLady2023]

@nastyb - darling you ARE having a hard time, aren't you? Of course men will. But decent respectable men will WAIT until a suitable time as I said earlier.

Men who are pursuing SLUTS know that they DO NOT have to so WHY would they wait? They know that a SLUT will give out early because that's what they do. And WHY douchebag men looking for cheap easy sex DO NOT typically pursue respectable decent women because decent women DO NOT give out as easily as sluts do.

[WiccanLady2023]

@AmeerX No it doesn't, but NYC is a corrupt little city with little morals and ethics. Even a large number of the police are corrupt & good for little.

[AmeerX]

@WiccanLady2023 I think she is having a difficult time. And not being mean but she should at least try this method of learning to say no to sex and find out a genuine positive change in herself.

Christians should pride themselves that Marie was a virgin. Why not honor her till marriage?

[nastyb]

@WiccanLady2023

its not only NYC. It encompasses vast majority of the big cities in the US , where modern young people are flocking to. If you want to hold out months for sex, he will just lose interest and 80-85% of the dating market of men will be off limits to you. If you're a woman looking to date in a big city, you will have no chance with most men if you're not willing to put out by a certain point. And usually its less than 1 month. I'm not defending a whorish city but this is simply the reality.

[nastyb]

@AmeerX

you like to talk in your own perspective of things. but reality of it is:

If you're a woman looking to date in a big city, you will have no chance with most men if you're not willing to put out by a certain point. Usually less than 1 month.

[AmeerX]

What's wrong with you? We are not your enemies. We don't want you to degrade yourself to have a chance at companionship.
Jeez, you want to do it then do it. I couple of women showed interest in me and I know how hard it is to resist a woman. They tried to invite me for sex. I declined and I don't regret it to this day.

On the other hand, I did have crushes and I never thought of dating them like this. Yeah we could talk or hold hands but why does a woman have to bear the brunt of it?

You are only supplying these men with sex. Why would a man commit to any girl if he is getting the milk without keeping the cow. That's right, why?

I just told you to try it and tell us in a month how you felt. In fact don't tell us but do try it.

Even if I was in some Western country I would be happy I didn't indulge in any sex without marriage

[nastyb]

@AmeerX

why would you think a woman would fare better in dating if she wouldn't give sex? the only dating life for a woman like this in a big city is NO DATING LIFE.

[Sirenboobzilla]

@WiccanLady2023 well aren't you the belittling snobby one; definitely a European trait (I should know, I'm Czech). What @nastyb described is not exclusive to the USA. I've traveled throughout Europe where society is supposed to be more respectable, and let me tell you, shitty people and dating prospects exist everywhere. Shame on you for talking down to someone expressing what they've observed. I'd expect better from someone speaking as if they're high class themselves.

[nastyb]

@Sirenboobzilla i wouldn't call it "shitty" people or shitty dating prospects. What you guys dont understand is that there are a lot of kind good hearted people who sleep around too. Understand its a culture within certain places to sleep around. Just like its a culture within @wiccanlady2023 hometown to not sleep around.

[AmeerX]

@nastyb because I know she has more restraint compared to one who will give in.
No dating life is a myth. You need to try it to find out the virtues of abstaining from sex before marriage

[AmeerX]

@Sirenboobzilla @nastyb why do you two must insist that there is no other way. There are other ways to make relationship happen.
Your character counts, and what's the warranty a guy will not use your body and leave nonetheless?
@wiccanlady2023 words were not snobbish. She told you the truth. Relating a bad habit with culture and then accepting it as is is wrong.

[WiccanLady2023]

@Sirenboobzilla - I'm not talking down, I'm stating reality. People who sleep around are not desirable to a LOT of people. Anyone who doesn't sleep around certainly doesn't see someone who does as desirable. Logics. That is why statistically those who are cheaper & sluttier - both men and women - stick with fellow people of their ilk...

@nastyb - sweetie I'm not talking about a tweeny little town like you're talking about NYC. I am talking of an entire country - and in some areas an entire cultural region. Millions upon millions upon millions upon millions of people. Sleeping around thankfully is NOT an acceptable conduct in MANY countries.

