Why do I love my girlfriend so much and I cannot resist on her desires?

[smoke]

Whenever she wants to do something, I say ok in the end, even though I don't want her or us to do it. Because I love her so much. How should I deal with this?

[DaveJord]

I mean, is there anything really wrong with that?

Yes you should set healthy and sustainable boundaries, but are going out and doing these things an dreally enjoying yourself, or are you just miserable all the time?

If you are enjoying it then there is nothing wrong with it. If you're not enjoying it them yeah, you need to stop doing that.

When I was dating my ex-wife we did all types of things and I assumed she like doing those things. Then got married, and then the truth came out... i don't baseball or going to games, I don't like bars or going to bars, I don't like hiking or swimming in the ocean...

She admitted to doing all those things while were dating, because she didn't want to disappoint me. But now that we are married, she is not going to keep doing things all the time she doesn't like for the rest of her life.

On some level I felt really betrayed. I literally said, so you faked all those things while we were dating just to get me to fall in love with you?

The woman turned out to be head case, but this was huge thing to me and basically got the marriage off on a good footing, right? :)

[passenger]

The experience of love is complex, multi-faceted, and highly individual. Loving someone can be a profoundly rewarding experience, but it can also come with its own set of challenges. Here are some insights and suggestions to help you navigate your feelings and the relationship:

Why You Might Love Her So Much:

Emotional Connection: You may share a deep emotional bond that is hard to articulate but profoundly felt.
Compatibility: Shared values, interests, and worldviews can deepen affection.
Physical Attraction: Sometimes chemistry is so strong that it intensifies feelings of love.
Support: She might provide emotional and even practical support that significantly enhances your life.

Why You Might Find it Hard to Resist Her Desires:

Emotional Investment: The more you love someone, the more you might want to fulfill their desires.
Fear of Losing Her: If you're deeply in love, the idea of losing her might make you more willing to comply with her wishes.
Pleasure in Pleasing: You might derive a significant amount of joy from making her happy.

Take some time to reflect on why you might be finding it hard to resist fulfilling her desires. Understanding your own motivations better can offer valuable insights into your relationship dynamics.
Remember, every relationship is unique. It's essential to cultivate a relationship where both of you can grow, both as individuals and as a couple.

[Midget-Kat]

From a girls perspective, just be honest with her and say when you don’t want to do those things, if you want to do them but not at that time, just say you don’t feel like doing that today/tonight but maybe another time or if it’s nothing that you really don’t want to do, then just be honest otherwise she’s going to think you’ll want to keep doing it, especially if it’s a more than one thing, hope my advice/opinion helps ☺️

[Flatmanlewis]

A man who obsess over a woman to a fault sets himself up for one of very few outcomes. First, she never really respects you and a decade from now when the novelty of her being your girl has faded and the daily grind of life is present you’ll resent that she does t appreciate you the same way. She won’t become that way - because she’s clearly not.
OR…one day you won’t be able to dote on her every whim and fancy. Maybe you’ll have work demands or educational goals or whatever and she will say ‘you’ve changed’ and you will spiral into stupid arguments which may or may not end your relationship.
Lastly, and most likely in my observations of life - a woman who can treat a man this way is a user and does not love him. She just loves how he treats her. In the end, a confident and self-assured man will come along and she will be fascinated with him because he’s not some beta male she can walk all over. She will respect him and treat (or fantasize) about treating him the way you would have wished she had treated you.
Be a man. Set healthy boundaries. Be sure you are in a relationship for yourself and what you get out of it, not just what you can give to her.

[MrOracle]

You had better figure out how to say "no" and establish some boundaries, because if you don't, she will not respect you, and without respect, she will lose her desire for you, and likely she will stay with you just long enough to completely drain you of resources before dumping you and moving in with her new boyfriend with all the stuff she got you to pay for. It's a tale as old as time.

Have you ever watched a James Bond movie with a woman, especially one that had never seen one before? Often, they aren't initially sold on the actor's looks, but as soon as he starts talking with his "take no bullshit" attitude, women immediately get turned on, especially when he shuts down a woman with zero regret. Despite their feminist indoctrination, women actually find it hot when a man takes control and isn't afraid to tell them "no" - and by the same token, they are turned off by men who won't stand up for themselves.

It may not happen today or tomorrow, but you will lose her eventually unless things change.

[aquamarine321]

First you need to get some balls and stop being yes person all the time, because this will become a habit which will spoil her and she knowing that she will get whatever she wants will use that to get what she wants either she uses it or not, say no sometimes too

[Anonymous]

Start of the relationship and madly in love? There may come time when things are not going so well, she's not being so kind, and you start to realise that what she actually needs is for you say no every now and again. That it helps her keep her balance. You may find ultimately that she respects you more as long as you're consistent. Just don't expect her to admit it in words.

[Billlewis]

A woman should always get exactly what she wants, whenever she wants it, without any hesitation or trepidation.

[Wonderingguyy]

That’s nice, but just try to remember that saying yes and agreeing to everything isn’t always going to be the best thing for her or you.

[exitseven]

It is hormones. You are thinking with the little head.

[Lonestar13]

Deal with it before it turnsto resentmenttowards her. It is ok to say no or say your not uptoit today etc.. let her love you.. let her know what you need.

[whistlingwh0res]

You are a guy who doesn’t have opportunities to meet anyone else

[Anonymous]

grow a backbone and speak up for yourself learn to say no

[KrakenAttackin]

That's called "pussy whipped".

[jimmy2]

We call the pussy whip

[Emilianorodríguez]

Because you are a beta man

[Andrea0507]

You should communicate openly

[Anonymous]

Same here bro
I can understand your feelings

[Jmmmfi4]

Grow a sac