How far would you go to protect your significant other?

[Sweetsurprize]

[abc3643]

This is a very good question and, believe it or not, it's sort of easy to answer, but difficult to implement.

I like women who are confident and smart. They can still be vulnerable, certainly with me, but I want a partner through life - someone who will help me get through the crises of life and not someone who creates the crises.

When in love, it is instinctive to protect. Furthermore, with a relatively strong parental instinct (which led me to being a good teacher), I have a strong inclination to "look out for" those who may get into trouble because of ignorance or whatever. Indeed, it is why I am here at G@G because I don't really have any questions that need answering.

However, sometimes the best teacher is failure. You learn from failure. So, despite wanting to look out for someone, like my wife, I have to let her do her thing on her own terms and, if it so happens, learn through The School of Hard Knocks.

The balance can be difficult. You want to protect but, at the same time, you don't want to be a dictator (and sometimes you can't be). So, you just have to let go, pray that it turns out OK for her / them, and be there if they need you.

This is particularly so with my wife who, while smart, does not have very good control of her emotions and gets herself "into jackpots" (or "hot water") as we used to say meaning bad situations. I do NOT want to control her and, indeed, I can't. And, since she never listens to me anyway, all I can really do is give her a heads-up about what she might face and have a back-up plan to bail her out after she gets into hot water.

Understand?

This answer basically applies to a spouse/SO but also your kids or other family members. It's really just part of getting older and you understand this well in your 40s and beyond. You just have to accept that people are going to screw-up and just do what you can to help them if and when they need it and/or, if you don't really care for them, try to make yourself and your loved ones immune from the idiocy of those others. This is a major reason why I don't have children - I could predict over 40 years ago much of the shit that our world is in now. So, since I don't have my own kids, my job as a member of the older generation is to do what I can to teach and protect the younger generations...

[Finchie40]

If she treats me like a King she will be my Queen so I would protect her at all costs , if she treats me like a joker, Sorry it was nice knowing you

[Sweetsurprize]

❤ Aww.. but I get it, you wanna be fair.

[Finchie40]

A relationship needs to go both ways for it to work , you can’t expect someone to do for you if you are not doing for them , For love to grow both partners need to make each other their top priority or sadly to say it probably won’t last

[sheenagwapa]

i hate this topic because of bad personal life experience but judging me before i prioritize relationship and i would literally die and suffer for my ex

[Sweetsurprize]

Sorry he's your ex considering you have those types of feelings for him. I hope you can find a better man. Someone who WILL die or fight for you. Good luck.

[Pinay_ako]

I’d die or kill for them …

[Staximus]

I second this motion

[Sweetsurprize]

Wow, those loved ones of yours be very lucky!

[Pinay_ako]

They’d do the same for me too. It’s an unwritten or unspoken pact. Ride or die

[ohsheeT]

Your question says how far would you go as if there's a distance you have time

And then there's reality I don't care who it is if I see somebody being bullied if I see an elderly person being bullied if I see a woman being bullied if I see a child being bullied if I see a pet being hurt beat up I will put myself in that position I will go that distance

If it was you being bullied I would go the distance my spouse if I was married and or my children depending on the situation I'm either going to go the distance or I'm going to react in a split second

[JackCarter]

My job often involved risking myself for strangers
So I can only imagine what I'll do for her

[Skull_Anon]

That's one of the best answers I've ever read!

[Sweetsurprize]

Wow, that's an honorable and selfless thing to do. Bravo.

[JackCarter]

Oh, thank you for the compliment..

[JackCarter]

@Skull_Anon Oh thanks mate

[ChiTown33]

I don't have a SO so I can't answer that. But I would risk all for the people I love. (My family)

I don't think this can be a conscious choice. First off dying for the sake of dying is just stupid. Also I'm not going to have time to mull the ramifications of my actions. a lot of times you only have a split second to react. I just know losing one of my loved ones is unthinkable and I would do whatever necessary to prevent that.

[Yannae]

I am known among my friends and family to be a friendly, calm and reasonable person. But to protect somebody who I love, I will not hesitate to stop being civil and to go full crazy on the attacker.

[electromagnetic]

I definitely wouldn’t take a bullet intended for him BUT I might fight someone.

[Iron_Man]

I’ll put my life on the line for her

[Sweetsurprize]

Wow ❤ ... I hope by the way, who feel the same, that situation never arises, but you never know. That's crazy the people who say this, because usually people are VERY selfish, but I guess when it comes to a loved one or S. O. it's a different story!