[WiccanLady2023]

@nastyb - "kind good hearted people who sleep around too. Understand its a culture within certain places to sleep around. "

What you describe is certainly NOT culture it is little more than poor upbringing. Statistically those who sleep around, can't maintain relationships, etc. come from broken households and they think it is acceptable. If their parents had been better examples for their children - they'd not behave like they do.

[nastyb]

@WiccanLady2023

I dont like to date people who sleep around either but i dont shit on others or go on a hate tirade as if theyre terrorists or something. NYC is not a tiny city by the way, it the biggest city in the world. you won't find a city this big anywhere else. Its not only in NYC, its also in places like LA, San francisco , silicon valley, seatle, atlanta, miami, dallas. Very heavily populated places where all the young people are flocking to. Its true that tiny towns have less of a hook up culture but there are no job opportunities there so nobody is flocking there.

[nastyb]

@WiccanLady2023

[What you describe is certainly NOT culture it is little more than poor upbringing.]

Actually most people who sleep around have both mother and fathers. People here where i live are rich successful educated intelligent and come from the best universities in the world. There are also a lot of people who come to NYC from smaller towns where hookups are non existant. Then they become estatic about their new found freedom of sleeping around here.

You can't just make the assumption that all people who sleep around come from broken homes or are bad people or must be unintelligent or can't ever succeed in anything. Its just your way of expressing your hatred for them, it really doesn't mean its a fact

[nastyb]

@wiccanlady2023

I dont believe in disrespecting other people for their own sexual lifestyles. I dont discriminate on people for their sexuality. I treat gays and lesbians just as well as i treat heterosexual people. I dont believe in making fun of transgender people. Everyone has innate worth and deserve to be treated well. Unless you're a serial killer, then i wouldn't have respect for someone like that.

But just understand that sleeping around is considered "normal" in some parts of the world. Different places have their own differences in customs, traditions and cultures

[WiccanLady2023]

@nastyb - it's not disrespect kindly invest in a dictionary for your birthday so you have better than grade school understanding of the English language. It's reality, facts. Do you know what facts are?

And will you STOP being DISRESPECTFUL by referring to this CHEAPNESS as a culture. You, as an American, have NO IDEA what culture, tradition and what not is. It is OFFENSIVE to Europeans and others - Middle Easterns, Asians, Indians, etc. - to hear what is nothing except BAD BEHAVIOR being called a culture.

[nastyb]

@WiccanLady2023

What you consider "bad behavior" isn't considered bad behavior by new yorkers. What you call "cheap" isn't actually considered "cheap" by new yorkers. Its whats considered normal behavior here. Just cuz its not normal in your culture, it doesn't mean its never Normal anywhere else

Quit looking to call innocent people derogatory names and be nice.

[nastyb]

@WiccanLady2023

[You, as an American, have NO IDEA what culture, tradition and what not is. It is OFFENSIVE to Europeans and others -]

Nobody is being offensive to you. Other peoples sexual lifestyles have NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. it does not affect you in any way

Instead YOU ARE BEING OFFENSIVE to other people by making fun of them and calling them derogatory names

[nastyb]

@WiccanLady2023

In other countries, its considered normal for parents to find spouses for their grown adult kids. Its part of tradition and custom that has been done for thousands of years. But if this were done in US, it would be considered abnormal.

Yes, culture does matter

[AmeerX]

Culture matters of course but even in US it wasn't always treated okay to have extra marital sex. You want to go back to that or not, to a better of life. Being reformed? Or be always in fear of STDS?

[nastyb]

@AmeerX

why are you arguing about what people do in different cultures? what makes you the boss of every culture in the world? nobody has to ask you for your permission for what they do in their cultures.

people use condoms and birth control. thats why people in nyc sleep around so much but nobody gets pregnant.

