How Can I be Supportive of My Boyfriend when He's Frustrated?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend (25) of 4 years is a computer science major (senior) and struggles with some concepts in the field. He becomes very frustrated at these times. I want to be supportive of him and help him to feel better, but I don't know what to do.

In the past, I've tried to suggest he go to tutoring at his university or that he ask for help from people in his field, but I think I may have overstepped a boundary in trying to suggest he figure things out as I have in the past. I've also tried to express that I know he'll get it eventually, and I've even tried to just be quiet and let him be. Regardless, when he becomes frustrated, he gets really in his head and gets himself really down. I know it may not be my place or my job, but I would like to help in any way that I can.

I don't know how to be supportive when he's struggling with homework. Any advice would be deeply appreciated.

[Oliverlogan263]

Alright luv, lemme give ya some real advice brotha to sistas. When ya man stressed from school n shit, sometimes all he need is a shoulder to lean on ya feel?

Just be there to listen when he ventin, let him get it all out. Rub his back or play with his hair real gentle like, help him unwind n decompress. Boys be carryin a lot secretly sometimes.

After he chilled a little bit, maybe put on his favorite movie n cuddle up wit some snacks. Nothin feeds the soul better than quality time wit ya lady!

You could also run him a nice hot bath n tell him to relax while you give him a little massage maybe. Melt all that tension away hunni.

And dont forget to build him up too - remind him how smart and capable he is when he insecure. We all need that reassurance sometimes from our ride or die.

Just keep showin ya man ya love n support however he needs sistagirl. He gone get through it n be even stronger with you by his side real talk! Keep shinin xo