[Iron_Man]

Well, she betrayed me tonight

[Iron_Man]

But I would still do it anyway

[Anonymous]

Protect how? Physically? I would do what’s humanly possible under the circumstances. If his life was in danger, I do carry a concealed weapon most of the time.

[Anonymous]

I find it intriguing how men will talk the talk of dying for their woman, but i don't think they would, at least the vast majority, we have as humans a survival instinct. Women are real, when asked rarely any woman says that she would die for her man and I believe they wouldn't. They would for their children tho for sure, both genders

[TipsyFr]

It’s hardwired into the male brain to take that risk for family. A good friend of mine had a house fire two years ago the guy didn’t give a second thought and went through the entire house to make sure everyone including his wife who he was divorcing was outside and safe. The whole family was outside, by the time he got out he was seriously burnt and spent quite some time in the hospital. My father risked going to jail for me and my sister, he managed to avoid it but at the time he put himself right in the middle of it not caring about his own well being. It feels right though to die for your family if need be I’d happily go out that way. Women won’t risk it for their significant other because they get the idea of being able to find someone else, they have the same instinct for their kids though.

[Opinion Owner]

If what you say is true then I would say it's hardwired to safe the women because they are valuable, they bear children and its for the good of human race to save them. Not because of feminazi conspiracy that every girl is. a. queen. and can always do better

[Sweetsurprize]

Nope. You're BOTH wrong. A loved one is a loved one irregardless of gender or age! If not for your wife or the mother of your children, your damn child wouldn't even exist!

[TipsyFr]

Yeah I think it’s a primal thing like animals will fight to the death for a female but the female would not fight for a male, she would for her children. This is just a theory though I’m no expert. I didn’t get your conspiracy theory part though.

[Sweetsurprize]

@TipsyFr Honestly what are you talking about? I've seen women fight for a man's attention. Though indirect.

[TipsyFr]

I wasn’t talking about for a man’s attention I was referring to how far would you go to protect your significant other as in from physical harm I didn’t think you meant protect your man from other women who want to steal him from you. You weren’t clear in your question to what you were referring to

[Opinion Owner]

@sweetsurprize have you seen videos where they ask people on the streets if they would die for their partners. Men say yes, women say no, usually tho some variation happens. This is not a question if you would fight for attention of your man, it's about if you would die so they can live. There is a saying women and children first, when it comes to getting to safety, that originates because women are more valuable for the human race so they got saved first. I think this is still ingrained in us because men will say they would die for their woman but not the other way around (usually).

[DaddyDiablo]

Any length of course wtf that doesn't make me look like a psycho or less attractive in her eyes or whatever lmao

[Andres77]

It gets violent very fast if necessary, depending on the threat

[KrakenAttackin]

@Andres77. Yes. A man's main duty is to protect his family. Most men say they would "die" for their SO. In my mind the real test is would you KILL for your SO.

[Andres77]

@KrakenAttackin
Like Patton said “your duty is not to die for your country, your duty is to make the other poor dumb bastard die for his country”

[KrakenAttackin]

@Andres77. Absolutely correct.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@KrakenAttackin Interesting take on it. I'd kill for a lot more things than I'd die for. Can only do the latter once...

[KrakenAttackin]

@BoopBoopBeep Agreed, but it's a different mindset. If you knew there to be a threat but it wasn't imminent, taking steps to neutralize that threat (sans law enforcement) is warranted.

[Sparkie460]

I'd put my life on the line for my friends and family.

[shortster]

The better question is how far would I not go. As it is a shorter list.

[Anonymous]

I defend her when I need to not like she gives a damn though never once thanked me or anything

[KrakenAttackin]

Anon... I hear ya buddy, and I have been there. Most women are not at all grateful for all the sacrifices men make including the ultimate sacrifice.

[Andres77]

m.youtube.com/watch

[msc545]

As far as I needed to to ensure her safety.

[sheikalana]

I'd do anything to protect my husband.

[artgorgeous]

How far? Until I can go.

[Nikki1989]

I would die for him.

[elizamichale1]

As far as it is needed

[Likes2drive]

Risk my life for them

[Twalli]

I would lay down my life for her

[imfreeze95]

I would kill and be killed to protect them

[BLP11520]

Well I have enough guns and can still fight

[exitseven]

Fight to the death

[Charliefretz329]

Death