[AmeerX]

Have fun with STDs? I am not the boss but STDs don't ask my permission when they attack. I would rather be safe then sorry.
You are not the boss of me either. I have a right to my opinion. And being pregnant is not a crime. And saying,"oh it's alright to have sex as long as you don't get pregnant" is like saying "oh it's alright to steal as long as you don't get caught".

I am not crazy. You can ask anyone in their right mind how much STDs can destroy a person's life and family. You want to keep having sex and let STDs run you down then be my guest.

I have seen a lot of people destroy themselves by this sex outside marriage that they can't control themselves. It eats up a person's wealth and blessing of God.

Even an Atheist would understand that STDs are a real risk. And people who watch porn or do porn are not healthy either. Onlyfans is also stupid as fuck. The madness that comes with it doesn't empower women, it makes them objects.

I won't let my woman become an object. A culture that objectified a woman is dead to me same as a culture that says it's okay to force woman to cover them up by force.

@nastyb don't you see you are becoming a supporter of your own exploitation by becoming a bimbo.

People accuse us Pakistani men of trying to get into a woman's pants. But men in America successfully get into a woman's pants 👖. I am at the least in control of my lust when I said no. And yes it's not to prove I am superior but thankful that I am safe and God blessed my life free of STDs. And made me focus on things in a woman besides just her booty or ass or looks and look at more than just her physical beauty to her character. Even true Christians and Jews will vouch for me that Sex outside marriage was never promoted and this Western culture and dating rule of sex is just a clever ploy to make woman fall into a stupid trap.

[WiccanLady2023]

Of course it's justified. This is what people, men and women, who sleep around FAIL to understand. You act cheap & sleezy = you will only ever attract cheap & sleezy.

And why decent, respectable people who don't sleep around look down in disgust on those who do.

Because statistically people who sleep around are untrustworthy, unreliable, immature, have bad personalities (rude, ignorant, shallow, insecure, demeaning to others, etc.) that are highly undesirable even if they didn't sleep around, and all around are the sort of people you'd not trust to mow your lawn properly so WHY would decent, respectable people who don't sleep around, have standards, etc. even pause to bother with them?

[DarkWinterNights]

People refuse to accept that patterns of behavior become habits and by definition don’t just go away when you decide to settle down.
I don’t sleep around, I don’t think it’s a very big ask to expect the same in a potential partner.

[inhua]

absolutely. it shows she doesn't care about relationships enough to want to fix them if things go wrong even on her behalf

plus all her partners to her are seen as expendable and disposable

and this is problematic given that men are still expected to be traditional, jump through hoops to risk his time, energy, resources and reputation only to get someone who was shameless enough to let somebody else use her for free

then she has the audacity to demand his money and attention yet won't do the same for those who have already used her before

[TheorionMage]

SOME consider potential pregnancy... fewer still consider the potential for casual hook-up Sexually-Transmitted Diseases / genital warts/ etc. They feel it cramps their freedom and spontaneity and ruins ' the moment' ~ Caveat Emptor :O

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's absolutely justified, and here's why. It's all about pair bonding. Women who have a promiscuous past have demonstrated either an inability to pair bond with a sexual partner, or a lack of concern about the importance of pair bonding, and in either case it's a huge red flag for a man looking to take on all the risks and costs men face in marriage today.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pair_bond

[RavVid]

I take it as trust or distrust in terms of sexual fidelity. Obviously than is distrust when a person has slept around a lot and has history of going for a dopamine hit than a strong relationship. Why would they change?

[ConnerM]

What type of distrust? I think it's unfair to judge women who sleep around but not judge men who do the same thing. There's nothing really wrong with exploring and enjoying sex, doesn't mean you're incapable of love or trust.

[inhua]

it's not men's fault women choose not to judge men for sleeping around but choose to judge them on other factors like their money and height. it's totally within their right to do so but they don't

[ConnerM]

Okay? But do you judge women and not men? This is up to the individual not groups of people

[inhua]

everybody gets judged

[ConnerM]

Then that is fair, you don't discriminate. It's just not something you're interested in doing/being around and that is your opinion

[ohsheeT]

Everyone has a story and no one should be judged just because you see something doesn't mean you see it for the truth and it's no one's business except for hers or his

[Billlewis]

I actually prefer to date/serve a woman who is sexually active, especially if she enjoys keeping me frustrated and horny, without giving me any relief.

