If you’re suicidal and tell your wife she’s the only thing keeping you from doing it, is that a compelent?

[OddBeMe]

Just preparing.

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+1 y

Thanks everyone! Not planning on it, seriously. Had a great weekend actually. Sad about thst women shot. But not planning anything even three guns in reach and tons of meds.

It’s always been her keeping me stable. I’ve read Ketsmine is seeing good results. But none of you are to blame. I’m an introverted conflict-oriented person, so you’d only help.

Seriously thank you. It’s noting but internal, probable chem issues. I’ve talked about my meds here to other people with similar issues.

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+1 y

This site has always been solace. Thanks!

[EricSummer]

It's sort of a compliment but it puts too much of a burden on the wife. It is not appropriate for a wife to act as a therapist. The guy has to seek therapy first. Of course, the wife should support him and encourage him in the process.

[OddBeMe]

That is te going response here which is correct. Your last sentence is all I’m expecting.

[EricSummer]

The last sentence is conditional on the one before. You need therapy and the wife can help in parallel. It will not be enough if she supports you.
Of course, if the statement about the "only thing" was a lie you are fine. If it was the truth then your life is still in danger. If she were to leave you, you would be dead. This cannot be left untreated or left to chance.

[OddBeMe]

I guess therapy will tell

[inhua]

I thought women loved it when men opened up their feelings and emotions to them

looks like a crock of shit after all

[OddBeMe]

I guess we’ll see. Standby!

[JustinTheGreat]

This is beyond expressing feelings, this is putting a huge emotional burden on someone…

[inhua]

@JustinTheGreat how so? what if this is the truth?

[JustinTheGreat]

Cause if god forbid, his wife wasn’t happy and wanted to leave him, now she’s gonna feel obligated to stay in a marriage that she doesn’t want to be in out of fear he might hurt himself.
It’s okay to tell someone that you’re feeling suicidal but to tell themspecifically that they’re the ONLY reason you're alive, puts a lot of pressure on that person. You should never have to feel like someone’s mental health is your responsibility. Especially if it’s a worded in a way where you feel someone’s life is literally in your hands
If someone said that to me, I wouldn’t take it as a compliment, I’d be freaked the fuck out

[inhua]

@JustinTheGreat of course. no wonder why so many wives make outrageous claims they were stuck in an abusive marriage after filing for divorce, not because they were actually abused but because they had to stay loyal to a man they weren't attracted to according to their weddings vows and being stuck to someone you're not attracted to "feels" like oppression

it's only considered "pressure" when you're not attracted to your partner. when you truly love someone you don't care about pressure. you have a duty to them in a committed relationship

[ShesRad80]

can be taken in a few different ways, some may see it a pressure, some may not know how to take that statement but to me, personally- if she is the only thing keeping him from doing it, that speaks volumes about her in a positive way.

[OddBeMe]

She is special. But I just told her it’s episode of severe depression. Didn’t lie….

[ShesRad80]

congrats on your special lady! a lot of us are going though it, so you are never alone in your battle. hang in there 👍✌✌

[DubiousIntentions]

No, it just puts pressure on her to do what you want her to. Maybe some time she will call your bluff.

[OddBeMe]

I guess not having any expectations or unusual asks are good as a try to solve this.

[OddBeMe]

Just told her I had episode. Whatever that means. Lol

[DubiousIntentions]

Wait, this is not just a fictional question but something you really have? Then ignore what I said. I would say your wife is an angel.

[OddBeMe]

Oh she is

[JackCarter]

NO

It is a compliment , but doesn't do what a compliment must do

She would rather get tensed and scared

[OddBeMe]

Yes that seems to be the runner here. I’ll just say I have an issue and we’ll deal

[JackCarter]

Sounds right!

[OddBeMe]

@Jtittitj actually just said I had an episode. Still freakin out but prob not the same.

[Yannishka]

That's a loooot of pressure you'd put on your wife there. How about you go to the root of the problem and tackle that?

[OddBeMe]

I guess she’d be involved as it would be a medical issue turning myself in, which I’m willing to do.

[goaded]

I thought I was the only thing... Seriously, though, it's a lot of pressure to put her under, get some professional help.

[OddBeMe]

Def going to. Really didn’t hit until this weekend. Kinda weird. I have three gun in arms reach and am no planning on using.
On another note, may we crash on your couch? We have a 17 lbs cat who hates new people with a fiery passion….

[goaded]

Sure! I'll dig out my whip...

For the cat, not for you!

[OddBeMe]

The cat world dig it

[Wonderingguyy]

No, that just puts tons of pressure on her and will make her panic

[OddBeMe]

True. and she does have similar panic attacks which I don’t want.

[LazerBean]

She should expect that already of she's smart, since that's average for liberal men.

[OddBeMe]

Is that really a thing for liberal men?

[Sevenpointfive]

sounds like she's keeping you from your full potential. my sister does this exact thing for me

[Juxtapose]

She probably already knows and feels it's a mixed bag. A big compliment but it's a bigger responsibility.

Best of luck.

[OddBeMe]

Thanks my man

[Twalli]

Not really. It actually probably puts a good deal of pressure on her. A better thing and much more endearing is saying that you will only break up with her on February 30th.

[msc545]

Depends on your life insurance policy.

[OddBeMe]

Not as. Big as other way around.