Why do friends side with the person who did the abusing in the relationship?

[Anonymous]

Like my ex girlfriend constantly made fun of my condition, when I would get anxious about certain things she made fun of that. She made fun of my family. She was physically abusive towards me smacking me twice in the head, she was abusive towards our dog to the point where he has night terrors she also has hit him and slammed him on his crate leaving a dent in it. But all her friends see no issue with this and seen me as the problem. I never called her names I never physically struck her I was raised better. Even when she made me upset I was still there for her in need.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Her friends don't know what happened. All they know is what she told them.

2. She sounds like the girlfriend from Hell, so you need to take some responsibility for this: How did you pick such a loser for a girlfriend? Why did you stay with her, continuing to give her opportunities to abuse you and your dog?

3. In one very limited sense, having a dog is like having a child: they are helpless and it is your job to protect them. How well did you do protecting your dog?

4. My questions are NOT intended to take her off the hook for being a loser and acting horribly, but. . . there is nothing you can do about her behavior, and she is now your ex, so you don't need to worry about her any more. But you do need to worry about the possibility that you select someone else who is equally bad and repeat your mistakes, so. . . before you run out looking for the next Ms. Wonderful, spend some time thinking about how your mistakes contributed to this fiasco, and what you can do to avoid repeating those mistakes.

[inhua]

the feminist hive mind always supports one another even when one of their own is in the wrong

never forget that the feminists kept defending Amber Heard even after evidence revealed she abused Johnny Depp

[Anonymous]

There is a phychology term for this "Stockholm syndrome". This is how a human brain works sometimes.

[Danael31]

Out of topic.

[Danael31]

I lived the same thing. The others might know and kinda accept it, or they are manipulated of course

[Anonymous]

I've been there. It's no use honestly. Now I'm neither in touch with my ex nor with her friends including our mutual friends.

[boggboss]

Did they see her do this stuff?

[Asker]

No she literally has done this stuff to me in private and has this nice girl act in public

[boggboss]

So why would they side with you over her if they never know how she act

[Asker]

True but isn’t this evil

[boggboss]

She is just a shit person it's not uncommon