[Stacey55666]

I've written amazing dating profiles for guys on this site, but as the saying goes, it's easier to curse the darkness, than to light a candle. I gave up on them. Some people are beyond help.

[ManOnFire]

You've written actual profiles for guys on this site? Or on dating sites?

[Stacey55666]

@ManOnFire

This site. I wrote one for a lady, and she was engaged in three months.

[ManOnFire]

Cool. Do they pay you?

[Stacey55666]

@ManOnFire

No, I did for free, but no more. I'm done.

[ManOnFire]

Wow, very interesting.

[Stacey55666]

@ManOnFire

I quit because guys wouldn't follow through and post the profiles.

[ManOnFire]

Oh. Then I guess they didn't want the date bad enough.

[Stacey55666]

@ManOnFire
They just wanted to complain about not having a date. The best post I ever read on this site was written by a shy girl. She said that she cries herself to sleep every night because she can't go out on a date. She was never kissed in her life. She wants it, but she's afraid. You just can't help people like that. If a girl or guy thinks that kissing is akin to holding a scorpion in your hand, you are beyond hope I stopped helping.

[ManOnFire]

Sad. I definitely agree.

[Stacey55666]

@ManOnFire
If you fancy yourself as a good writer, explain to these idiots that guys don't want to hold hands on the beach. They want to catch fish.

[ManOnFire]

Haha. Yeah that's true🤣

[Nikki1989]

Expect to see male comments and their double-standards.

I second what @nastyb said

[Anonymous]

if i sleep around i don't do it when i'm in a relationship, so there's no reason not to trust me

[Pacquet]

Distrust feels like a strange word to use here. Can you describe what you mean by that?


People should be able to do what they want as long as they’re not hurting anyone.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes. People who sleep around often have 2 main factors that causes them to do it.

#1: Severely struggle with sexual self control.

#2: No one can satisfy them so they will feel the need to try something new.

[EmmaMary]

I'm quite simply reiterate what @nastyb has posted.

[DextroShade]

The more sexual partners she has the less likely she is to pair-bond with a man and the more likely she is to cheat on him or leave him. The higher the body count the higher the risk.

[_SillyShoes_]

Of course. The same way in which I distrust men who like to sleep around.

[Chthou95]

Yes because pair bonding becomes an issue and usually a woman whos been fucked by many different men will have trouble keeping a stable relationship because ironically she's ends up developing trust issues as well

[genericname85]

what distrust? i don't "distrust" them. trust is not the reason i reject them as romantic partners.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but it's not as bad as G@G likes to portray it. The women on this site are generally the worst of the worst. Most women IRL do not act this way. It's the internet always remember hyperbole reigns.

[Anonymous]

yes. who knows how many diseases they have that they aren't telling anyone about.

[Alexz0]

No! Why would is sleeping around make us untrustworthy?

[Anonymous]

Yes it's justified. But it goes both ways. I think both men and women the lower the bodycount the better. (But I'm straight)

[dreamstar72]

Why is it always the women? Why not “distrust for females/males”

[Staximus]

Don't turn a ho into a housewife. It didn't work out so well for a couple of my friends.

[LiamJHayden]

Unless we are currently dating, why would I distrust her for that?

[jeffend888]

The answer for this should be close to unanimous.

[Anonymous]

I only don't trust people I've personally delt with that have proven it was misplaced. If I haven't dealt with them, then they're an unknown factor.

[Sabretooth]

Then, why would they be loyal to you? Do you want to share that rep?

[serious]

Yes of course such women cannot be trusted

[lilBigPotato]

Not more or less than a guy sleeping around

[007kingifrit]

lol you know the 14 girls who said no are hors

[OddBeMe]

Justified if she promises to be faithful.

[giveubukkake]

This question is stupid

[Ms_Facesitter]

Justified.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes.

[gothbxtch]

not justified

[jimmy2]

No way